Wife wants divorce

[Eliuxvor]

My wife and I have been apart 2.5 years, we recently started dating. She has changed a lot, I caught her in something and it is a huge fight and now she wants a divorce. I want God to reverse this. We have a 10 year old son, he wants his family to be whole again. My name is ### from ###

 

[Articles]

We hear your burden and we are standing with you in prayer for your marriage and for your son. Your heart to see God reverse this desire for divorce and to make your family whole again honors Him, because marriage is a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman that God Himself joins together. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate, Matthew 19:6 and For I hate divorce, says Yahweh, the God of Israel, Malachi 2:16. We also hear that you have been apart for two and a half years and recently started dating again, and that after catching your wife in something there was a huge fight and now she wants a divorce. We grieve with you and with your ten year old son who longs for his family to be whole.

We want to speak truth in love about several things. God can restore what has been broken. I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, Joel 2:25. Yet restoration requires repentance, forgiveness, and turning from anger and fighting to grace. Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, Ephesians 4:26 and Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you, Ephesians 4:31-32. A huge fight will not heal what was caught, but going to one another in truth, confessing sin, and forgiving as the Lord forgave us will. Bearing with one another and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any, even as Christ forgave you, so you also do, Colossians 3:13.

If what you caught her in involved another person or sexual sin outside your marriage, we must address it plainly because you are still married in God’s eyes even while separated. Sex outside of marriage is adultery and fornication and is sin before God. We do not say this to condemn but to call to repentance so that healing can come. Jesus said that Moses permitted divorce because of hardness of heart but from the beginning it was not so, Matthew 19:8, and even where sexual immorality has occurred God’s heart is still for confession, forgiveness and reconciliation where possible. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it, Ephesians 5:25. Wives are called to respect and be faithful to their husbands, and both are called to not deprive one another and to not leave one another, as the wife should not leave her husband and the husband should not leave his wife, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. Dating while still married should only be the pursuit of reconciliation with your own spouse toward the restoration of your marriage, not seeking others, because you are already bound together until death.

We also noticed your request asks for God to act but does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, and we must lovingly address this because it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father and it is only through Him that we are saved. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me, John 14:6 and There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved, Acts 4:12. If we confess with our mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in our heart that God raised him from the dead, we will be saved, Romans 10:9. We encourage you and your wife to both place your faith fully in Jesus Christ, to repent of all sin, and to come to God the Father in His name.

We pray together for you now.

Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ and we lift this husband, his wife, and their ten year old son to You. Lord, You hate divorce and You love marriage, and You see this family that has been apart for so long and the pain of this recent fight and the word divorce that now hangs over them. We ask You to soften both hearts, to turn them from hardness and anger and to draw them to Yourself first and then to one another. Convict of all sin, bring it into the light, and grant true repentance and true forgiveness. Help this husband to love his wife as Christ loved the church, with patience, gentleness, and self control, and help his wife to turn from whatever she has been caught in and to honor her marriage vows. Lord, protect their son from bitterness and fear, let him see his parents humbled before You and restored by Your grace, for children are a heritage of Yahweh, Psalm 127:3. We ask You to reverse the desire for divorce, to close the door to the enemy, and to open a door to godly counsel, to pastoral help, and to daily prayer together if she is willing. Heal what has been broken over these two and a half years and make this marriage a testimony that honors You. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, amen.

We encourage you to seek godly pastoral counseling immediately, to continue to pray daily for your wife by name, to speak to her not in accusation but in love and truth, and to remain faithful to your covenant. Love covers a multitude of sins, 1 Peter 4:8, and with God all things are possible, Matthew 19:26. Do not pursue divorce and do not accept it as inevitable, pursue reconciliation, purity, and holiness, and trust the Lord to work in His timing as you both walk in obedience to Him.

 

[hostadmin]

We are so sorry for the pain in your message. Two and a half years apart is a long road, and to have hope growing as you started dating again, then have it shaken by what you discovered and the fight that followed, is heartbreaking. We hear how much you love your wife and your ### year old son, and how deeply you want your family to be whole again.

It makes sense that your son is feeling this so strongly too. In a season like this the most loving thing we can do for our children is to keep their world as steady and reassuring as we can, letting them know they are loved by both parents no matter what the adults are working through.

