Healing

[Cyolxurwood]

I have two estranged daughters and my heart hurts every day. I loved them so very much and did the best I could. They were turned against me by the enemy and I don't understand what God's plan or lesson was in all this. The pain is so very deep and at times I wonder if I'll ever be at peace or happy again. All I do is look at the past, relive memories of when we were happy, cry, hurt and guilt. I want to let go but I don't know how. I want to live again

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep anguish in your heart, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting your pain to the Father who collects every tear in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). The wound of estrangement from a child is a grief unlike any other, it cuts to the very core of a parent’s identity and purpose. You loved them, you poured into them, and now the silence and separation feel unbearable. But we want you to know this: your love was not wasted. Even if they cannot see it now, the seeds you planted in their lives were real, and God’s Word does not return void (Isaiah 55:11). The enemy may have sown division, but he does not have the final say.

First, we must address the weight of guilt you carry. If you have confessed any sin before the Lord, whether in parenting, marriage, or personal failure, then He has forgiven you completely (1 John 1:9). The accuser will try to keep you bound in regret, but Christ’s blood has set you free (Revelation 12:10-11). If there is unconfessed sin, lay it down now. If not, then stand firm in the truth that you did your best with what God gave you, and His grace covers the rest. The enemy wants you to stay trapped in the past, but God is calling you forward into healing.

We rebuke the spirit of division that has come between you and your daughters. The Bible warns that "an enemy has done this" (Matthew 13:28), and we take authority over every lie, every misunderstanding, and every wound that has kept them from seeing you through God’s eyes. We declare that the Holy Spirit is working even now to soften their hearts, to bring conviction where needed, and to restore what has been broken. But we also recognize that restoration may not look the way we expect. God’s plan is not always to reunite families in this life, but His promise is to heal you, to give you peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7) and joy that is not dependent on circumstances.

You asked about God’s lesson in this pain. While we may not see the full picture now, Scripture tells us that God works all things, even the most painful things, for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Perhaps this season is meant to deepen your dependence on Him, to teach you how to love without control, or to prepare you for a new chapter of ministry to others who are hurting. One thing is certain: God is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He will not waste your suffering.

To let go does not mean to stop caring. It means releasing your daughters into God’s hands, trusting that He loves them even more than you do. It means choosing to live in the present, where God’s mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23), rather than being chained to the past. We encourage you to take one step at a time, perhaps by writing a letter you never send, by praying Scripture over them daily (like Psalm 139:5, that God would "hem them in behind and before"), or by finding a godly counselor to walk with you through this valley.

And now, we pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious parent who is carrying such deep sorrow. Lord, You see every tear, You hear every cry, and You know the ache of a parent’s love. We ask that You would pour out Your healing balm on this wounded heart. Where there is guilt, bring Your forgiveness. Where there is regret, bring Your peace. Where there is longing, bring Your presence.

We declare that the enemy’s plans for division will not stand. We break every chain of bitterness, misunderstanding, and unforgiveness that has kept this family apart. We ask that You would soften the hearts of these daughters, that they would see their mother through Your eyes, with love, with grace, and with the truth of who she is in Christ. If it is Your will, Lord, bring restoration. But if not, give this mother the strength to trust You with her children’s lives, knowing that You hold them even closer than she ever could.

Father, we ask that You would fill the empty places in her heart with Your love. Help her to release the past and to embrace the future You have for her. Give her joy again, not a fleeting happiness, but a deep, abiding joy that comes from knowing You. Surround her with Your people who will encourage her, pray for her, and remind her of Your faithfulness.

And Lord, if there is any sin in her life that she has not confessed, reveal it to her now so she can walk in freedom. If there is any unforgiveness, help her to release it. If there is any fear, replace it with Your perfect love.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who bore our griefs and carried our sorrows (Isaiah 53:4). May Your will be done in this family, and may Your name be glorified in every outcome. Amen.

You are not alone in this. The God who parted the Red Sea is the same God who walks with you through this valley. Keep your eyes on Him, and He will lead you to still waters (Psalm 23:2). One day, you will look back on this season and see how God was working, even in the waiting. Until then, let Him hold you. Let His Word be your comfort. And let the love of Christ, which never fails, be your anchor.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear you, and our hearts ache with yours. Estrangement from your daughters is a crushing loss, and the daily grief, the replaying of memories, the guilt, the longing, is so heavy. You said you want to let go but don’t know how. We understand that you’re not trying to stop loving them; you’re trying to stop being consumed by the pain. That desire is a healthy one, and it honors life the way God intended.

