We understand the weight of the struggles you are carrying—spiritual warfare, physical and mental challenges, financial hardship, and the deep longing for a godly wife. These burdens can feel overwhelming, but we are reminded in Scripture that our strength comes from the Lord, and He is faithful to sustain us even in the midst of trials. Let us first address the foundation of your walk with Christ, for without Him, we can do nothing.
You mentioned that God said, *"It is not good for man to be alone"* (Genesis 2:18, WEB), and we affirm this truth. Marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God, and it is right to desire a spouse who will walk with you in faith, encouraging you in the Lord. However, we must also remember that our first and greatest love must be for Christ. He alone satisfies the deepest longings of our hearts, and it is in Him that we find our identity, purpose, and strength. Seek first His kingdom and righteousness, and He will provide all that you need (Matthew 6:33, WEB). A godly marriage is a blessing, but it is not the source of your completion—Christ is.
We notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus, and this is something we must address with urgency and love. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me'* (John 14:6, WEB). *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we implore you to do so now. Confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9, WEB). It is only in His name that we can boldly approach the throne of grace and receive mercy and help in our time of need.
Now, let us speak to the spiritual warfare you are facing. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10, WEB), but greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4, WEB). You are not fighting this battle in your own strength. Put on the whole armor of God so that you may stand firm against the schemes of the devil (Ephesians 6:10-18, WEB). This includes the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, the shoes of the gospel of peace, the shield of faith, the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. Prayer is your lifeline—do not neglect it, even when you feel weak or distracted. The Lord hears the cries of His people, and He will strengthen you as you seek Him.
Your physical and mental health are also deeply connected to your spiritual well-being. The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20, WEB), and we are called to steward it well. Neglecting your health due to a lack of funds is a real and heavy burden, but we encourage you to trust in the Lord’s provision. He knows your needs, and He is able to provide in ways you cannot imagine. *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB). Seek wisdom in how to care for your body even in this season—whether through simple exercises, rest, or seeking help from your church community or local resources. Do not isolate yourself; the body of Christ is called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2, WEB).
As for your desire for a wife, we pray that the Lord will grant you patience and trust in His timing. A marriage built on faith begins with two people who are individually surrendered to Christ. We encourage you to prepare yourself now to be the husband God has called you to be—one who loves as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25, WEB), who leads with humility and servanthood, and who is grounded in the Word. Pray for your future wife, that the Lord would also be preparing her heart and drawing her closer to Him. *"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). This does not mean that God is a genie who grants our every wish, but when our desires align with His will, He is faithful to fulfill them in His perfect timing.
Lastly, we must address the discipline of reading God’s Word and prayer. These are not optional for the believer—they are the very breath of our spiritual lives. If you have lost focus, repent and return to the Lord. He is gracious and merciful, ready to restore you. *"Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded"* (James 4:8, WEB). Start small if you must—even five minutes in the Word and prayer is a step of obedience. The Lord honors a heart that seeks Him, even in weakness.
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Let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our brother who is weary and burdened. Lord, You see the battles he is facing—spiritual, physical, and mental—and You know the depths of his heart’s desires. We ask that You strengthen him by Your Spirit, reminding him that his help comes from You, the Maker of heaven and earth (Psalm 121:1-2, WEB). Break the chains of discouragement and distraction that have hindered his prayer life and time in Your Word. Renew his mind and his passion for You, Lord. Let him find his joy and satisfaction in You alone, even as he waits for the desires You have placed in his heart.
Father, we pray for his physical and mental health. You are Jehovah-Rapha, the God who heals. Provide for his needs, Lord, whether through supernatural means or through the hands of Your people. Give him wisdom to steward his body well, even in this season of lack. Open doors for him to receive the care and support he needs, and let him not be ashamed to ask for help. Remind him that he is not alone—You are with him, and Your body is called to walk alongside him.
Lord, we lift up his desire for a godly wife. You have said it is not good for man to be alone, and we ask that You prepare him and his future spouse for a marriage that glorifies You. Give him patience to wait on Your timing, and let him use this season to grow in Christlikeness. Guard his heart from impatience or compromise, and let him seek a wife who is first and foremost a lover of You. Unify them in purpose and faith, and let their marriage be a testament to Your goodness.
We rebuke the enemy’s attacks against our brother. No weapon formed against him shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17, WEB). Fill him with Your peace that surpasses understanding, and let him stand firm in the armor You have provided. Restore his discipline in prayer and the Word, Lord. Let him hunger and thirst for righteousness, and satisfy him with Your presence.
Finally, Father, if our brother has not yet fully surrendered to Jesus as Lord, we pray that today would be the day of salvation for him. Open his eyes to the truth of the gospel—that Christ died for his sins, was buried, and rose again on the third day (1 Corinthians 15:3-4, WEB). Let him place his faith in Jesus alone, and fill him with Your Holy Spirit. May he walk in the confidence of his identity in Christ, knowing that he is Your beloved child.
We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Col 1:9-12: "We keep asking to be filled with the knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so we may walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work, increasing in the knowledge of God, strengthened with all power, according to His glorious might, for the attaining of all perseverance and patience; joyously giving thanks to the Father". ... I pray in Jesus' Name, Amen.
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