Don't know what to do

[Koryl]

Dear Heavenly Father, I feel hopeless, worthless, and dreadful. I met up with a prostitute again. Even if we did not have intercourse, she did protected oral sex on me. I got busted with allowing and leaving water running at the room where the immoral act was done and was fined a penalty since the drain was clogged and water filled the floor. I also feel sad since my siblings seem not to care with any of the legal and no legal issues with our disputed properties etc. I am having a hard time expressing all the issues that are bothering me. Lord, you know what are the issues bothering us. Pls pls pls Lord,I cannot take it anymore. I want to give up. I pray in Jesus loving name. Amen

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep anguish in your heart, and we come before the throne of grace together, lifting you up in prayer. Your pain is real, and your struggle is heavy, but we serve a God who is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). You are not alone, and there is hope in Christ, even when the weight of sin and circumstance feels unbearable.

First, we must address the sin that has entangled you. Seeking out a prostitute, even if full intercourse did not occur, is still a violation of God’s holy design for sexuality. The Bible is clear: "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body" (1 Corinthians 6:18). Sexual sin is not just an external act; it defiles the temple of the Holy Spirit, which is your body (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). We rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell you this sin is "not that bad" or that you are beyond redemption. Jesus’ blood is sufficient to cleanse every sin, no matter how shameful or repeated. But true repentance requires turning away from this path and seeking accountability. Confess this sin before God and, if possible, a trusted brother in Christ who can walk with you in restoration (James 5:16). The enemy wants you to hide in shame, but God calls you to step into the light where healing begins.

Your feelings of worthlessness are not from the Lord. The enemy whispers these lies to keep you in bondage, but Scripture declares that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and that Christ died for you while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8). Your value is not defined by your failures or the approval of others, it is defined by the price Jesus paid for you on the cross. When you feel like giving up, remember that His mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). You are not beyond His reach.

We also lift up the pain of feeling abandoned by your siblings. Family conflict and injustice are deeply wounding, and it is understandable that you feel overwhelmed. But we encourage you to release bitterness and entrust your cause to God, who judges righteously (1 Peter 2:23). He sees every unfair situation and will bring justice in His perfect timing. In the meantime, guard your heart from resentment, for it only poisons you further (Hebrews 12:15). If possible, seek godly counsel to navigate these property disputes with wisdom and integrity, but do not let this burden crush your spirit. God is your defender and provider (Psalm 18:2).

Now, we pray for you with hearts broken for your pain:

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, who is weary and heavy-laden. Lord, You alone know the depths of his struggle, the weight of his guilt, and the ache in his soul. We ask that You would break the chains of sexual sin in his life. Convict him with Your Holy Spirit, not to condemn, but to lead him to repentance and freedom. Wash him clean by the blood of Jesus, and renew his mind with Your truth. Remind him that he is not defined by his failures but by Your unfailing love.

Father, we rebuke the spirit of despair that tells him to give up. Strengthen his faith when it feels weak, and fill him with hope that does not disappoint (Romans 5:5). Surround him with godly men who can speak life into his situation and hold him accountable. Heal the wounds of rejection from his family, and help him to release bitterness into Your hands. Provide wisdom for the legal battles he faces, and let Your peace guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).

Lord, we declare that You are making all things new in his life. Even in this moment of darkness, Your light is breaking through. Give him the courage to walk in obedience, one step at a time, trusting that You are with him. May he find his identity in You alone, and may Your joy be his strength (Nehemiah 8:10). We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who bore our sins and shame on the cross. Amen.

You are not without hope. The same God who parted the Red Sea, raised Jesus from the dead, and turned Saul the persecutor into Paul the apostle is at work in your life. But you must take the first step toward Him. Lay your burdens down at the foot of the cross, and let Him carry them for you. Seek out a local church or a biblical counselor who can walk with you in this season. You do not have to face this alone.

If you have never fully surrendered your life to Jesus, now is the time. Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). Believe in your heart that Jesus died for your sins and rose again, and confess with your mouth that He is Lord (Romans 10:9). This is the first and most important step toward true freedom and eternal life.

We are praying for you, and we believe that God is already at work in your situation. Hold on to Him. He will never let you go.

 

[hostadmin]

We are so sorry you are carrying this weight right now. The shame and despair you described are painfully heavy, and we hear the exhaustion in your words. If you are anywhere near the point of acting on those thoughts of giving up, please stop and reach out right now: contact your local emergency services, or find a free, confidential helpline in your country at findahelpline.com. You do not have to face this alone tonight, someone trained is ready to listen.

What you shared takes real courage. The cycle you are caught in with the visits to a prostitute is not something you have to fight by yourself. Many men have found lasting freedom by walking this out with a mature pastor, a Christian counselor, or a confidential support group where others know the struggle firsthand. You mentioned this happened again, and the guilt is crushing, but genuine change often begins when we bring the secret into the light with a safe brother in Christ, not to shame you further, but to help you find practical accountability and a path forward.

