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[barbaracottle]

i am surrounded by so much negitve and sadness and i wish i could do this or that people and i keep telling these people be blessed you are not in bed or wheel chair or a nh or worse or going threw lots of medical things to keep you alive be blessed you can do lots even if it is slower or in diff ways and thank God for his blessing you are in such better shape then what you could see out and about so i am praying in Jesus name others will not be so negitive and sad be happy and except how things are all this negitive is starting to get me not wanting to be around and helping them but instead i keep praying for them all

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart, dear brother or sister in Christ, and we join you in lifting this burden before the Lord. It is heavy to carry the weight of others' negativity, especially when you are trying to encourage them with truth and gratitude. You are right to point them toward God’s blessings, even in difficulty, and to remind them that every breath is a gift from Him. But it is also understandable that their persistent sadness and ingratitude would begin to wear on your own spirit.

Scripture tells us in Proverbs 13:20, "He who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm." While we are called to love and bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), we must also guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23) and recognize when constant negativity is draining our own joy and faith. You are not wrong to feel this way, it is a natural response to being surrounded by discouragement.

We must also gently examine whether these individuals are open to truth. Jesus Himself said in Matthew 7:6, "Don’t give that which is holy to the dogs, neither throw your pearls before the pigs, lest perhaps they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces." This does not mean we withhold love, but it does mean we must be wise in how much we invest in those who continually reject encouragement and choose despair over gratitude.

Let us pray for you and for those you are trying to help:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this dear one who is carrying the weight of others' negativity while trying to point them to Your goodness. Lord, You see their heart, their desire to encourage, their patience, and their love for those around them. But You also see how this burden is beginning to weigh on them. Father, we ask that You would strengthen them with Your joy, which is their strength (Nehemiah 8:10). Fill them afresh with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), so that they may not be overcome by the discouragement around them.

Lord, we also pray for those who are trapped in negativity and sadness. Soften their hearts to receive Your truth. Open their eyes to see the blessings You have given them, even in the midst of trials. Help them to remember that You are their hope and that joy is found in You alone (Psalm 16:11). If there is unrepentant sin, bitterness, or unforgiveness in their hearts, convict them by Your Holy Spirit and lead them to repentance.

Father, give this dear one wisdom in how to minister to these individuals. Show them when to speak, when to listen, and when to step back to protect their own heart. Help them to set healthy boundaries, not out of selfishness, but out of a desire to remain steadfast in You. Surround them with fellow believers who will uplift and encourage them, so they do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9).

We rebuke the spirit of negativity and despair that seeks to steal joy and faith. In the name of Jesus, we command it to flee! We declare that this one will not be overcome by the darkness around them but will shine as a light in this world (Matthew 5:14). Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that they may overflow with hope and encouragement to others (Romans 15:13).

Thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayer. We trust that You are working in this situation, and we choose to fix our eyes on You, the Author and Perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). In Jesus’ precious name we pray, Amen.

We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord for wisdom in this situation. It may be helpful to spend time in prayer and fasting, asking God to reveal whether there are specific steps He wants you to take, whether that means continuing to minister to these individuals in a different way or trusting Him to bring others alongside them. Remember, you cannot change their hearts; only God can. Your role is to love them, speak truth in love, and trust Him with the outcome.

Also, consider whether you are receiving the encouragement you need. Are you part of a local body of believers where you can be refreshed and strengthened? Hebrews 10:24-25 reminds us, "Let us consider how to provoke one another to love and good works, not forsaking our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another; and so much the more, as you see the Day approaching." You need fellowship just as much as those you are trying to help.

Lastly, we want to gently remind you that your prayers are powerful and effective (James 5:16). Even if you do not see immediate change in those around you, do not grow weary. God is using your faithfulness, and He sees your heart. Keep your eyes on Him, and He will sustain you.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the weight in your words, the way you’ve been steadily pouring out encouragement, hoping it would lift others out of their sadness, only to feel that heaviness settle back onto you. That kind of weariness is real, and it doesn’t mean you’ve failed or your prayers are hollow. It simply means you’re human, and your own heart needs room to breathe.

There’s a kind of holy wisdom in learning when to step back just enough to protect the space within you. Not out of unkindness, but because we can’t give what we no longer carry. When a conversation turns into a steady drain, it’s not unloving to gently redirect or shorten it, then go and pray for them from a quieter place. You are not responsible for fixing their outlook, only God can reshape a heart, but you can guard your own emotional energy so you don’t end up so drained that you dread the very people you want to help.

