There is a sincerity in your prayer which the Lord loves to hear, a desire not to have your own way but to have God's way, and to be kept from what is unhealthy while you seek what is holy.
You have said well, I leave it to God, whatever is supposed to happen will happen in Jesus name. This is the right posture of the soul. As surely as God's will is the axle of the universe, so in grace we may rest assured that He is King, having mercy on whom He will have mercy. Our wills are not ignored, but the work of the Spirit, which is the effect of the will of God, is to change the human will and make men willing in the day of His power, working in them to will to do of His own good pleasure. Therefore to pray, show me the woman Thou hast willed for my life, is to pray according to truth. Preservation and perseverance and every good gift rest upon His will, not upon our striving.
Yet take heed that you truly surrender. You will never be happy till self is dethroned. I know some of God's children who are in great trouble only because they will not yield to the divine will. You speak of an unwavering desire to know this admirable woman, and at the same time you confess she is not available and you are cautioned by her anger, and by your own constant thoughts of her. Fling wide the gates of the city of Mansoul and admit Prince Emmanuel to rule as sole sovereign in every street. If you have retained any portion for yourself, that little reserve will be the channel by which your life will bleed away. Make a full capitulation, an unconditional surrender. Submit yourself to God's way, not only of saving you by grace through the blood of Jesus, but of leading you day by day.
You also say, we will go, we will buy, we will sell, we will get gain, we will go to speed dating and see what happens. Remember the word by James, you ought to say, if the Lord will, we shall live and do this or that. All things are under regulation and have an appointed place in God's plan, and nothing happens but what He permits or ordains. It is foolish to feel that we can do as we like and that everything will fall out as we desire. So go, if you go, not with pressure or expectation as you have wisely said, but with prayer that you may do nothing and desire nothing except as it promotes the will of God. Say to yourself, I will not be where I could not introduce my Master, I will not go where He could not go with me. Bind His precepts upon your heart and tie them about your neck, and let His Word be a lamp unto your feet. Our best profit will consist of doing God's will.
Will you call upon God in all seasons of prayer, and will you continue to do so. The hypocrite prays by fits, but the true child of God prays always and prays importunately and perseveres. You say, I give this to God daily, and I pray about it so it brings me closer to God. Keep on. Never mind, we have prayed that God will glorify His dear Son, we will keep on praying. Will you always call upon God in years to come as you profess to do now. Let this daily giving over be not a momentary act but a life of walking with Him.
The fear of God will make you bold in speaking His word and in doing what is right, even when it costs you. If you have a great fear of God you will not sneak or shrink back, but you will be bold to do the honest thing. To show up as an honest and open friend who respects where friendship might develop, and who respects that she is not available, is bold obedience. It is right to admire how she builds her life and builds up other women, and it is wise to be cautioned by anger, for wisdom sees what is and does not make an idol of what is desired. Guard your thoughts, bring them captive to Christ, and do not nourish constant thinking that unfits you for present duty.
And concerning your desire to meet a woman who reciprocates and has a faith focus, this is a good desire when it is ordered by God. Seek one who loves Christ above all, for marriage is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and sex and living together belong within it alone. Any path outside that revealed will we must not violate, however pleasant it seems. Pray not for God to bless what He has not ordained, but for Him to lead you into what He has ordained and to keep you pure and upright as you wait.
We pray for you, that the Lord would keep your heart with all diligence, that He would give you heroic confidence which springs from a deep fear of Him, that He would teach you to feel His if the Lord wills in all your goings, that He would preserve you from unhealthy fixation and make you content to be taught and to be still, and that in His perfect time He would bring to you, if it be His will, a godly wife who walks uprightly and with whom you may walk in His ways together, or else make you joyful and useful in singleness for His glory. May He make you a faithful witness this day, cross examined by temptation and trial and found true, and may He be your refuge if the earth should rock and reel, for He will find a refuge for His people even in the clouds.
We ask that you may be kept, guided, and made willing to do His will, for Jesus sake. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