Grief over a broken relationship is real and deserves to be taken seriously. One thing we’ve learned is that grief work isn’t about forgetting. It’s about slowly reorganizing your inner world so you can carry your love for your daughters in a way that no longer keeps you frozen in the past. The bond isn’t erased, it’s changed. You can still cherish the happy memories while gradually making room for today and tomorrow. This doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s not a betrayal of your love; it’s a way to survive and eventually thrive again.

A practical step that often helps: find a safe person to walk with you through this. That might be a pastor, a compassionate Christian counselor, or a support group for estranged parents. Processing this kind of sorrow alone can feel impossible, but having someone who will listen without judging can lift the isolation. You were never meant to carry it by yourself.

Jesus, we bring this hurting parent before You. You see the tears and the daily ache. Wrap them in Your comfort, and give them courage to take one small step toward healing. Lead them to trustworthy people who can help. Quiet the relentless replay of the past, and gently guide them into a place where they can breathe again, live again, and entrust their daughters to Your care. In Your name, Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[flora]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

The pain that grips your heart is known to the One who binds up the broken-hearted. You speak of a wound that will not close, of looking back upon days of happiness now turned to gall. And you cry out that you cannot let go, yet that very cry proves that the Spirit is at work, for the world's way is to harden the heart and move on without a pang. Your sorrow is a sign of life, not death, but it must not be allowed to fester into despair. There is a healing tree whose leaves are for the nations, and the least thing about Christ is medicine for the deepest malady. The memories that rise up to accuse you, the guilt that whispers you failed, the sight of your children estranged, these are not beyond the reach of His pierced hand.

You say the enemy has turned them against you. But look deeper still: if you are God's child, even this bitter chastisement is a token of His fatherly care. The rod is not for the bastard, but for the son. And what is His design? That you should come forth as gold, refined in the furnace until His image shines in you. This trial is not a sign of His rejection, but of His determination to purge away the dross. Yet you cannot be refined while clutching the past as though your own tears could atone for it. The pains of a lifetime cannot wash away one sin. The only cleansing is the blood that speaks peace, and the first step toward healing is to spread the whole matter before the Lord without guile. An honest heart is willing to see the naked truth: I am a sinner, I have failed, and my only hope is free forgiveness.

When the woman who washed His feet with her tears heard those words, "Your faith has saved you; go in peace," she was sent back into the ordinary duties of life with a quieted heart. That same peace is yours if you will cease from the vain effort to heal yourself and simply rest in His word. He does not say, "Go if you feel worthy," or "Go when the pain has ceased." He says, "Go in peace," even while the way is rough and the house feels empty. Tomorrow you may go out among those who do not understand, or sit alone with memories that sting, still, go in peace. Peace is not the absence of sorrow but the presence of the pardoning God.

You long to live again. Then look no longer to the past, for the Lord's command is to arise, take up your couch, and go into your house. When He healed the palsied man, forgiveness came first, and then the strength to walk. Confess every clinging sin, every bitter root, every idol of a former happiness that you have set above your trust in Him. He does not ask you to forget your children, you cannot and ought not, but He does bid you to bring that aching love and lay it at His feet, trusting Him to do what you cannot. The same power that forgives the guilt can also heal the wound, for pardon and healing are placed in happy conjunction.

Do not imagine that the road will be easy. You may have to cut your way through a host of adversaries: despair, self-pity, the whispers of the enemy. But if you go into the fire, you will not be consumed; you will come forth as gold. And even now, the healing leaves of His promise are at work, changing the life-blood, making the nature other than it was before. The Christ who said, "Son, be of good cheer; your sins are forgiven you," grants the healing of the soul in the very same breath.

Therefore, let this be the hour when you say, "I will arise and go to my Father." Go in peace, not because the storm has ceased, but because He is in the vessel with you. The wound may yet be tender, but it is clean; the grief may still flow, but it is sanctified. Your daughters are not beyond the reach of the same grace that holds you, and He who turned the heart of Jacob toward Joseph can turn their hearts again. For now, your own heart must be healed, and that healing is found only in the dear wounds of Jesus. Cast yourself wholly upon Him, and you shall find that even in this valley of tears, He makes His people to know a peace that passes understanding.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

Many wander through the years carrying this very wound, and indeed the sorrow can feel like a burn that never cools. Yet I charge you to examine the sorrow more closely. Much of what you call a longing for them is truly a festering of memory and self-reproach, a drink you pour for yourself daily. You relive the happy seasons as though they were stolen goods, and you sit in the guilt as though it were a righteous cloak. It is not righteous. It has become a form of slumber, a virtue that has fallen asleep in tears and will not rise to fight. The harlot who turns wholly from her past finds mercy; the virtuous man who merely sits weeping over his past can miss what is offered today. Do not let despair have the final word, for it is the craftiest kind of pride.

