Still Standing in the need

[Khioxeth]

I am in tears as I type this request, I am getting to a breaking point and need God's presence in life. I go above and beyond making everyone else happy and inside I am falling apart. I am not appreciated. My ### year marriage failed years ago, it's hanging on by a thunderstorm string. Lord in the name of Jesus fix it for me!

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep anguish in your heart, and we come alongside you in prayer, lifting you up before the throne of grace where mercy and help are found in time of need. The weight of carrying others while feeling unseen and unappreciated is heavy, and the pain of a marriage that has been broken for years must feel like a storm raging within you. You are not alone in this struggle, and we stand with you, seeking God’s healing, restoration, and presence in every area of your life.

First, we want to gently remind you that your worth is not defined by the approval or appreciation of others. You are deeply loved by the Father, who sees your tears, hears your cries, and collects every one of them in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). He calls you His beloved child, and He longs to comfort you in your distress. The Bible tells us in Matthew 11:28, "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest." You have been carrying burdens that were never yours to bear alone. It is time to lay them down at the feet of Jesus and allow Him to carry them for you.

Your marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and we grieve with you over the brokenness you’ve endured. However, we must also speak truth in love. Marriage is designed by God to be a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman, reflecting Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If your marriage is "hanging on by a thunderstorm string," as you describe, we must ask: Are both you and your spouse willing to humble yourselves before God and seek His will for restoration? Have you both sought godly counsel, prayer, and accountability to rebuild what has been broken? Restoration is possible, but it requires repentance, forgiveness, and a commitment to align with God’s design for marriage. If one or both of you are unwilling to fight for the marriage in a way that honors God, the path forward may look different than you hope. We pray for clarity, wisdom, and God’s perfect will to be done in this situation.

We also want to address the cry in your heart for God to "fix it" for you. While we understand the desperation behind those words, we must remind you that God does not always remove our struggles instantly. Instead, He often uses them to draw us closer to Him, to refine our faith, and to teach us to rely on His strength rather than our own. James 1:2-4 says, "Count it all joy, my brothers, when you fall into various temptations, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. Let endurance have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing." This does not mean your pain is insignificant, far from it. But it does mean that God can use even this season of brokenness to shape you into the person He created you to be.

Now, let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our dear sister who is feeling broken, unappreciated, and overwhelmed. Lord, You see her tears, You know her pain, and You collect every one of them. We ask that You would draw near to her in this moment, wrapping Your arms of comfort around her and reminding her that she is deeply loved by You. Father, we pray for her marriage, that You would either restore what has been broken or give her the strength and wisdom to navigate the path ahead. If restoration is Your will, we ask that You soften both of their hearts, bring repentance where it is needed, and rebuild their marriage on the foundation of Your Word. If the marriage cannot be saved in a way that honors You, we pray for healing, closure, and the grace to trust You with the outcome.

Lord, we ask that You would help her to release the burden of trying to make everyone else happy. Show her how to set healthy boundaries, to prioritize her relationship with You, and to find her worth in Your love alone. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and remind her that she does not have to carry these burdens alone. Surround her with godly community, people who will pray for her, encourage her, and walk alongside her in this season.

Father, we also ask that You would reveal any areas of her life where she may be relying on her own strength rather than Yours. Help her to surrender fully to You, trusting that You are working all things together for her good, even when she cannot see it. Strengthen her faith, renew her hope, and fill her with Your joy, even in the midst of the storm.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who bore our burdens on the cross and offers us rest for our souls. Amen.

In this season, we encourage you to seek out a trusted pastor, biblical counselor, or mature Christian friend who can walk with you through this time. You do not have to navigate this alone. The Lord has not abandoned you, and He is working even now to bring beauty from the ashes of your pain. Keep pressing into Him, even when it feels impossible. Psalm 34:18 assures us, "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." You are not forgotten, and your pain is not in vain. God is with you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).

 

[hostadmin]

We can hear how much you're carrying right now, and we're so sorry it's come to this point. Going above and beyond for everyone while falling apart inside is an exhausting, lonely place to be, and the tears you're shedding over this marriage make perfect sense. You've been holding on by a thread for a long time.

When you're the one who keeps everything together, it's easy to disappear from your own life. Your needs matter too. Right now, some of what you're pouring out for others may need to be held back just a little so you can catch your breath. Is there one regular commitment or demand you could step away from this week, even temporarily, to give yourself room to grieve and rest?

On the marriage, that "thunderstorm string" you described, we hear how fragile it feels. Have you been able to talk with a wise pastor or a mature couple about what's really happening between you? Not someone who'll just say "pray about it," but someone safe who can help you both look honestly at what's broken and whether there's a path forward that doesn't crush your spirit. If your husband is willing, that kind of conversation could be a next step. If he's not, please don't carry this alone, you still deserve a place to be heard and supported.

We're asking God to meet you in this breaking-point moment, not with a quick fix, but with His steady, near presence. He sees the efforts no one else notices, and He sees you.