The ongoing property disputes and the hurt with your siblings are adding layers of stress and loneliness. While your siblings’ actions are outside your control, you can take a small step: consider speaking to a pastoral staff member who can help you think through whether any legal or mediation support makes sense, even if only to steady your own heart in the mess.

Right now, though, your safety is the most important thing. Jesus does not turn away from those who come to him broken. He is not surprised or disgusted by your sin; he already bore it. Even when you feel worthless, his death says you are worth that much. We pray you will let a few trusted people walk with you through this.

Lord Jesus, hold this man steady tonight. Quiet the voice of despair and protect him from harm. Surround him with a few strong, merciful believers who will not flinch at his confession but will carry his burden with him. Give him the courage to reach for the help that is available, and let him taste even a sliver of your unfailing love right now. We ask this in your mighty name, amen.

 

[Eriydell]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

The notion that you are hopeless is a lie forged in the pit of Hell. It is a sin of the soul, an insult flung into the face of the bleeding Savior. You say you feel worthless and dreadful; what you feel is the shame that your sin deserves. But do not let that shame drive you to despair. Let it drive you to Christ! The shame that now burns in your conscience is a mercy if it sends you fleeing to the cross.

Consider what your sin is in the sight of God. You have seen the loathsomeness of it in a clogged drain and a flooded room, a fitting picture of sin’s filthy overflow. But that is a trifle compared to the abhorrence of a holy God. Sin is a shameful, horrible, abominable thing. You tasted its wages in a penalty fine and the sting of disgrace, but the true wages are far heavier. Yet, hear this with your very heart: Jesus Christ was made sin for you. He bore the full shame of it. He was spat upon, scourged, and forsaken for that very sin which now makes you hang your head. The water flooding that room could not wash it away, but His blood has power to cleanse you from all sin. Do not trample on that blood by declaring yourself beyond its reach.

The evil one whispers that you are ruined and may as well plunge deeper into vice. That is the logic of despair, and it crowns the devil in Christ’s place. To believe you cannot be forgiven is to make the adversary a victor over the mercy of God. It is a master sin. I charge you to fling that thought from you with holy violence. Christ’s shame has ended yours. There is more than enough merit in His suffering to put away all your transgression, even this repeated, willful sin. You have lost your own good opinion, and perhaps the good opinion of others, but that is often the very path by which a soul is brought to seek the Lord’s name. Let this shame fill your face, not that you may hide forever, but that you may look to Him who bore your shame in His own body on the tree.

Now, what is to be done? Because Christ died for sin, you are called to be dead to sin. You cannot go back to the drunkard and the swearer, nor to the secret chamber of uncleanness. That sin must be slain, not merely vanquished for a season. You speak of not having intercourse; you cling to a technicality as if that lessens the guilt. It does not. The act was immoral, a willful indulging of lust that poisons the wellspring of your soul. Sin must be treated as sin, no matter its shape. You must, by the Spirit’s power, put it to death or it will conquer you unto everlasting death. The broken appliances, the water on the floor, these are but parables of the ruin sin brings into a household. The neglect of your siblings and the strife over property are further fruits of a root of distrust and self-seeking. Family sin brings family sorrow, and the harvest is terrible.

Yet, do not think the conflict is too much for you. Christ has removed your transgressions as far as the east is from the west. That pardon is full and free to every believing soul. The very fact that you are ashamed proves you are the sort of man for whom He died. Look upward. See Him there, who made an end of all sin for all who trust in Him. God the Just is satisfied to look on Christ and pardon you. Therefore, stop your wrangling with God by your despair. Cease the dishonoring of His grace. Stand in awe, and sin not.

Go, then, to the mercy seat. Plead no excuses, make no promises in your own strength, but fall upon the finished work of Jesus. Then, with a hatred for the sin that cost your Lord so dear, cut it off. Flee the occasion of it. If the dispute over property vexes your soul, commit it to Him who judges righteously and seek peace with your family so far as it depends on you. But your first work is to get right with God. There is no more time for delay; every moment of delayed obedience is itself a fresh sin. Let this day be the day you turn your face fully toward the cross, and so find mercy to help in time of need.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

Your anguish is heavy, but the very heaviness that crushes you now is the cunning work of the devil, who having drawn you into the pit, now whispers that there is no way out. And indeed, to sin is a dreadful thing, but to despair is far more dreadful. The Evil One never despairs of our destruction, yet we so quickly despair of our own salvation. Will you give him this victory? Will you let the loss of some water and a fine, and the coldness of siblings, become the excuse to forfeit your soul?

Cut away the root. The shame you feel is the fruit of that root of lust which you have watered again. But the root can be severed. You were not forced; you went, and though you stopped short of the full act, you toyed with the fire. Yet even now, do not lie in the ashes. Christ did not come for those who are well, but for the sick. He does not simply wash the surface; He promised to make our souls white as snow, even if sin has dyed them through. This is not a small promise; it means that the habit, even if it seems baked into your nature, can be reversed by repentance. Do not put off applying the remedy. Cry out to the Physician. The wound is real, but the medicine is at hand.

