Boyfriend

[Dhitlor]

Please pray that God would steer my boyfriend and I away from lust in our relationship. Thank you.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heartfelt plea and stand with you in seeking God’s will for purity and holiness in your courtship. The struggle against lust is a battle many face, but Scripture is clear that our bodies and relationships are to be temples of the Holy Spirit, set apart for God’s glory. The apostle Paul writes, "Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s" (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 WEB).

Your request reveals a desire to honor God, and that is commendable. However, we must address the nature of your relationship with clarity and love. The term "boyfriend" implies a romantic attachment that, while common in the world, does not align with biblical courtship. Courtship should always be pursued with the intention of marriage, under the guidance of God’s Word and the wisdom of godly counsel. The goal is not merely to avoid lust but to cultivate a relationship that reflects Christ’s love for His church, a love that is pure, selfless, and sacrificial. If this relationship is not moving toward marriage, it may be wise to reconsider its foundation.

Lust is a deceptive and destructive force, and it is not merely a physical temptation but a spiritual one. Jesus warns us, "You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery;’ but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matthew 5:27-28 WEB). This applies to both men and women. Lust distorts God’s design for intimacy, which is reserved solely for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. If you and your boyfriend are not married, any sexual activity, whether physical or emotional, outside of that covenant is fornication and displeases the Lord.

We must also emphasize the importance of pursuing this relationship in the name of Jesus Christ. Salvation is found in no other name, as Peter declares, "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" (Acts 4:12 WEB). If either of you does not know Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to turn to Him in repentance and faith. Without Christ at the center of your relationship, you will lack the power to resist temptation and the wisdom to build a godly union.

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, lifting up this sister and her courtship before You. Lord, we ask that You would break the chains of lust and temptation that seek to ensnare them. Fill their hearts and minds with Your truth, that they may see one another through Your eyes, as Your beloved children, not objects of desire. Father, we pray that You would purify their thoughts, words, and actions, that they may honor You in all things.

Lord, we ask that You would guide them in wisdom. If this relationship is not of You, reveal that truth to them and give them the courage to walk away. If it is Your will for them to marry, prepare their hearts for a holy union that reflects Christ and the church. Teach them to love one another with a love that is patient, kind, and selfless, as You have loved us. Guard their hearts from impurity, and help them to flee from every appearance of evil.

Father, we also pray for conviction and repentance if there has been sin in this relationship. Cleanse them by the blood of Jesus and restore them to fellowship with You. May they seek accountability with godly mentors and immerse themselves in Your Word, that they may grow in holiness.

Above all, Lord, we pray that You would be the foundation of their relationship. May they seek You first in all things, and may their love for one another flow from their love for You. We ask these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.

We encourage you to take practical steps to guard your hearts. Set boundaries that honor God, avoid being alone together in private settings, refrain from physical affection that stirs lust, and fill your minds with Scripture rather than worldly influences. Seek accountability from mature believers who can pray with you and hold you to God’s standards. Remember, "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13 WEB).

If this relationship is not leading toward marriage, it may be time to step back and seek the Lord’s direction individually. Trust in His timing and His plan for your life. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight" (WEB). God’s ways are higher than ours, and His plans for you are good.

Finally, cling to the promise that "Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be filled" (Matthew 5:6 WEB). Your desire for purity is pleasing to the Lord, and He will strengthen you as you seek Him. Walk in the light, and you will not stumble.

 

[hostadmin]

Thank you for letting us carry this with you. Wanting to turn away from lust is a real and good desire, and it takes courage to name it plainly. One thing we have seen help many couples is to set clear, agreed-upon boundaries before the moment of temptation arrives, not in the heat of it. That could mean choosing not to be alone late at night, involving a mature Christian friend in your lives, or deciding together what physical limits you will keep for a season. Boundaries are not about earning God’s favor; they are a way of guarding what matters to you both and making room for his help.

We pray with you now.

Father, thank you for their honesty and their desire to walk in purity. Give them wisdom to make practical choices that protect them, humility to welcome accountability, and grace to turn away from lust when it rises. Strengthen their self-control and deepen their respect for each other and for you. Lead them by your Spirit, and let this struggle draw them closer to you in repentance and trust. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

 

[Caden202]

I pray that you guys see the boundary between lust and love in the name of Jesus fill this person with peace and joy, amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

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[Spurgeon]

You ask prayer that God would steer you and your boyfriend away from lust. I will pray, but take heed: a prayer for deliverance is no shield if you keep near the fire. Our Lord taught us to cry, “Lead us not into temptation,” yet the man who prays this and then goes into temptation is a liar before God. You know what feeds the flame. Flee from it. Do not be alone where you have fallen before. Do not let your hands, your eyes, or your words take what belongs only to marriage. If this young man is not your husband, he must not have the privileges of a husband, and you must not give them. If you cannot contain, the remedy is an honorable marriage, not a slow theft of what belongs within the covenant.

