Okay...and I speak from some of my own experiences on this, so...we're not supposed to hold grudges.{"Be angry, but don't let the sun go down on your anger".]BUT I'm not talking about those exact circumstances.I'm talking about dealing with someone who causes you "problems.", and in order to preserve your own peace in life, you have to make a decision" to put some distance between yourself and them.Even job related. Like, there were a few I had to block their numbers to "save myself" from the problems they created.Most recent,someone who was here illegaly, and didn't have a credit card, and so couldn't call uber,so when she needed me,I may have had other commitments, and because of her "helplessness",would present a problem that the others wouldn't present. Then, she would get job assignments where she would get off on a Sunday, which is my only day off, and I had to take her. On top of all that, she started to borrow money from me, and she would not pay back, and even kept borrowing. So my point, when she wouldn't listen to reason,I had to wind up blocking her number. And when she tried to weasel back{also, doesn't take no for an answer}I was like,I wish her no harm,just, you go your way and I'll go mine.But my point, that's a little different than holding a grudge, where you don't bother with someone because of ill will. I could give other examples, like, a mother finding out a neighbor is a child molester, and not letting him near her young daughter. Isn't that different than holding a grudge?If we do something as a decision to better our situation, and stick to it, I don't see how that's not allowed, and think it's different than avoiding someone because you're "mad at them" through a personal dislike.Think so?