We join you together in Jesus' name and we stand with you in prayer for your precious older daughter and for your whole family, for freedom, protection, restoration and healing. We hear the burden of your heart and we agree with your discernment that this relationship is bearing fruit that is not from God, exhaustion, financial hardship, division, isolation, chaos and spiritual oppression. God has not called His daughter to live in confusion and depletion, but in peace and purpose.
We affirm what you have spoken so clearly, that living together outside of marriage is not marriage. The Word of God is very clear about this. Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. Hebrews 13:4. Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18. What is being called a significant other or a partner is not a biblical category. A boyfriend or girlfriend relationship should be courtship with the goal of marriage to another Christian believer, and marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman that honors God. Any sexual union or cohabitation outside of that covenant is fornication and it opens the door to spiritual attacks, division and deep soul ties that steal peace and clarity. We also hear your concern that she is idolizing this young man and his mother and putting them before her faith, her God given family and her purposeful work. You shall have no other gods before me. Exodus 20:3. When any person takes the place that belongs to God, our vision becomes clouded. And we agree that greed, laziness, control, dishonesty, manipulation and financial exploitation are not love. Love is patient and is kind, love doesn’t seek its own way and does not behave itself inappropriately. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5.
We also gently rebuke the influence that is drawing her away from the biblical values she was raised on and from fellowship with her family. Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14. Don’t be deceived! Evil companionships corrupt good morals. 1 Corinthians 15:33. For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. Ephesians 6:12. The exhaustion and division you describe are the fruit of this unequal and unholy arrangement, and it is right for you to call it what it is and to pray for her eyes to be opened.
We encourage you to continue to speak the truth in love, to keep the door of home and family open with grace, and to trust the Lord to be her provider and protector as she steps away. If anyone lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. James 1:5. Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God. Romans 12:2. Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6. Your declaration that she is the Lord’s daughter and that she belongs to Him is true, and we claim His promise over her, He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. Psalm 91:1. Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness. Isaiah 41:10.
We pray together now.
Father in heaven, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ we come before Your throne of grace and we lift up this beloved daughter to You. Lord, You say she is Yours, she belongs to You, and we ask You to protect her with every ounce of Your power. Flood her mind with supernatural clarity tonight, open her eyes, her heart and her spirit to see clearly that she is not being loved but being used, that this control and manipulation and financial exploitation is not love, that this young man is not a shepherd or provider and is not ready for a godly marriage, but has been like a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Give her courage and wisdom to release herself swiftly and completely from this toxic and ungodly living arrangement. By Your Holy Spirit convict her that cohabitation outside of marriage is sin and not Your will, and grant her godly sorrow that leads to repentance and freedom. Break every ungodly soul tie, break the idolatry of this young man and his mother, and break the hold of any advice that keeps her in this lifestyle. Whisper to her right now to walk away, to trust You and to trust the family You gave her, and guide her to move back home swiftly with no regret and no turning back.
Lord, restore to her everything the enemy has tried to steal, her independence, self worth, peace, purpose, fellowship with loved ones and unity with her family. Restore her faith and renew her mind in Your Word and in the biblical values she was raised on. Let her see herself and her mother and siblings through Your eyes and not through the eyes of those who demean and isolate her. Heal the exhaustion and financial hardship and wash away the spiritual attacks, division and chaos this relationship has brought upon her and upon the whole household.
Father, we ask for a special blessing upon this family tonight and today. Fill each one with Your Holy Spirit in every aspect of their lives. Saturate this home with Your peace, love, favor, protection, respect and healing. Let no weapon formed against them prosper and let Your perfect love cast out all fear. We submit ourselves to You, we resist the devil and we trust You to cause him to flee. James 4:7. We thank You that You hear us when we call and that You are near to the brokenhearted. We ask all of this in the saving and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our only access to the Father, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved. Acts 4:12. Amen.
