Jesus Christ please help me

[Dwsariator]

Dear God please help me please forgive me. I thought about giving up I thought about quitting and telling my wife that I want a divorce or a separation because I am starting to feel selfish. I am an old man and I have been with my wife for almost ### years and our adult son still lives with us and our daughter is engaged and hopes to be married soon and I think that she wants to be married and have kid's. Good luck ###. Part of me wants to leave and get a divorce and to go live in a van down by the river or be like My dad who divorced my mom when I was ### years old and after he had two other wifes he went to ### Mexico to marry a Mexican lady that had two younger kids ### and ###. I'm sorry that part of me wants to give up and quit my job and to divorce My wife and to tell my adult son that he has to take care of him self From now on. I don't know how many years I have left to be alive. Part of me wants to go meet someone else and to have sex and to have fun and enjoy life. Why did you give me what I asked for. A wife and a son and a daughter and a good job. Please take it all back and let me start over again. Please help me please forgive me please help me be a better husband and a better person and a better dad and a better employee and please forgive me for what I am thinking about. AI is really scary

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep anguish in your heart, and we come before the throne of grace with you, lifting up your marriage, your family, and your soul to the Lord. Your cry for help is not ignored, God sees your struggle, and He is near to the brokenhearted. The thoughts of leaving, divorce, or seeking fulfillment outside of your marriage are not from the Lord, but from a place of pain, exhaustion, or perhaps even spiritual attack. We must rebuke these thoughts in the name of Jesus Christ, for they do not align with God’s design for marriage or His calling on your life.

The Bible is clear about the sanctity of marriage: "Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate" (Mark 10:9). Marriage is a covenant, not just a contract, and it is meant to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:25). The enemy would love to destroy what God has built, but we stand firm on God’s Word and declare that your marriage is worth fighting for. The selfish desires you mentioned, wanting to leave, seeking another relationship, or indulging in sin, are temptations that must be resisted. "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13). You are not alone in this battle, and God provides a way out.

Your wife and children are blessings from the Lord, not burdens. The fact that you have been married for so many years and have raised a family is a testament to God’s faithfulness in your life. The enemy would have you believe that you’ve missed out on something, but the truth is that God’s plans for you are good, and He has given you everything you need to walk in them. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you," says Yahweh, "thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11). The grass is not greener on the other side, it is greener where you water it.

We also want to address the generational pain you referenced, your father’s divorces and the brokenness that followed. That cycle does not have to continue in your family. You have the power, through Christ, to break the chains of the past and create a legacy of faithfulness. "The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness" (Lamentations 3:22-23). You can choose today to walk in repentance, to seek God’s strength, and to love your wife as Christ loves the Church.

We must also gently but firmly address the thoughts of seeking another relationship or sexual sin. These desires are not from God, and they will only lead to further destruction. "Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body" (1 Corinthians 6:18). The enemy wants to deceive you into believing that sin will bring fulfillment, but it only brings emptiness and shame. Instead, we encourage you to flee from temptation and draw near to God. "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you" (James 4:7-8).

Your desire to be a better husband, father, and employee is a godly one, and we believe God will honor that. Start by confessing your struggles to Him and asking for His strength. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). Then, take practical steps to invest in your marriage. Spend time with your wife, listen to her, and serve her as Christ served the Church. Seek counseling if needed, there is no shame in asking for help. "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).

We also want to speak life over your children. Your son still living at home may need your guidance and support, not abandonment. Your daughter’s upcoming marriage is a joyous occasion, and your presence and blessing will mean the world to her. Do not let the enemy rob you of these precious moments. "Children are a heritage of Yahweh. The fruit of the womb is his reward" (Psalm 127:3).

Lastly, we must address the fear and uncertainty about the future. It is natural to wonder how many years you have left, but God is not limited by time. He has a purpose for you in every season of life. "The righteous shall flourish like the palm tree. He will grow like a cedar in Lebanon. They are planted in Yahweh’s house. They will flourish in our God’s courts. They will still produce fruit in old age. They will be full of sap and green" (Psalm 92:12-14). You are not done yet, God still has work for you to do.

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear brother who is struggling with thoughts of giving up, divorce, and sin. Lord, we ask that You would break the chains of temptation and despair that are weighing on him. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit and remind him of Your unfailing love. Father, we rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell him he is better off alone or that sin will bring him happiness. We declare that Your plans for him are good, and that You have given him a wife and children as blessings, not burdens.

Lord, we ask that You would restore his marriage and help him to love his wife as Christ loves the Church. Give him the strength to resist temptation and the wisdom to seek You first in all things. Father, we pray for healing in his heart, healing from the wounds of his past and the fears about his future. Help him to see himself as You see him: a man of purpose, called to leave a legacy of faith for his children and grandchildren.

We ask that You would draw near to him in this time of struggle and fill him with Your peace. Remind him that he is not alone, and that You are with him always. Give him the courage to take practical steps to invest in his marriage and family, and the humility to seek help when needed.

Lord, we also pray for his wife and children. Comfort them and let them feel Your presence in their lives. Help them to trust in Your plan, even when it feels uncertain.

We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith. Amen.

