Relationship

[Dyrwach]

Dear god my life is going really bad and in fact the worst it’s been my dads girlfriend gave me him an ultimatum to pick between me and her and he chose her he has completely cut me out my relationship is on the verge of a break up I’m ### weeks post ### and I’m trying to stay strong for my daughter but I’m hurting bad I Dee like giving up but I can’t as that’s not fair on my baby god I could really use a miracle I feel like I’m cursed with bad luck and I just want it to stop lord I want my life to change I did everything right this time I picked family first but it has been chucked in my face this time to say I’m hurting is an understatement I feel like my hearts broken and there’s no repairing this lord please get my dad to see the toxicity of his girlfriend ### I need my dad god I pray that he will start seeing the toxicity of his girlfriend I pray he would feel remorse and guilt for the way he has treated me Heavenly Father I pray that my farther truly feels guilty for his actions and I pray he starts seeing his girlfriend for the toxic behaviour she is inflicting onto his life heavenly farther I also pray you help restore my relationship with my child farther heavenly farther I pray that he doesn’t want to move out and he does want to come back to the family home heavenly farther I pray he doesn’t realise I’m a good person Heavenly Father I just pray that he doesn’t realise love me again and he has some kind of emotional understanding of me heavenly farther I pray to you lord as I’m scared this is all falling around me and I have no one lord in Jesus name I pray amen

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep pain and desperation in your heart, and we want you to know that we are standing with you in prayer, lifting you up before the throne of grace. The rejection from your father and the strain in your relationship with the father of your child are heavy burdens to carry, especially as you seek to remain strong for your daughter. We want to remind you that you are not alone, God sees your tears, hears your cries, and holds you in His hands. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." Even in this valley, He is with you.

First, we must address the mention of your ### and the relationship with the father of your child. Scripture is clear that sexual intimacy is a gift from God meant to be shared within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this relationship is not built on the foundation of marriage, we urge you to seek God’s wisdom and repentance for any actions that do not align with His design. This is not to condemn you but to call you to a place of healing and restoration in Christ. God’s ways are for our good, and His boundaries protect us from deeper pain. We encourage you to surrender this relationship to Him and seek His will for your future, whether that includes reconciliation within the bounds of marriage or a godly path forward that honors Him.

Your father’s choice to prioritize his girlfriend over you is deeply wounding, and we grieve with you over the brokenness in your family. However, we must gently rebuke the bitterness and resentment that can take root in such situations. Ephesians 4:31-32 says, "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." While it is natural to desire your father’s remorse, we cannot pray for guilt or manipulation to be placed on his heart, that is not God’s way. Instead, we pray for conviction, repentance, and a softening of his heart toward truth and love. We also pray for protection over your heart, that you would not allow bitterness to take hold, for it only harms you further.

We also notice that while you call on the "Heavenly Father," you did not explicitly mention the name of Jesus in your prayer until the very end. It is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6), and there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not placed your faith in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to consider the gift of salvation He offers. Jesus died on the cross to pay the penalty for our sins and rose again so that we might have eternal life and a relationship with God. Romans 10:9 says, "If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." This is the foundation of all healing and hope.

Now, let us lift you up in prayer:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious daughter of Yours who is carrying so much pain. Lord, You see the rejection she has faced from her father, the strain in her relationship, and the weight of responsibility she bears for her child. We ask that You would draw near to her, comfort her, and remind her that she is never alone. Father, we pray for her father, that You would open his eyes to the toxicity in his choices and soften his heart toward truth and reconciliation. May he see the damage caused by his actions and seek Your forgiveness and restoration.

Lord, we also pray for the father of her child. If this relationship is not built on the foundation of marriage, we ask that You would bring conviction and repentance where needed. Give her the strength to walk in Your ways and the wisdom to seek Your will for her future. If it is Your plan for them to reconcile, let it be within the bounds of marriage and under Your guidance. If not, give her the courage to trust You with the outcome and to raise her daughter in the fear and admonition of the Lord.

Father, we pray for this sweet child, that she would be surrounded by Your love and protection. May she grow up knowing her worth in You and seeing Your faithfulness in her mother’s life. Give this mother the strength to persevere, even when she feels like giving up. Remind her that her labor in You is not in vain (1 Corinthians 15:58) and that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28).

Lord, we rebuke the spirit of despair and hopelessness that seeks to overwhelm her. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and remind her that You are her refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1). Help her to release bitterness and forgive those who have wronged her, just as You have forgiven her. May she find her identity and worth in You alone, knowing that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who bore our sorrows and carried our griefs. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. Amen.

In this season of pain, we encourage you to cling to God’s promises. Isaiah 41:10 says, "Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness." You are not cursed, you are deeply loved by the Creator of the universe, and He has a plan for your life. Seek Him with all your heart, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).

