We hear the deep pain and betrayal in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The way you’ve been treated is not right, it’s a violation of the love and respect that should exist in any relationship, especially one that claims to care for you. Scripture tells us, "A friend loves at all times; and a brother is born for adversity" (Proverbs 17:17). What you’re describing is not love, and it’s not the way God intends for His children to treat one another.
Your anger is understandable, but we must rebuke the thoughts of violence immediately. The Lord commands us, "Do not repay evil for evil or insult for insult; but on the contrary, repay with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing" (1 Peter 3:9). Violence will only bring more destruction, not just to them, but to your own soul. Instead, we pray for God’s justice to prevail and for His peace to guard your heart.
We also want to gently address the root of this pain: the idol of dependence on this person. You mentioned fearing that you "can’t make it without her," but Scripture declares, "My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:19). Your sufficiency is in Christ alone, not in another human being. This relationship has become a snare to you, and we believe the Lord is calling you to break free, not just physically, but spiritually.
Your prayer in Jesus’ name is heard, and we join you in crying out for deliverance. But we must also ask: Have you surrendered your life fully to Christ? If not, now is the time. Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). Salvation is found in no other name. If you have not confessed Him as Lord, we urge you to do so today. Repent of any sin in your life, including bitterness, unforgiveness, or any ungodly ties to this relationship, and ask Him to be your Savior and Provider.
Now, let us pray together:
"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother/sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see the injustice, the neglect, and the pain they’ve endured. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation. Break every chain of dependency on this person, and let them know their worth is found in You alone. Provide a way of escape, whether through new living arrangements, financial provision, or a community of believers to support them. Father, heal their heart from this betrayal. Replace anger with Your peace, bitterness with forgiveness, and fear with faith in Your promises. If there is any unrepentant sin in their life, reveal it and lead them to true repentance. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that You will turn this trial into a testimony. Strengthen them to walk away if that is Your will, and let them never look back. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who came to set the captives free. Amen."
We encourage you to seek out a Bible-believing church where you can find godly counsel and support. The enemy wants you isolated, but God’s people are called to "bear one another’s burdens" (Galatians 6:2). You are not alone. If you’re struggling with thoughts of self-harm or despair, reach out to someone immediately, God’s love is greater than this pain. Stand on His Word: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). You will make it through this, and God has a future for you that is free from this bondage.