Silas
Beloved of All
Thank you for sharing this deep and tender desire to become parents. The longing for children is God given, and Scripture speaks of children as a heritage and gift from the Lord. It is right to bring that longing to Him and to ask for His will to be done.
I want to encourage you toward patient hope as you wait. The Bible often links faith and patience together. We are told that we have need of patience, so that after we have done the will of God we might receive the promise. Those who went before us inherited the promises through faith and patience. James urges us to be patient as a farmer waits for the precious fruit of the harvest, knowing that the Lord is patient and is working in His perfect time. The Scriptures give us patience and comfort so that we might have hope, because we see how patient God is in working out His purposes. He was patient in sending His Son, and He is patient still, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance. Waiting is not wasted time when our hope is anchored in His word.
Part of waiting is learning not to step ahead of God to try to make His promise happen in our own strength. That has been a common mistake through the generations and it always creates trouble. Before Jacob was born God had already spoken His purpose concerning him, yet Jacob and his mother tried to secure it by their own scheming, and that deception cost him many years of hardship and separation. Later in Jacob's family, when Rachel longed for children and felt envy toward her sister, she turned to what was thought in that culture to be a fertility aid, the mandrakes that were called love apples, hoping they would create the ability to conceive. But children come not from such devices or from our striving, but from the hand of the Lord who opens the womb. The lesson is to trust Him rather than trying to force His blessing.
Even creation itself is described as groaning and travailing together as a woman in labor, and we ourselves groan within ourselves as we wait for the full redemption of our bodies. That picture reminds us that longing and even pain in waiting is known to God. He invites us to wait on Him, to let tribulation work patience in us, and to let patience deepen our trust that He will meet our needs in His way and time. Your eyes may grow weary looking for His answer, but you can keep your hope in His word and in His character as the God of patience and comfort who is faithful.
As you pray about becoming parents, I also want to gently point you to God's design for family. In Scripture, salvation is through Jesus Christ alone, and He calls us to receive forgiveness and new life by confessing our sin and trusting Him. Marriage is His creation, a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, and it is within that covenant that sexual union and the gift of children are to be received. If you and your partner are not living within that covenant, I encourage you to seek the Lord first about your relationship with Him and about aligning your lives with His will for marriage. True peace does not come from asking God to bless our own plans, but from surrendering our plans to Him and walking in obedience to His word, trusting that His way is best.
So my prayer for you is not simply for a positive test this cycle, but for much more. I pray that you will know the forgiveness and cleansing that comes through confessing sin and trusting Jesus, that God will give you both a clear desire to honor Him in your relationship and to seek marriage according to His design if that is not already your standing, that He will grant you patience and peace as you wait, and that He will comfort your hearts through the Scriptures and establish you in hope. I pray that if it is His good and perfect will to give you children, He will do so in His timing and will grant health and grace for that journey, and that even in the waiting you will experience His nearness and His faithful care.
May the Lord lead you both into His love and into patient waiting upon Him, and may you find your deepest hope not in a circumstance but in Christ Himself.
I want to encourage you toward patient hope as you wait. The Bible often links faith and patience together. We are told that we have need of patience, so that after we have done the will of God we might receive the promise. Those who went before us inherited the promises through faith and patience. James urges us to be patient as a farmer waits for the precious fruit of the harvest, knowing that the Lord is patient and is working in His perfect time. The Scriptures give us patience and comfort so that we might have hope, because we see how patient God is in working out His purposes. He was patient in sending His Son, and He is patient still, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance. Waiting is not wasted time when our hope is anchored in His word.
Part of waiting is learning not to step ahead of God to try to make His promise happen in our own strength. That has been a common mistake through the generations and it always creates trouble. Before Jacob was born God had already spoken His purpose concerning him, yet Jacob and his mother tried to secure it by their own scheming, and that deception cost him many years of hardship and separation. Later in Jacob's family, when Rachel longed for children and felt envy toward her sister, she turned to what was thought in that culture to be a fertility aid, the mandrakes that were called love apples, hoping they would create the ability to conceive. But children come not from such devices or from our striving, but from the hand of the Lord who opens the womb. The lesson is to trust Him rather than trying to force His blessing.
Even creation itself is described as groaning and travailing together as a woman in labor, and we ourselves groan within ourselves as we wait for the full redemption of our bodies. That picture reminds us that longing and even pain in waiting is known to God. He invites us to wait on Him, to let tribulation work patience in us, and to let patience deepen our trust that He will meet our needs in His way and time. Your eyes may grow weary looking for His answer, but you can keep your hope in His word and in His character as the God of patience and comfort who is faithful.
As you pray about becoming parents, I also want to gently point you to God's design for family. In Scripture, salvation is through Jesus Christ alone, and He calls us to receive forgiveness and new life by confessing our sin and trusting Him. Marriage is His creation, a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, and it is within that covenant that sexual union and the gift of children are to be received. If you and your partner are not living within that covenant, I encourage you to seek the Lord first about your relationship with Him and about aligning your lives with His will for marriage. True peace does not come from asking God to bless our own plans, but from surrendering our plans to Him and walking in obedience to His word, trusting that His way is best.
So my prayer for you is not simply for a positive test this cycle, but for much more. I pray that you will know the forgiveness and cleansing that comes through confessing sin and trusting Jesus, that God will give you both a clear desire to honor Him in your relationship and to seek marriage according to His design if that is not already your standing, that He will grant you patience and peace as you wait, and that He will comfort your hearts through the Scriptures and establish you in hope. I pray that if it is His good and perfect will to give you children, He will do so in His timing and will grant health and grace for that journey, and that even in the waiting you will experience His nearness and His faithful care.
May the Lord lead you both into His love and into patient waiting upon Him, and may you find your deepest hope not in a circumstance but in Christ Himself.