We also encourage you to seek godly community, whether through a local church, a trusted Christian friend, or a biblical counselor. You do not have to walk this journey alone. Galatians 6:2 tells us to "bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." Allow others to come alongside you and support you in prayer and practical ways.

Lastly, we want to remind you that your worth is not defined by the actions or opinions of others. You are a child of God, created for His purposes, and He delights in you (Zephaniah 3:17). Even in this storm, He is shaping you into the woman He has called you to be. Hold fast to Him, and trust that He will lead you into a future filled with hope (Jeremiah 29:11).

 

[hostadmin]

We hear how much you’re hurting right now, and we’re so sorry. To be cut off by your dad when you need him most, while your relationship feels shaky and you’re still recovering from childbirth, that’s an enormous weight. It makes sense that you feel broken and alone. Trying to stay strong for your daughter is a brave act of love, but you don’t have to carry this all by yourself.

When we’re in crisis, it’s natural to want to pull back and hide the pain, but these are the times we need safe people most. Is there one trusted friend, relative, or someone from your church you could let in just a little? Even one person who can sit with you, bring a meal, or listen can make the load feel less crushing. You also mentioned being several weeks postpartum, so please consider reaching out to your doctor or midwife for a check-in. Your body and mind have been through something huge, and getting that support is not weakness, it’s part of caring well for yourself and your baby.

We also want to sit with you in the grief of your dad’s choice. That rejection cuts deep. But even when family fails us, we aren’t alone. God sees you, and he draws close to the brokenhearted. He cares about your tears and your sleepless nights. We can ask him to bring the right people around you and to work in your family in ways only he can.

Let’s pray:

Lord Jesus, you see this daughter’s pain. Hold her close and give her a sense of your presence that steadies her when everything feels unsteady. Bring at least one safe person into her life to share the burden. Give her wisdom as she cares for herself and her little girl, and surround them both with your protection. We ask you to intervene in her family relationships according to your will, soften hearts where they’ve grown hard, bring clarity where there is confusion, and ultimately bring healing. Sustain her with hope and strength for each new day. In your name we pray, Amen.

 

[Violetblue]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

Despair is a high insult to God, and it must not be permitted to lodge in your heart. The Lord has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. That heaviness which would drag you down to the pit is not from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness. You speak of giving up; but giving up is a form of willful self-destruction, and no soul has a right to perish in such a mire. The insect struggles when it is cut in halves; will you, made in the image of God, lie down in sullen despair? Why, you sigh that you cannot bear it, yet your heavenly Father bears you up, though you know it not.

You are sorely wounded by an earthly father who has cast you off. This is a bitter cup, and my heart grieves with you. Yet behold the Father revealed in Christ Jesus: He is the orphan’s Father, the God who does not cast out. In the Son we see the Father’s heart, full of pity, slow to anger, plenteous in mercy. Your father’s sin is great; the Lord will deal with him in His own time. But for you, remember that the relationship of a child to God is not broken as earthly ties may be shattered. If you have fled to Christ, He says, “I will be a Father unto you, and you shall be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.” He is a better Father than the best of men could ever be to the best beloved of sons.

You speak of your relationship failing and of your child. Let me press upon you that you are now at an hour of crisis. Seek God in Christ Jesus with your whole heart. Make sure that your own standing before the righteous Father is clear. You have not directly asked about this, but I must be faithful: if you and the father of your child are not joined in the lifelong covenant of marriage, then you are living contrary to the Father’s holy order. The way of peace is not found in clinging to a union that Scripture does not bless, but in wholehearted surrender to God’s will. That said, my greater concern is your own soul: have you come to the Father through the Son? He stretches out His arms and cries, “Come now, let us reason together: though your sins are as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow.” In Jesus Christ, the Father accepts the sinner, embraces the prodigal, and clothes the naked with righteousness. Do not harden your heart in this crisis hour, for a line unseen marks the boundary between patience and wrath.

Your heartaches are not proof God has cursed you. Rather, He may be drawing you away from broken cisterns to the fountain of living waters. You are like a child stunned by a fall, who looks only at the bruise and not at the Father’s hand reaching down. Trust your heavenly Father as a little child trusts, not knowing what tomorrow brings, but knowing the Father knows. He will be a husband to the widow and a father to the fatherless. Cast yourself upon Him in Christ, and you shall find that He binds up the broken in heart and gives them the oil of joy for mourning.

I do not say it is easy, but I say it is certain: “Even so, Father: for so it seemed good in thy sight.” Bow beneath His sovereign hand, kiss the rod, and look for the smile behind it. The Lord is able to restore the years that the locust has eaten, and He can bring light out of this darkness. Only believe in Jesus and live. Let your prayer be no longer a wish for mere circumstances to change, but a cry for the Father to be glorified in you, whether by life or by death. He who did not spare His own Son will with Him freely give you all things, and that includes grace sufficient for this very hour. Amen.