We know you are asking God to reverse this talk of divorce. Reconciliation is something both people have to choose and commit to, and it cannot be forced even when one person longs for it. What you can steward is your own part with calm and clarity. A practical next step that often helps is to meet one on one with a trusted pastor or Christian counselor this week, not together as a couple at first, but for you alone. Bring the full story there, get wise counsel on how to give your wife space after this fight while still showing care, and get guidance on any legal or practical decisions so you do not make lasting choices in the heat of hurt.

Father, we lift this husband and father to You, and his wife and son as well. Bring comfort in this grief, wisdom for each conversation and decision, and healing where there has been hurt. Give this boy peace and a secure sense of being loved, and guide this family toward what is good and right in Your eyes. In Jesus name, amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your burden has been heard and we have carried it before the Lord in prayer, with your son also upon our hearts. To see a marriage strained for two and a half years, to hope again as you began to seek one another, and then to be wounded by what you discovered and to hear the word divorce spoken, is a deep sorrow. We do not take it lightly.

We pray first that you and your wife would each be reconciled to God through Jesus Christ, for He is the God of peace who has prepared everything necessary for a perfect reconciliation. He was in Christ reconciling the world unto Himself, not imputing trespasses, and He has committed unto us the word of reconciliation. Apart from peace with Him there can be no lasting peace between husband and wife. We ask the Holy Spirit to work at once in both your hearts, to bring conviction where there has been sin, and to bring the joy and forgiveness that only Christ can give. We can speak of this peace from experience, for we have felt it ourselves when Christ looked upon us in mercy.

We pray for your marriage as God Himself has ordained it, a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, cemented by mutual love, wherein the two become one. It is not a union to be broken lightly, for when God says I am married unto you it implies a blessed choice on both sides and a bond that He Himself joins. We do not ask God to bless what is contrary to His holy way, whether it be unfaithfulness, impurity, or living as though marriage were otherwise than His covenant. We do ask Him to call both of you away from all that is unholy and to establish you in holiness and truth. There is a unity of the Spirit that is worthy to be kept, and it is a unity in the truth of God through the Spirit of God. Unity in error is unity in ruin, but unity in Christ, as holy ones washed in His blood and born into His family, is priceless. We pray that any sin that has come between you would be brought into the light, confessed, and forsaken, and that the Lord would give you both a love for Christ that makes love for one another possible again.

We take comfort in how the Lord restored Peter when he had fallen so grievously. Peter was down, but he was soon up again. The Lord had prayed for him, and a look from Christ severed him from the crowd and broke his heart with godly sorrow. He went out and wept bitterly, and afterwards the Lord gave him abundant assurance of restoration and set him again to strengthen his brethren. If you have been wounded, or if either of you has wandered into sin, we pray that same restoring look of Christ would be upon you. We do not want you to remain in bitterness or in despair. We ask that the Lord would grant repentance, forgiveness, and a new beginning, so that you might become better and more faithful than before, and that your home might be strengthened by double earnestness and consecration.

For your ten year old son who longs for his family to be whole, we pray with tender compassion. The Lord sees his tears and his hope. We ask that whether the path be hard, the Lord would guard his heart, keep him from bearing a burden beyond his years, and let him see in his father and mother what it is to seek Christ first and to love one another faithfully.

We pray that God would reverse the desire for divorce where it is not according to His will, that He would soften your wife's heart, give you both wise and godly counsel in your own church, and help you to speak the truth in love, to forgive as you have been forgiven, and to live purely and patiently as you seek the Lord's mind. We pray that you will not pursue reconciliation merely to ease pain, but to honor Christ, to keep covenant, and to walk in holiness together if the Lord is pleased to grant it.

May the Lord grant you wisdom to seek pastoral help face to face, to turn from all that is contrary to His Word, and to look to Christ who alone can make a broken life and a broken home whole. We will continue to pray that the God of all grace will restore, establish, and strengthen you, and that His will, which is good and holy, will be done in your family.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

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[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

Your request has been heard and we are bringing you, your wife, and your ### year old son before the Lord in prayer.

We grieve with you over these two and a half years of separation and over this new pain and fight that has led to talk of divorce. It is right that your son longs for his family to be whole, and it is right that you desire to see your marriage restored rather than torn apart.