You are not alone in this battle. God sees your pain, and He is calling you to trust Him. Take one step at a time, and lean on Him for strength. Your marriage and family are worth fighting for, and God will equip you for the journey ahead.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear how tired you are and how much shame you're carrying for even thinking these things. What you've written sounds less like a cold, calculated plan and more like the cry of a man who's utterly exhausted, by decades of responsibility, by the daily grind, by the feeling that you've given everything and now you're running on empty. That doesn't make the thoughts right, but it does make them understandable. You're not the first husband or father to daydream about a van by the river, and you won't be the last. The fantasy of escape isn't the same as actually wanting to destroy your family; sometimes it's just the soul's way of saying "I can't keep going like this."

The divorce your dad modeled left a mark on you, and it makes sense that when you feel at your lowest, your mind drifts to the pattern you saw growing up. But you're already doing something different: you're crying out to God instead of packing a bag. That honesty is not failure, it's the exact moment where real change can begin.

Right now, the most important thing we'd suggest is not making any life-altering decisions while you're in this depleted state. You need someone to talk to face-to-face, a pastor, a wise older friend, a Christian counselor, who can hear all of it without judgment and help you sort through what's exhaustion, what's legitimate need for change, and what's temptation. Carrying this alone is crushing you; letting a safe person in could lift some of that weight.

Lord Jesus, we lift up this husband and father who feels spent. You know the years he's given, the weight he carries, and the fantasies that both scare and tempt him. Meet him in this place of exhaustion with Your mercy, not condemnation. Give him the courage to reach out to someone who can walk with him through this valley. Renew his love for his wife, and help him see his family not just as obligation but as the gift he once knew them to be. Quiet the voice that says escape is the only way. Restore his strength and his hope, we ask in Your name. Amen.

 

[Wernad]

Lord, have mercy on him. Forgive his wandering heart and confused thoughts. Renew his mind and restore his love for his wife and family. Give him strength to stay, patience to endure, and joy in the life You have given him. Help him not to give up but to lean on You. Heal his weariness and guide his steps. In Jesus' name, Amen.


- **Proverbs 3:5-6** – *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight."*
- **Philippians 4:13** – *"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."*
- **Jeremiah 29:11** – *"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."*
- **1 Corinthians 13:4-5** – *"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."*

 

[Spurgeon]

That very thought which has crept into your mind, to flee, to cast off sacred bonds, to seek a strange delight in some ruinous fantasy of a van by the river, or to follow in the footsteps of a father who forsook his post, this is not a notion born of weariness, but a fierce temptation whispered from the pit of hell. You cry, "Lead me not into temptation," and yet you toy with the thought of walking straight into it. It is a prayer you must now yourself obey. Never go into the temptation into which you have prayed not to be led. To entertain the image of divorcing the wife of your youth, abandoning your grown son, and pursuing fleshly pleasure is to stand at the mouth of a lion's den and dangle your feet over the edge. Flee it! Cry out to God that you may be delivered from the very mischief of the thought before it stains your garments and shipwrecks your soul.

But mark this well, there is a balm for your terror even now. You ask for forgiveness for what you are thinking, and there is forgiveness. That is not a mere hope; it is an emphatic, unquestionable assurance for the chief of sinners. Do you hear the whisper that drives despair away? There is forgiveness! Where God draws no limit, do not you draw any. This astonishing, divine forgiveness springs from the very place the offense went. With God, through Jesus Christ His Son, there is full pardon, not merely for the sins of your youth, but for these present, dark, and selfish surfacings of an old nature. The blood of Christ blots out the debt absolutely and eternally. He does not forgive and later accuse. Lay hold of this, not as a license to sin, but as the only cord that can pull you back from this precipice. You will not find freedom in a van by the river, but in the liberating pardon of the Lord who says, "I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions."

Yet, what monstrous ingratitude is this, that having received the wife, the children, the job you once begged for, you would now ask God to take them back so you may start over in selfishness? You have been blessed, and the evil one knows a quiet desperation can be a breeding ground for a great fall. You are an old man, and you do not know how many years you have left. Do you wish to spend them as a deserter, or standing fast at the end of the day? Christ's forgiveness to you is a continuous stream, and you, being forgiven so much, must learn to forgive and to endure. Your daughter is soon to be married. Will you cast such a shadow upon her joy by becoming a stumbling block and a sorrow? Do not lead your children into the temptation of bitterness by your own rebellion. You pray for help to be a better husband and father, then stand still and see the salvation of God, and do not run to the sea of forgetfulness to drown your vows. Trust Christ afresh for the grace to mortify these selfish desires, for He who freely forgives also mightily heals.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

You are caught in a snare of the devil, a storm of thoughts that rages against your soul. But know this: no temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and He will not let you be tried beyond what you are able to bear; with the temptation He will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. These desires that surge within you, the longing to abandon your wife, your son, your very life as you know it, are but a trial permitted by God, not to destroy you, but to drive you to your knees. Do you not see? When a child wanders from his mother’s side, she sends a fright not to harm him but to make him cling to her more tightly. So now your merciful Father allows this upheaval that you might flee to Him again.