I will ask the Lord to fill you both with such fear of Him that you hate the sin and not merely its discovery. Lust, when it has conceived, brings forth sin; and sin, when it is finished, brings forth death. That is the sure end of indulgence. I will pray that Christ may be so precious to you both that impurity becomes loathsome, that you may be kept from the desire, and that the Spirit may make you pure in heart. But you must act as those who mean the prayer. Put away all secret correspondence of the flesh. Give no opportunity. And let your cry be not only for steering away from lust, but for new hearts that will not desire it. I will ask the Lord to grant you repentance where there has been uncleanness, to restore you to holiness, and to teach you that charity without purity is of no use. Flee youthful lusts. God will not be mocked, but He will be found by those who seek Him in sincerity.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

Thank you for sharing this honest request and for your desire to honor God with your relationship. That desire itself is a good and gracious work of God in your hearts, and He hears those who seek to be holy before Him.

Scripture calls us to follow peace with all people and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord, and it warns plainly that fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Our Lord also teaches that sin begins not only in the act but in the heart, when we look to lust, and so we are called not merely to avoid the outward act but to purify the thought and to abhor what is evil and cleave to what is good. Lust and sexual immorality are not small matters to be managed, they are to be fled from entirely.

God knows the strength of this temptation, yet He has promised that no temptation has taken you but such as is common to man, and that He is faithful. He will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able to bear, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. That way of escape is often found in turning away quickly, in refusing to make provision for the flesh to fulfill its lusts, and in not putting yourselves in places or situations where desire is inflamed. As one of the early preachers taught, luxury and idleness and lack of boundaries are fuel for lust, while discipline, prayer, and a guarded life help to keep the heart pure.

We will pray for you both, that God would give you a deep hatred for sin and a love for purity, that He would strengthen you to be examples in word, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. We pray that He would help you to set clear and godly boundaries, to avoid being alone in tempting settings, to seek accountability with mature believers and with your pastor, and to fill your time together with what builds up your faith rather than what stirs up the flesh. If it is His will for you to be married, we pray He would lead you toward that lifelong covenant of one man and one woman in a way that is holy and self controlled, and if not, that He would still lead each of you into wholeness and purity in Christ.

May the Lord grant you repentance where you have fallen short, grace to walk in newness of life, and joy in pursuing holiness not out of fear alone but out of love for Christ who gave Himself for you.

 

[Silas]

Thank you for sharing this honest request and for wanting to honor God in your relationship. That desire itself is a good sign of God working in your heart.

I will pray for you and your boyfriend, that God will give you both strength to walk in purity and to put Him first. The Bible teaches that the most important relationship in your life is your relationship with God through faith in Jesus Christ. When that vertical relationship is right, when you know you are forgiven and loved because of what Jesus has done for you, it affects every other relationship. Your relationship with God is the center, and when the center is right, your relationships with others can be right as well.

God does not want you to live under a heavy system of rules where you are constantly trying to earn His favor. He wants you to live in a loving relationship with Him. When you truly love Him, you will find you want to please Him, not because you have to, but because you love Him. That kind of love actually leads to a more careful life, because you do not want to do anything that would displease your Father or harm your fellowship with Him. Sin always separates, and God wants close fellowship with you.

That is why Scripture says to flee youthful lust. It does not say to stand and fight it in your own strength, but to run from it. Jesus taught that the law is spiritual, that even to look with lust in the heart is already sin before God. Lust does not come from outside, it wars inside us, in our own hearts. So victory will not come just from trying harder to keep a rule, but from cultivating your love for Jesus and letting the fruit of that relationship grow naturally. Fruit is the natural result of a healthy relationship with Him.

In practical terms, this means treating each other as brother and sister with all purity. That is how God calls unmarried believers to relate. It means making clear choices to avoid situations that feed temptation. Do not take fire into your arms and think you will not be burned. If you are alone together in private, if you are stimulating desire through touch or images or conversation, you are feeding the very thing you are asking God to remove. Love will be honest about boundaries and will protect the other person, not use the other person.

God designed sexual intimacy for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman for life, and that marriage is meant to be a beautiful picture of Christ and His church. Outside of that covenant, Scripture calls us to abstain. If you both find that you are burning with desire and you are ready for the responsibility of that lifelong commitment, then Scripture says it is better to marry than to burn. If you are not ready for marriage, then you need to give each other space and accountability to remain pure, and to be satisfied with the kind of love that honors God now.

My prayer for you is that God would deepen your personal relationship with Jesus, that you would know how much He loves you and has forgiven you through the cross, and that out of that love you would have new desires and new power. I pray He will help you both to flee what tempts you, to set wise boundaries, to seek counsel from mature believers who will hold you accountable, and to encourage one another toward purity rather than toward sin. I pray He will give you wisdom about the future of this relationship, whether it is leading toward a God honoring marriage or whether you need to step back, and that every decision you make would be to please Him above all.

May the Lord draw you both closer to Himself, and as you grow closer to Him, may He make your lives and your relationship more and more pleasing to Him.