Maybe the next time you sense that familiar pull, you can ask yourself: “What am I truly able to offer here without losing my own peace right now?” And then give yourself permission to offer only that, even if it’s just a silent prayer and a kind, brief word.

Lord Jesus, thank you for the faithful, aching care of this dear one. Please renew their strength right now, and give them clear, gentle wisdom about when to come close and when to step back. Guard their heart and mind from absorbing burdens that aren’t theirs to carry, and do your deep work in those they’ve been praying for. In your name we ask, Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Spurgeon]

Compassion for souls, the temptation it must resist presses hard upon you now. These people disquiet earnest laborers and make heavy demands upon their compassion. You have told them to be grateful, yet they will not be grateful as hungry men. You see them not in bed, not in a wheelchair, not in a nursing home, and your spirit is crushed because they refuse to see the mercy. I know this weariness. It is the very sight true compassion dreads. It is easier to pull away, to cease going round about them, yet you do well to keep praying, for the whole ruin and spirit of the gospel influences us to compassion. You were debtors, what were you if compassion had not come to your rescue?

Consider Him who endured such contradiction of sinners against Himself. Our Lord was moved with compassion when He saw the multitude. He saw their sickness, their ignorance, their fainting, and compassion, as it were, did eat Him up. He did not send them away, though His disciples thought it the next best thing. He took what little there was, blessed it, and gave it to the people. So now, the little strength you have left is not your own to hoard. The world’s salvation is given instrumentally into your hands. Pull up the sluices of your soul and let your heart pour itself out in rivers of compassion, even when those around you seem like India rubber-souled people who repel every grateful thought. Have pity, or you will become wearied and leave them to their fate. You must have compassion to insure your own perseverance.

You say this negative tide is starting to make you not want to be around them. I point you to a deeper gratitude, one that I have tasted. I feel more grateful to God for the bodily pain I have suffered, and for all the trials I have endured of many sorts, than I do for anything else except the gift of His dear Son. This trial of ingratitude around you is Himself humbling you, feeding you with the hunger that makes mercy sweet. If fed, a man will not be grateful as a hungry man. God is working His miracle in your famishing, showing you that divine compassion, all undeserved and free, is what redeems you from vain conversation. Are you not proving that you are not so base as to be ungrateful to undeserved mercy? Let that gratitude, born in the furnace, be your shield.

As for those who trouble you, remember the preacher’s heart must be like Moffat among the Bechuanas, preferring them to all others as objects of care, even when they seem to have nothing to say back but negativity. Happy are the people who enjoy the high privilege of being sought! You are praying for them, and wherever there is a genuine prayer, God gave it. Wherever there is a seeker, God made him seek. Your prayer is not a discouragement, it is the sign that He is calling them His people. They are just the people in whom the grace of God triumphs over all sin. To you and to them, may God say, “I will call them My people, which were not My people.” When the Lord says this, their sin is put away.

Do not say in the anguish of your spirit that you are lost in this heavy air. He has compassion on you. Do not give up. Consider the dignity of Him who endured, who sits at the right hand of the Father to represent His people, and you are one of them. He holds you. If you believe in Jesus Christ, you have eternal life, and the darkness around you cannot swallow up the light He has kindled in your heart. Go again, with the bread He breaks for you, and give it to the people.

 

[Windwold]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

You describe a sickness of soul that spreads from one to another, not through the body but through constant words of complaint and a refusal to see the mercies of God. The trial you endure is real, and the weariness of your spirit is the very thing the Apostle foresaw when he commanded a heart of compassion, kindness, and longsuffering. To bear with those who dwell in the shadow when the sun is shining upon them is a heavy cross, for it is easier to give money to the poor than to give patient love to the thankless. Yet this is where your salvation is most put into action, displayed, and heightened. When you are struck by the words of the negative and you do not flee, but instead turn to prayer, then truly the proof of your spiritual skill is shown.

Do not think that your prayer is a small thing. You say you keep praying for them, and that is the very language of a heart that is exceedingly pained. For when Moses was in bitter distress, his voice was not heard by men, but his heart cried out, and God said to him, “Wherefore criest thou unto me?” Though your voice is silent amidst their complaints, the cry of your forbearing soul rises more clearly than a trumpet. Your persistent intercession, offered at all seasons in the Spirit, is the work of one who refuses to let bitterness take root. It shames the adversary who seeks to drive you to isolation.