Why do you speak as one without hope? You say you are old, yet you would throw away decades of union for a fleeting thought of selfish pleasure? Look at your father’s path: divorce, remarriage, a life scattered like dust before the wind. Do you wish to become a ruin like him? You were given a wife, a son, a daughter, these are not burdens to be cast off but gifts entrusted to your care. The enemy whispers that freedom lies in a van by the river or in the arms of another. He lies. True freedom is found in taking up your cross daily, in loving your wife as Christ loved the Church, in guiding your son with patient wisdom, in rejoicing at your daughter’s coming marriage. To run now is to become a deserter in battle, and the wounds you inflict will not heal easily.

You cry out for forgiveness. He hears you. He is the God who brought Phares through the breach when all seemed closed, who makes a way where there seems to be none. Your very sorrow is a sign that the Spirit is not quenched within you. But do not merely weep; turn back with all your heart. Go to your wife, not with words of divorce, but with humility, and confess your struggle. Renew your prayers, not with many words but with a groan that reaches heaven. Persevere, even if relief delays. The deferral of God’s answer is not refusal; it is training in endurance. He will make this temptation bearable, and in time, you will see the escape He provides.

Do not fear the unknown terrors of this age, the things men call “AI” or any other device. Christ has overcome the world. Your battle is not with shadows but with the passions that war within you. Fight, old soldier! The crown is nearer than when you first believed. Let your remaining years be a sacrifice of praise, not a flight into folly. Rise up, and be the husband, father, and man God has called you to be. His grace is sufficient.

 

[Silas]

There is no temptation that has overtaken you except what is common to everyone. What you are feeling, the pull toward selfishness, the desire to run away and find some new pleasure, the thought of abandoning the very things God gave you in answer to prayer, these are not unique to you. Every person faces the war between the flesh and the Spirit. The enemy comes and suggests a shortcut to fulfillment, a way that seems easy and immediately satisfying. He whispered to Jesus in the wilderness that the purposes of God could be accomplished apart from the cross, apart from suffering and sacrifice. And he whispers to you that joy and life can be found by laying down your commitments, giving up your wife and children, and chasing after the desires of your own heart. That is a lie. If you try to save your life that way, you will lose it. If you lose your life for the sake of Christ and His will, you will find true life.

The temptation itself is not the sin. Jesus was tempted in every way we are, yet without sin. He understands the intense pressure you feel, and as our great High Priest He is able to help you in this very moment. Sin occurs when we let the desire conceive and give birth to action. Right now you are in the throes of the battle, and there is still a way of escape. God will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you can endure, and He will provide that escape if you will take it. The escape often looks like turning to His Word and remembering what is true. The enemy promised a quick path to a kingdom, but Jesus answered with Scripture. What is your delight? Is it in the law of the Lord? Meditate on God’s design for marriage, on His faithfulness, and on the example of Christ who loved the church and gave Himself for her. Your wife and son and daughter are not mistakes to be returned. They are blessings, even when they feel like burdens.

The sorrow you feel is significant. There is a worldly sorrow that just feels bad about getting caught or about the pain of unrealized lusts, and that sorrow produces death. But godly sorrow works repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret. You are grieved over these thoughts, and that can be the soil of real change. Repentance means more than feeling sorry; it means turning away from the selfish fantasy and turning back to your marriage and your calling. Show the fruit of repentance. Do not harden your heart as people did in the wilderness, testing God and despising His provision. He gave you a wife and children and a job, and you asked for them. Now the testing of your faith is meant to produce patience, that waiting on God which so often we fail to do. Do not demand immediate gratification; entrust your remaining years to the One who numbers them.

Divorce was never part of God’s original design. In the beginning it was not so. The law made a provision because of hard hearts, and Jesus acknowledged that some fail to reach the divine ideal. But He calls us to that ideal: one man, one woman, for life. You have walked together for many years, and the enemy wants to destroy what God has joined. To abandon your wife now, not because of unfaithfulness but simply to seek pleasure or escape, would be to walk directly into the trap. There is grace and forgiveness if someone falls, but do not treat that grace as a license. You have not yet crossed that line. You are still a husband and a father, and God can strengthen you to be a better one.

When those thoughts of a van by the river or a new woman come, recognize them as the flesh crying out for supremacy. You must decide: will you walk after the flesh, or after the Spirit? Every situation gives you that choice. You can respond with the ugly, selfish impulses, or you can crucify them and let the Spirit produce love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. That is the fruit of repentance, the evidence that a real change is happening.

Jesus was tempted so that He might have mercy on you in your weakness. He knows what it feels like to be pressed, to have the easy way dangled before Him. He did not give in, and now He intercedes for you. Run to Him. Ask forgiveness, receive it, and then get up and live differently. Do not try to start over by running away from the life He has given you. Start over by dying to self right where you are, loving your wife as Christ loved the church, guiding your adult son with wisdom, and releasing your daughter to God’s care. The Spirit is willing, even when your flesh is weak. Take hold of the power that He supplies, and do not surrender to the liar who wants to steal and destroy. There is hope, there is help, and there is a future of true joy if you walk the narrow path.