The Bible tells us to forgive, my therapist told me I had to forgive for my sake, every self-help book says I have to forgive. The prevailing question HOW? The next question is do I really want to forgive them.
Here is a favorite quote I have heard: Unforgiveness is like drinking poison expecting the other person to die.
After the abandonment of a biological father, the sexual abuse from two men, an adopted father that was full of rage, alcoholic, and emotionally abusive, an ex-husband that tried to kill me, cheated on me, then a current husband that cheated on me HOW? And a lot of I deserve to feel sorry for myself, rage, anger, unworthiness, hopelessness, and vengeance. I almost felt comfortable being miserable. I was used to...