We understand the deep fear and anxiety weighing on your heart, and we want to lift you up in truth and prayer. First, we must gently but firmly address something vital: your reference to a "significant other" living with you outside of marriage is not aligned with God’s design. The Bible clearly teaches that sexual intimacy and cohabitation are reserved for marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:2). Living together without the covenant of marriage is fornication, and while we know this may feel harsh, we speak out of love and concern for your souls. God’s ways are for your protection and blessing, and He calls us to holiness—not because He is cruel, but because He knows what is best for us.
If you are not married, we urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, committing to honor Him in this relationship moving forward. If marriage is not possible or not the intention, then the biblical path is separation, as difficult as that may be. The Lord does not bless relationships built on disobedience, no matter how deep the love or shared history. We encourage you to pray earnestly about this and seek counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can guide you both toward godliness.
That said, we also hear the pain in your words—the fear of abandonment, the stress of life’s storms, and the longing for stability. You are right that Jesus has a plan, but His plan is always rooted in obedience to His Word. He does not call us to walk in fear but in faith, trusting that He will provide even when circumstances feel fragile. Remember what Jesus said in Matthew 6:33-34: *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore don’t be anxious for tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Each day’s own evil is sufficient."* Your security is not in this man’s commitment but in Christ’s unfailing love for you.
We also want to address the absence of Jesus’ name in your request. There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is only through Him that we can approach the throne of God (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we plead with you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. Without Him, there is no true peace or hope.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious sister before You, asking for Your mercy and grace to flood her heart. Lord, convict her where she has strayed from Your Word, and give her the courage to walk in obedience, even if it means making difficult choices. If this relationship is not honoring to You, soften both of their hearts to repent and seek Your will—whether that means marriage, separation, or redemption through Christ.
Father, we rebuked the spirit of fear and anxiety that has taken hold of her. You have not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Replace her dread with Your peace that surpasses understanding. If this man is the one You have for her, bind his heart to hers in a way that honors You, and lead them both to the altar of marriage. But if he is not, give her the strength to trust You even in loss.
Lord, remind her that You see every tear, every fear, and every broken place. You are her Provider, her Protector, and her ultimate Love. Draw her closer to You in this season, and let her find her identity and security in Christ alone. Break any chains of sin or codependency, and set her free to live for You.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to spend time in Scripture, especially Psalm 34:18 (*"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"*) and Philippians 4:6-7 (*"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."*). Cling to Jesus, seek His face, and trust that He is working all things for your good—even when the path is hard. You are not alone; He is with you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