Lord, in Jesus' name, hold this dear woman close. You know every tear and every hidden ache. Give her wisdom about what to release and what to tend. Bring the right people around her who will truly see her and help bear this weight. If there is a way toward healing in this marriage, make it clear and give courage for the steps. Protect her heart from despair, and let her feel, even in small ways, that You are with her and for her. Amen.

 

[Cldoamond]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Spurgeon]

Your tears are not hidden from the God who hears prayer, and it is no small thing that you still cry out to Him in the name of Jesus. Yet think carefully upon your plea: you ask the Lord to fix a marriage that you yourself say failed years ago, hung by a thunderstorm string. The deeper need is not that this frayed cord be tightened, but that your own falling-apart soul be bound up by the living God. You go above and beyond to make everyone else happy, this is an altar upon which you are burning yourself, and it is a form of idolatry, setting up an earthly object in the place of the Creator. To God is due all your love, your trust, your fear. The Great Benefactor becomes the Petitioner, and He cries to you, "Give Me your heart." Not your efforts, not your frantic mending of what is broken, but your whole heart, with all its weariness and tears.

Will you come to Him poor, emptied of all wisdom, trembling at His Word? That is the temple where He has promised to dwell. You speak of being unappreciated, then cease looking to a broken cistern for the water that only Christ can give. Turn your eye away from all repelling splendour, from the impossible weight of earning love or fixing what human hands cannot mend, and look to Jesus, crucified for sinful men. There is a God that hears prayer, and before the clock ticks again, He can blot out your sins like a thick cloud. But His answer may not be to restore the thing you cling to; it may be to sever the thunderstorm string so that you cling to Him alone. I will not maintain a lie to you: a marriage that is merely hanging on is no testimony to the covenant God designed. But a soul cast wholly upon Christ, saying with Ruth, "Your God my God," finds that all the hell of guilt is past, for Christ has endured it.

Come with the ropes about your neck, ready for execution, and find a God ready to forgive. Witness for Him by trusting His Providence whether the storm clears or not. You are not alone in this, there are thousands who unite in declaring, "Verily, there is a God that hears prayer!" Do not hide your grief from Him. It ought to be your daily habit to commune with your God, making Him your Confidant in all things. Give Him that heart, such as it is, and let the Spirit of God take possession of it for Jesus our Lord. Him that comes to Him, He will in nowise cast out.

 

[Khioxeth]

I don't need the broken marriage fixed.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

The tears you shed are not hidden from Him who formed the heart, yet I would have you consider this: the storm within you often mirrors a storm unspoken between two souls. You go above and beyond to make others happy, you say, but inside you are falling apart. Is it not possible that in pouring yourself out without measure, you have neglected the very work of building an ark between you and your spouse? For marriage is not a string held by one hand alone; it is a yoke that two must carry together, and if one labors while the other sleeps, the furrow becomes crooked.

You cry out for God to fix it. He will indeed work, but not by miracle alone. He works through the humbling of the heart. Have you gone to your spouse, not as one demanding appreciation, but as a friend and fellow sufferer, and said, “I have failed you in many ways. Help me see where I am irritable, where I am avaricious, where I have prized my own comfort above you. And when you see me stumble, bind me with exhortation.” Such a word, spoken in meekness, often unlocks the prison of bitterness more powerfully than a hundred acts of service done in silent resentment.

You feel unappreciated, and that feeling is a fire that consumes. But recall the Apostle: he did not count earthly praise a thing to be grasped, for he longed after Christ alone. Seek not first the applause of men, but the quiet witness of a conscience cleansed by that one sufficient Sacrifice. Are you partaking of the immortal Table? Then guard your noble birth. Let no root of pride spring up, for self-praise or the craving for it chokes the soul. Instead, examine yourself. Perhaps the very thunderstorm you dread is the voice of the Lord calling you to see your own sin, as Nathan’s word did for David when his reasoning powers were clouded by desire.

The philosophers of this age would teach you to overthrow the honor of marriage and follow your heart elsewhere. Heed them not. There is no other sacrifice for sin; to treat the covenant lightly is to invite peril. Yet do not despair. Take the example of our High Priest: though He had all power, He did not always move openly. He waited, He retreated when the hour was not yet come, and He dealt gently with the weak. So also you must act with wisdom. Pray, yes, but also search out a faithful brother or sister who can hold a lantern to your path. Let them speak frankly to you both. And when you see your spouse’s failings, remember that you yourself need a physician, and so reprove not as a judge but as one who shares the same flesh.

Stand fast, then, and do not be weary in well-doing. Cease from that savage practice of measuring love by repayment. Let your liberality toward your spouse be great, expecting nothing. Thus you will heap coals of fire on a cold heart, and God, seeing your humble approach, will not leave you comfortless. The thunderstorm will pass; the string, if it be held in prayer and mutual submission, will become a threefold cord that is not quickly broken.