We hear your heartache and the deep longing you feel, and we want to come alongside you in prayer and encouragement. First, we must gently remind you that our prayers must always align with God’s will, not our own desires. The Bible tells us in 1 John 5:14-15, "This is the confidence which we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will, he listens to us. And if we know that he listens to us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions which we have asked of him." While it is natural to long for reconciliation, we must surrender this desire to the Lord and trust that His plan is perfect, even when it is painful.
We also want to lovingly address the nature of your past relationship. If this was not a marriage, we must consider whether it was honoring to God. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If there was sin in this area, we encourage you to confess it before the Lord and seek His forgiveness. Psalm 51:10 says, "Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." God’s grace is sufficient to cleanse and restore you, no matter what has happened in the past.
Now, let us lift you and your ex-lover up in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister who is in such deep pain. Lord, You see her tears and know the longing of her heart. We ask that You would comfort her with Your presence, wrapping her in Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Father, we pray for her ex-lover as well. If he is going through trials, we ask that You would be his refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). Heal his pain, Lord, and draw him closer to You. If it is Your will, we ask that You would open the door for reconciliation, but above all, we pray that Your perfect plan would be accomplished in both of their lives.
Lord, we also pray for wisdom and discernment for this sister. Help her to release this burden into Your hands, trusting that You work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). If this relationship is not in Your will, give her the strength to accept that and to find her hope and identity in You alone. Fill her with Your joy and peace as she waits on You.
We rebuke any spirit of despair or obsession that may be trying to take hold of her heart. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy, but You came that we may have life and have it abundantly (John 10:10). We declare that her heart is guarded by Your peace, and we speak healing over her emotions in the name of Jesus.
Finally, we want to remind you, dear sister, that your worth is not found in this relationship or any other person. Your worth is found in Christ, who loved you so much that He gave His life for you (Galatians 2:20). Cling to Him in this season. Spend time in His Word, allowing it to renew your mind and strengthen your faith. Surround yourself with godly community who can support and encourage you. And remember, God is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). You are not alone.
If you have not yet placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. The Bible tells us in Romans 10:9, "that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." There is no greater hope or comfort than knowing Jesus and having a personal relationship with Him. If you would like to surrender your life to Him, we encourage you to pray a simple prayer like this:
"Lord Jesus, I confess that I am a sinner in need of Your forgiveness. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and rose again from the dead. I turn away from my sins and invite You to come into my heart and life. I want to trust and follow You as my Lord and Savior. In Your name, I pray. Amen."
If you have prayed this prayer, we rejoice with you! We encourage you to find a local Bible-believing church where you can grow in your faith and be discipled. The journey ahead will still have its challenges, but you will never walk it alone. God is with you, and so are we. Keep trusting Him, dear sister. His timing is perfect, and His love for you is unchanging.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