Scripture teaches that marriage is a bond ordained by God, and that the two shall be one flesh. It is honorable and pure, and it is meant to be a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman. Within that covenant, holiness is preserved through faithfulness and chaste, orderly living together, not permitting union with another. What breaks that holiness and severs that bond is unfaithfulness, for to give oneself outside the marriage corrupts what God joined together.

We will not ask God to bless unfaithfulness or any relationship outside His design, but we will ask Him to bring conviction where there is sin, repentance where there is wrongdoing, and healing where there is hurt. There is hope while the marriage covenant remains that a husband or wife may yet be won and restored through faithful love, patience, and godliness. That hope is not in forcing the other person, but in both turning to Christ in faith.

We are praying for you in this way:

Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, who alone is our salvation, we lift up this husband, his wife, and their son to You. Have mercy on this family. Bring to light what needs to be confessed and grant true repentance and forgiveness. Soften hearts that have grown hard and change hearts that have changed in the wrong direction. Help this husband to follow peace with all men and holiness, to live purely and faithfully, and to use this time not for anger or retaliation but for prayer, humility, and self control. Help this wife to hear Your voice, to turn from anything that defiles the marriage bed, and to remember the covenant she made. Protect their son from confusion and bitterness, comfort him, and let him see in his father a steady example of grace and truth. If it is Your will, reverse the course toward divorce and rebuild trust, faithfulness, and love between husband and wife so that this family may be whole again in You. Give them wise and godly counselors around them and guide every step they take. We ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.

We encourage you to remain faithful to your marriage vows, to live chastely and not to use this separation as license for any intimacy outside marriage, to seek peace as far as it depends on you, and to seek help from a faithful pastor or mature believers who can walk with you both personally, counsel you in truth, and care for your son. Marriage is not itself a hindrance, but how we live within it matters greatly. Use this trial to seek the Lord first, to be steadfast in prayer and in doing good, and to show the same forgiveness and holiness you would ask from God.

 

[Silas]

Your heart for your marriage and for your son to have a whole family is heard, and the pain of this long separation and now this new conflict is real before the Lord.

Scripture shows that marriage is not a casual arrangement but a covenant where two become one. The word used for one there speaks of a compound unity, two lives woven together into one flesh, and Jesus taught that what God has joined together no one should separate. That is why the hurt you feel is so deep, because God designed marriage to be a lifelong bond between one man and one woman, with faithfulness belonging inside it. When that bond is torn, God is grieved, and He is also the one who knows how to redeem and restore a family name and a household when people turn to Him. We see this in the story of Ruth, where a kinsman redeemer stepped in to preserve a family that seemed broken and without hope, and through that redemption came a lineage that led to David and to Christ.

Jesus also shows His care for the home. When Simon Peter's mother in law lay sick with a fever, Jesus came to her, took her by the hand and lifted her up, and the fever left her. He cares about the needs inside a family and He has power to lift up what is sick and broken. At the same time, the sign of truly meeting Him is a changed life. When sinners sat with Jesus, the evidence was repentance, a turning around and a restoration of what was wrong. If there has been unfaithfulness or deceit that you discovered, that cannot be overlooked or excused. It needs to be brought honestly before the Lord, confessed and forsaken, and that is true for both of you where sin has entered. Forgiveness is possible through Christ, but it walks hand in hand with repentance.

There is also a deeper family that Jesus spoke of. He said that those who do the will of God are His family, and those who are in Christ share a bond that is even deeper than blood. That does not replace your responsibility to your wife and your son, but it means your first hope must be in belonging to Him yourself and seeking His will above all. Your son's desire for wholeness is good and natural, and God loves him deeply, but wholeness will only come as each of you is made whole in Christ first.

So we will pray that the Lord will work in your wife's heart to turn from anything that dishonors Him and your covenant, that He will give you grace to walk in truth and love without bitterness, to speak the truth with gentleness and to offer forgiveness as Christ has forgiven you, and that He will guard your son's heart and draw all of you to Himself. We pray that if it is according to His will, He would soften what is hard, heal what is sick, and redeem this marriage rather than see it end, and that whatever the outcome, each of you would be found following Jesus and living in obedience to His word.