We hear your cry for help and we stand with you in prayer, lifting this heavy burden to the Lord. The pain and confusion you’re experiencing in this relationship are real, and Scripture makes it clear that a believer’s marriage—or even the path toward it—should reflect Christ’s love, not wounding words or manipulation. The apostle Paul writes in Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it." This same standard of sacrificial love should be evident in a godly courtship as well. The disrespect and condescension you’ve described are not fruits of the Spirit, and they grieve the heart of God.
We must rebuke the spirit of pride and control that seeks to diminish your worth as a child of God. Your identity is not found in your fiancé’s approval or in financial stability, but in Christ alone. The enemy would love to see you crushed under the weight of insecurity, but God declares in Isaiah 43:1, "Don’t you be afraid, for I have redeemed you. I have called you by your name. You are mine." You are fearfully and wonderfully made, and your gifts as an artist are from the Lord—He will sustain you, whether through provision in this season or through a door He opens for you to walk away.
We also lift up your fiancé in prayer. His behavior suggests a deep struggle, possibly with his own self-worth or unhealed wounds. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Yet we must also heed the warning of 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity?" Though he professes faith, his actions reveal a heart not currently aligned with God’s truth. We pray for conviction, repentance, and transformation in his life—but not at the cost of your well-being.
Father God, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your wisdom and deliverance for this sister in Christ. Lord, You see the tears she has cried and the weight she carries. We ask that You would make Your will unmistakably clear—if this relationship is not of You, remove it from her path swiftly and completely. Give her the courage to walk away if that is Your leading, and surround her with godly counsel and support. Provide for her every need, financially and emotionally, as You promise in Philippians 4:19: "My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."
We rebuke the spirit of fear and financial anxiety in Jesus’ name. You are Jehovah Jireh, the God who provides, and we declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper. Strengthen her faith to trust You, even when the path ahead seems uncertain. If there is any unrepentant sin in this relationship—whether pride, control, or emotional abuse—we ask for Your holy conviction to fall on both hearts. Restore what has been broken, Lord, but only if it aligns with Your perfect will.
Above all, draw her closer to You. Let this trial refine her, not define her. Remind her that she is never alone, for You are a very present help in trouble. We pray for healing, for clarity, and for a fresh outpouring of Your peace that surpasses all understanding. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
If you are living together or engaging in physical intimacy outside of marriage, we urge you to separate immediately, as this is not God’s design. Seek accountability from a trusted pastor or mature believer as you navigate this difficult season. You are not alone—God sees you, loves you, and has a plan for your life that is good and full of hope.
please so I can do alone . Please help me. I feel so alone