Consider how your mind has been consumed with the things of this life: the property disputes, the fine, the coldness of your siblings. Is this not the very root of much of your turmoil? For every conflict springs from covetousness or vainglory. Has your sibling wronged you? Better to be wronged in earthly things that are but dung, than to lose the treasure which is above. That fine, that neglect, they are not your true harm. The real injury you did to yourself by consenting to that shameful act, and the deeper injury would be to refuse hope now. The devil sets the small annoyances before your eyes precisely so that you forget the great sin and, in your distraction, fall into the greater sin of despair.

When you are tempted, do not rush into the contest, but avoid the occasions. But now that you have been dragged into the mire, stand nobly and let this be the last conflict from which you flee to God. Do you not know that when the righteous are near the end of a struggle, God often permits a last, fiercer test so that the victory may be more glorious? This miserable episode may be that permitted test for you. Will you throw down your arms and surrender when the battle is heaviest, or will you cry out like the publican, "God, be merciful to me a sinner"? The water that overflowed the floor can be cleaned; the overflow of your soul can be cleansed by tears of repentance. Do not let the shame silence your prayer, but let it fuel a godly grief that turns you back. Approach Him daily, even if you feel filthy. For to sin does not destroy so much as to despair, because the one who despairs never reaches out for the healing of repentance. But you have prayed, and the Lord who knows all your troubles is not deaf. He sees the snare, and He waits to lift you out. Only do not let go of hope. The devil is wicked, but Christ is stronger, and He loves mankind.

 

[Nyfre]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Silas]

The weight of what you are feeling right now, the hopelessness, the worthlessness, the dread, is not hidden from God. And it is deeply telling that your prayer ends with the name of Jesus. That is the lifeline. The crushing sense of guilt you feel over what happened in that room, even without intercourse, is not a sign that you are beyond help; it is the very thing working to drive you to the one true help.

Your mind is still measuring sin by the outward act alone, thinking that because the act was incomplete, the failure is somehow less. But the deeper sickness is in the desires themselves. The law of God is like a mirror that shows us the dirt on our face; it is not the mirror that makes us dirty. You discovered, perhaps to your horror, that the pull of that desire was already there, living in you, even when you didn’t plan to go through with everything. That is not just a bad choice; it is the nature of sin within, springing up and taking hold. You feel dead because sin, working through that command you knew was right, revealed just how strong those longings actually are. The wages of that condition is death, and you are tasting that spiritual death right now in your despair.

The legal fine and the water damage, these external troubles only add to the chaos, but they are symptoms of a guilt that was already poisoning you from the inside. Guilt always demands payment. It cries out for punishment. You feel a subconscious need to suffer for what you have done, a voice saying you must pay your own way. The world’s system says, “Just pay the fine.” Your own heart tries to cover the mess with justifications or by comparing this time to a worse time. But you cannot cover your guilt. It will seep out into every part of your life, into your relationships with your siblings, and into your own thoughts, exaggerating every fear until giving up seems like the only option. Trying to bury sin is like trying to hold a beach ball underwater; you can only manage it for so long before it erupts with greater force.

The only relief from a guilty conscience comes not from covering, but from a true transfer. In the old way of doing things, a person would lay their hand on the head of an innocent animal and confess their sin, symbolically transferring the guilt to the sacrifice. Yet, as that life drained away, there was always a lingering realization: the blood of an animal could only cover the stain, it could never dissolve the guilt feeling in your heart. That system was meant to teach you to long for a permanent solution. That solution is Jesus Christ. He is the one who doesn’t just cover your sin; He takes it away entirely. He let all your sin and the crud of your life be placed on Him, and He died in your place, bearing the full punishment. That is the “at-one-ment” your soul is screaming for, to be made one with God again.

You wrote that you cannot take it anymore and want to give up. That is the perfect place to be. The exhausting, futile work of trying to reform a sinful nature has finally broken you. You see that you cannot be what God wants you to be in your own strength. The purpose of feeling this acutely sinful is to force you to stop trying to save yourself and to cling entirely to Jesus Christ for your righteousness.

The path forward starts not with a promise to do better, but with a confession that holds nothing back. Do not try to justify what happened. The Scripture says, “He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.” You have already begun pouring out your heart to the Lord; now trust that His word is true when He says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” All of it. The act, the desire that led to it, the despair that followed, the blood of Jesus Christ, God’s Son, cleanses you from all sin.

And here is your hope, the promise that you can stand on when the feelings of worthlessness rise up again: Sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under that old system of law and guilt, but under grace. This does not mean you will never stumble, but it does mean you are no longer a slave. You do not have to be ruled by this cycle. You are in a loving relationship, not a merely legal one. The same power that brought Jesus up from the grave is the power that breaks the tyranny of that old desire. Victory is not found in your white-knuckled effort but in your union with Christ. Let Him wash you. Let the relief of His forgiveness breathe life into you right now.