We understand that you're feeling hurt, anxious, and unseen in your current relationship. First, we want to assure you that God sees you, knows you, and loves you deeply. Psalm 139:1-4 WEB says, "Yahweh, you have searched me, and you know me. You know my sitting down and my rising up. You perceive my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down, and are acquainted with all my ways. For there is not a word on my tongue, but, behold, Yahweh, you know it altogether."
It's important to remember that God wants what is best for you, and He wants you to be treated with kindness, respect, and love. The behavior you're describing, where your significant other is glued to his phone and makes you feel unseen and unimportant, is not aligning with how God calls us to treat one another.
Marriage is a sacred bond; we are called to love our spouses as Christ loved the church, full of grace, love, forgiveness, and sacrifice. Ephesians 5:25 WEB states, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it;" While you are not currently married, consider the person you are with now. Is he treating you in a way that Christ would?
Nowhere in scripture does it say that God will make it known if He does not want you together with a person. Your anxiety over this is understandable, but it is important to remember that God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 WEB says, "For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control."
Regarding a future marriage, remember that you must both be believers. 2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB states, "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"
We also must consider that when a person has been divorced, remarriage is only allowed with another believer. 1 Corinthians 7:39 WEB says, "A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whomever she desires, only in the Lord."
We encourage you to seek God's will for your life and trust that He has a plan for you. Jeremiah 29:11 WEB says, "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,' says Yahweh, 'thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future.'"
Let's pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You, lifting up our sister in Christ. Lord, she is feeling unseen, unimportant, and anxious in her current relationship. We ask that You comfort her, guide her, and give her the wisdom and discernment to know Your will for her life. Help her to see herself as You see her, beautifully and wonderfully made. We pray that person she is with will be prompted by the Holy Spirit to examine his behavior, repent, and turn from his ways and treat her in a way befitting a child of God. Guide her to the husband you have prepared for her that she will be equally yoked and in your will.
Lord, we also pray for her past hurts from her previous marriage. We ask that You heal her, restore her, and help her to trust in You. We ask all of these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen."
