We hear the deep anguish in your heart, and we stand with you in fervent prayer, lifting up your union with Ruben before the throne of grace. The pain you carry is real, and the enemy has sought to steal, kill, and destroy what God has joined together, but we declare that our God is greater, and His power is made perfect in weakness. We rebuke every stronghold of the enemy, unforgiveness, doubt, fear, and despair, and command them to flee in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.
First, we must address the foundation of your plea. You have not explicitly mentioned the name of Jesus in your request, and it is critical to understand that there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved or by which we can approach God (Acts 4:12). Jesus Christ is the way, the truth, and the life, and no one comes to the Father except through Him (John 14:6). It is only by His blood, shed for us on the cross, that we have access to the Father and the power to overcome the schemes of the enemy. We pray that you would anchor your faith firmly in Him, for He alone is the source of true healing, restoration, and miracles.
Now, we turn to the Word of God to guide our prayers and counsel. The Bible tells us that marriage is a sacred covenant, a reflection of Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:22-33). It is a union that God Himself ordains and protects, and we must honor it as such. We do not know the full details of your situation, but we know that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and desires for marriages to be restored, healed, and built on the foundation of His love and truth. We pray that your union with Ruben would be a testimony to His glory, a light in the darkness, and a testament to His power to redeem even the most broken situations.
We also recognize the pain of your past, childhood abuse is a heavy burden to carry, and the enemy has sought to use it to sow seeds of destruction in your life and in your relationship with Ruben. But we declare that God is your Healer, and He is able to bind up your wounds and set you free from the chains of the past (Psalm 147:3). We pray that you would allow the Lord to minister to your heart, to bring healing to the places that have been broken, and to replace your grief with His peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). We rebuke the spirit of despair and command it to leave you now, in Jesus’ name.
For Ruben, we pray that the Lord would soften his heart of stone and replace it with a heart of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26). We ask that God would break the chains of unforgiveness and bitterness, that He would open Ruben’s eyes to see the work He is already doing, and that He would fill him with faith to believe in the miracles God is performing. The Bible tells us that without faith, it is impossible to please God (Hebrews 11:6), and we pray that Ruben would be strengthened in his faith, trusting in the Lord with all his heart and leaning not on his own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). We also pray that God would deliver him from negative thinking and the weight of the past, reminding him that His mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23).
For you, dear sister, we pray that the Lord would sustain you in this season of grief. The enemy has sought to isolate you, to steal your joy, and to weaken your body through sorrow, but we declare that God is your strength and your shield (Psalm 28:7). We pray that He would lift you up, that He would restore your appetite for His Word and for life, and that He would fill you with His peace as you wait on Him. The Bible tells us that those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength (Isaiah 40:31), and we pray that you would find your strength in Him alone. We rebuke the spirit of depression and command it to leave you now, in the name of Jesus. You are not alone, God sees your tears, He hears your cries, and He is working even when you cannot see it (Psalm 34:18).
We also want to gently address the nature of your union with Ruben. If you and Ruben are not married, we must encourage you to consider the biblical principles of relationships. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage (Hebrews 13:4), and that relationships between believers should be pursued with the goal of marriage, honoring God in every step (1 Corinthians 7:2, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). If you and Ruben are not married, we pray that God would guide you both toward a godly marriage, built on His principles and His love. If you are married, we pray that God would restore your covenant and renew your commitment to one another.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this dear sister and her beloved Ruben to You, asking that You would move mightily in their lives and in their union. Lord, You see the pain, the grief, and the brokenness they are carrying, and we ask that You would heal their hearts and restore what the enemy has sought to destroy. We declare that no weapon formed against them will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we command every stronghold of the enemy to be broken in the name of Jesus.
Father, we pray for healing, healing from the wounds of the past, healing from unforgiveness, and healing from the lies of the enemy. We ask that You would soften Ruben’s heart and fill him with faith to believe in Your power to restore and reconcile. Lord, we pray that You would deliver him from negative thinking and the weight of the past, and that You would fill him with Your peace and Your hope. For this sister, we ask that You would sustain her in this season of grief, that You would lift her up when she is weak, and that You would fill her with Your joy and Your strength. We pray that You would restore her appetite for Your Word and for life, and that You would surround her with Your love and Your presence.
Lord, we pray for their union, that You would reconcile them, restore their love, and rebuild what has been broken. We ask that You would guide them both toward Your will, whether that be marriage or a renewed commitment to honor You in their relationship. We pray that You would protect them from the schemes of the enemy and that You would fill them with Your Holy Spirit, empowering them to walk in Your ways and to love one another as You have loved them.
Father, we thank You for Your faithfulness, for Your love, and for Your power to do immeasurably more than we could ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). We trust in You, Lord, and we declare that Your plans for them are plans for good and not for harm, to give them a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). We pray all of this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and in His Word. Spend time in the Psalms, where David poured out his heart to God in times of despair and found hope in His promises. Surround yourself with godly believers who can pray with you and encourage you in your faith. And remember, God is not done with you or with Ruben, His story for your lives is not over, and He is working even now to bring about His purposes.
We also encourage you to seek biblical counseling if you have not already. A godly counselor can help you and Ruben navigate the pain of the past, the challenges of the present, and the hope for the future. The Lord uses His people to bring healing and restoration, and we pray that He would lead you to the right resources and support.
Finally, hold fast to the promises of God. He is faithful, and He will complete the good work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6). Keep your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2), and trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). You are not alone, and your prayers are not in vain. God hears you, He loves you, and He is moving on your behalf.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
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