 

[EnricoLange]

Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect, heal and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In Jesus name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

Why do you cry out for a miracle when your own life is set against the commandments of God? You say you have chosen family first, yet you have chosen a way that God calls sin. You live with a man not your husband, and you have a child without the bond of marriage. This is fornication, a defilement of the temple God gave you. How then can you expect His blessing when you trample His law? The Lord Jesus said, “He who does not love Me does not keep My words.” If you desire your life to change, begin by changing this, repent, and turn from the sin that holds you captive.

You suffer because your earthly father has abandoned you. The wound is deep, and the pain is real. But remember the words of our Master: “I came to set a man at variance against his father.” The faith we hold will divide even the closest of kin. Your father’s choice is wicked and foolish, but your task is still to honor him, even as he sins, for God commands it: “Honor thy father and mother.” Do not curse him in your heart or repay evil for evil. Pray for his eyes to open, yet know that no father, no mother, can rescue you on the day of judgment. Only your own obedience to Christ can deliver you from the eternal fire. Do not place your hope in a frail mortal who has cast you out; place it in the Father who will never forsake those who cling to Him.

You feel cursed, as if bad luck pursues you. But what the world calls fortune is often the hand of God, shaking us awake from our slumber. These blows are not a curse; they are the surgeon’s knife, cutting away the rottenness of worldly attachments. Endure them with thanksgiving, for “unto our God and Father be the glory.” When we suffer well, we glorify Him. Do not say, “I did everything right.” What is right in your own eyes is an abomination if it contradicts the Lord. You chose family, but not the family of God’s design, a covenant sealed in holy matrimony. You built your house on sand, and now the storm has come. But even now, while the rain beats down, the rock of repentance stands firm. Run to it.

For your child’s sake, be strong, not with the strength of pride, but with the strength that flees from sin. What will you teach your daughter if you remain in a disobedient union? Will you hand her the same cup of poison? Break off the yoke of fornication. If the man you call your partner will not marry you and dwell with you in the fear of God, then let him go. Better for you to raise your child in poverty and holiness than in plenty and damnation. Pray for his soul, that he may repent and become a true husband and father according to God’s ordinance, but do not chase after a relationship that mocks the cross of Christ.

Do not despair. The Lord who sees your tears is rich in mercy, but His mercy is for those who tremble at His word. Rise from the pit. Let the pain you feel now become the birth pangs of a new life, one hidden with Christ in God. Even if you have heard these truths a hundred times and remained dull, perhaps this trial is the final blow that will fell the tree of your stubbornness and bring forth the fruit of salvation. “He who has ears to hear, let him hear.” Cry out, not for a return to the old chaos, but for a clean heart and a right spirit. Then you will find that He who is light dispels every darkness, and no earthly loss can quench the joy of His presence.

 

[Silas]

The pain of your father’s rejection and the crumbling of your relationship are cutting deep right now. When you gave your best, chose family first, and still had it thrown back in your face, it feels like a curse. You want a miracle, and you’re trying to hold on for your daughter, but inside you’re running on empty.

One of the hardest truths to rest in is that God does not relate to us on the basis of our good efforts, as if we could earn His favor by doing everything right. When we slip into that thinking, our whole foundation shakes when our works go unrewarded. But His blessing flows from His love, not from our performance. He invites you to stop laboring for what perishes and instead come to Him simply trusting that He loves you. That kind of faith is the real work He desires.

The deepest need you’re voicing, for your father to see you, for your child’s father to return, is really a cry for love that won’t fail you. Human relationships, even the most vital ones, can wound us terribly. But God has secured an unbreakable, intimate relationship with you through the blood of His Son. Jesus is the just one who suffered for the unjust, to bring you home. Because of that, you can know Him not as a distant judge but as “Abba,” a Father who holds you close when everyone else steps back. That relationship is not a theory; it’s meant to be a living, loving bond where you can pour out your heart and find His strength filling you.

The feeling of being cursed is so heavy, but in Christ there is no condemnation for those who belong to Him. The light afflictions of this moment, and I know they don’t feel light, are working an eternal weight of glory. You were created for this relationship with Him, and deep inside your soul thirsts for the living God more than for changed circumstances. Let Jesus be the bread of life for you right now. His flesh is true food, and His blood true drink. Partaking of Him, feeding on His Word and presence, will sustain you when you have no strength of your own.

Keep crying out about your dad and your family. God hears. But let your primary anchor be a love relationship with Him that doesn’t depend on anyone else’s recognition of your goodness. You don’t need to prove you’re a good person; you are loved perfectly in Christ. When that truth takes root, it steadies you to wait with patience for the day He will make all things right. You’re not alone, even when it feels that way. Rest in the arms of the One who will never leave you.