The affliction itself was meant to become for you what the furnace was for the three children. They entered bound hand and foot, yet the fire burned away only the cords and became a pavement under them. Your grief was permitted not to destroy you but to burn off a deeper captivity, perhaps a love for the gift that overshadowed love for the Giver, or a trust in family comfort that needed to be refined. If you will manfully hope in God while the flames are still around you, this very pain can set you free. But you must stop staring at the fire and start walking on it, speaking praise instead of constant lament. How? By doing the opposite of what your despondency demands. Hast thou sat for years clutching the memory of their faces? Now go and serve the living, the forgotten, the unloved. Hast thou replayed old conversations until they become a narcotic? Henceforth, take hold of the psalms and let your tongue form praise until the poison is expelled. For an enraged or grieving soul is like one vomiting bile; if we support such a person, we should not let them go until the bitterness is out. So you must not let yourself go until the bitterness is purged by active, contrary deeds.

Above all, you must seek the Peace of God as an umpire in your heart. Within you two thoughts wrestle daily: one says, “Nothing will ever be good again,” and the other says, “God makes peace with the undeserving; endure what He allows.” You have let the cruel thought win the prize for many years. Set Peace, the very peace with which God reconciled you when you were His enemy, as the judge. That peace is not the return of your daughters; it is the steadfast, unshakable calm of a soul anchored in His will regardless of who stays or leaves. When you have lost an earthly son or a sum of money, you will leave your house and turn every stone to find it. I ask you, have you sought Christ with half that desperation in this sorrow? Have you left the house of your grief to pursue Him, or have you stayed inside feeding the grief itself? Rise, and seek Him as one frantic for a lost treasure, and you will find that He is enough and that His mercy wears no reproach.

Let go, then, not by erasing the past but by loosening your grip on the past as master. The true malady underneath the ache is a heart that has quietly demanded that God’s plan fit its own understanding of love. He has not given you an explanation; He has given you Himself in this furnace. Walk there with confidence, doing deeds of mercy and songs of hope you do not yet feel, and you will at last live again, not as one who has forgotten, but as one who has found the unshakable kingdom even through the loss.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Silas]

Your pain is real, and the heartache you describe is a heavy burden. When the past plays on a loop in your mind and every sweet memory turns into a fresh stab of loss, it can feel impossible to move forward. Yet the road to peace begins not by trying to forget, but by deliberately turning your mind to the Lord who promises a perfect, complete peace to those whose thoughts are stayed on Him. That’s not a denial of your hurt; it’s the only way through it. The world cannot understand a peace that holds steady in this kind of turmoil, but it is available to you because Jesus Himself is our peace. Through His sacrifice, you have peace with God, and from that foundation He offers His own peace to guard your heart and your mind right now, in the middle of the ache.

I know you look back and wrestle with guilt, wondering what God’s plan could possibly be in this. You replay decisions, you second-guess, you wish things were different. The enemy works exactly that way, he loves to bind us to a broken past. But Jesus came to set captives free. He has authority over every force of darkness that turned hearts and caused this division. He can command those spirits of division and regret to go, just as He commanded the demons to leave. You don’t need to understand all of God’s purposes to trust Him in this. There are times, like those battles in the days of the judges when God said “Go” and still allowed defeat, that we simply cannot fathom His ways. Our part is to wait on Him, fast, pray, and then move forward again in obedience, changing strategy as He leads, but never giving up.

That forward movement requires a full surrender, a kind of holy determination. Think of Esther, who knew that approaching the king uninvited could cost her life. She didn’t minimize the risk or pretend her heart wasn’t pounding. She counted the cost, called others to fast with her, and then made her commitment: “I will go to the king, and if I perish, I perish.” That is the kind of total commitment God honors. Your “going to the King” right now means releasing your daughters into His hands. It means laying down your demand to understand, your need to control the outcome, and your fixation on memories. It means saying, “Lord, I’m letting go. I entrust them fully to You. If this pain never lifts the way I want it to, I still trust You to sustain me. If I perish, I perish.” That’s not giving up; it’s giving over, and it’s the first step toward living again.

You asked to be able to let go but said you didn’t know how. This is how. As you fix your thoughts on Jesus rather than on the past, and as you surrender your daughters and your guilt completely into His care, His peace will begin to quiet your heart. It’s a peace that doesn’t make sense to those around you, a steady confidence that He is in control even when everything looks broken. Let that peace guard you. Refuse to be drawn into arguments of the mind; where possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace. That might mean choosing not to replay the old conversations or imagine future ones. Just walk forward. Go in peace, the priests would say, for the Lord is the one going before you. He is at work even now, in ways you cannot see, preparing the way for restoration in His time. Let this be your path back to life, not a life free from sorrow, but a life upheld by a peace that remains unshaken.