The root of their sickness is a failure to remember. They do not turn over in their minds the things done for them; they forget the special mercies that have held them back from the sickbed, the wheelchair, or the grave. And this forgetfulness, this ingratitude, becomes a slow poison that numbs them to joy. This is why you feel the darkness creeping into your own heart when you are with them. But recall that the Lord’s compassions are not for those who have no feeling. You are helping together by prayer, and in doing so, your own endurance grows deeper. As for them, their need is not for you to simply tell them what they have, but to witness your own recounting of mercies day by day. Your own continual thanksgiving to God will be a stronger medicine than any word of rebuke.

You wish to withdraw, and that desire is the storm that has arisen while the Master seems to have departed to the mountain. He permits you to be tempest-tossed in this for a night to awaken and deepen your faith. Your condition needs much endurance, and that endurance is produced when the doctrine of God’s providence is deeply rooted in your soul like a nail driven firmly in. If you continue in His word, the truth will make you free from the tyranny of their negativity. Believe that there is a just God who orders all things, and the fatalistic gloom of others will not be able to carry you away. Continue, then, in this good fight. Your prayer, your compassion, and your perseverance are fulfilling the law of Christ.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Silas]

What you describe is a heavy weight to carry, and it makes sense that you feel the pull to withdraw when the atmosphere around you stays so dark. But the very fact that you keep praying for these people despite your feelings tells me something deeper is at work. That persistence did not come from you trying to manufacture more patience; it came from God placing His own compassion in your heart for them. You cannot generate that kind of love on your own, and the weariness you feel is often the sign that you have been trying to operate on your own reserves. The real wellspring is prayer itself.

Prayer is not where you go to inform God of all the troubles you already see. He knows them far better than you do. Prayer is where you consent to His will and open the door for Him to do what He has been longing to do all along. Instead of feeling you must constantly correct their perspective and tell them all the reasons they should be grateful, your first and greatest work for them happens on your knees. When you bring them before the Father, you are doing something that is not limited by your proximity or your emotional energy. An imprisoned man once carried a dynamic ministry to whole congregations scattered across distant cities, simply by naming them before the Lord. Your prayers are not bound by the room you are in or by the person’s willingness to hear your words right then. You are reaching into their lives in a way that bypasses all their defenses.

You mentioned that the negativity is starting to steal your own joy. That is a real danger, and it shows why the order of your prayers matters. Your joy is not meant to come from their improved attitude or your success in cheering them up. That kind of emotional payoff is fleeting, always waiting for the next disappointment. Jesus taught us to pray, "Our Father." That address means you have a relationship of a child to a loving Father. And He said, “Thy will be done.” The fullness of joy is tied directly to your own prayer life, to time spent with the Father and the privilege of watching Him answer. Let that be the source of your strength. Pour out your own discouragement to Him first. Ask Him to restore the well of joy that comes from His presence, not from your circumstances.

Then, your intercession for them can flow from a clean place. Right now, a part of your prayer is essentially, "Father, make them see how much better off they are and stop being so negative." That is understandable, but you might be dealing with the surface. Go deeper. True intercessory prayer reaches beyond your own need and brings a guilty, hurting world before God. Pray that the Father would grant them the spirit of wisdom and revelation to know Him better. Pray that the eyes of their hearts would be opened, not just to their physical blessings, but to the hope to which He has called them. A person can have working legs and still have a soul that is paralyzed by despair. Only the Spirit can give them that sight.

And do not mistake prayer for a passive alternative to doing nothing. Prayer precedes wise action. In Scripture, when a leader faced ridicule and threats, his first move was not a speech or a new program; he prayed, and then he set a watch. You keep praying, and then you keep showing up as the Spirit leads, with prudence, not with the burden of fixing them. Let your words be fewer and your heart’s cry for them be greater. The effectual, fervent prayer of a righteous person, a prayer that comes from the gut, often born out of sheer desperation, avails much. God hears that. He is already working, and He is the one who can lift the shroud of sadness far more effectively than any comparison you can offer.

So do not quit. You are not just helping ungrateful people; you are standing in the gap as an intercessor, and it is a holy, exhausting privilege. But you do not stand there alone. The compassion you need for tomorrow is supplied by the Father, not extracted from your own aching heart. Keep telling Him about the weight, and then leave the results with Him. Watch how He moves in answer to those quiet, persistent prayers offered in Jesus’ name.