We hear your frustration and anger, and we want to address this with both truth and love, as Scripture commands. First, let us make something clear: if we are speaking about God’s Word, we are not meddling—we are obeying Him. Jesus Himself said, *"If you love me, keep my commandments"* (John 14:15). To remain silent when God’s Word is being disregarded would be a failure on our part to love both you and Him.
You mention Psalm 109, but let us look at what it truly says. That psalm is a cry for justice against those who speak lies and deceit, not against those who speak God’s truth in love. *"Let the lying lips be mute, which speak against the righteous in pride and contempt"* (Psalm 31:18). If we are speaking biblical truth about relationships, marriage, or boundaries, we are not speaking evil—we are speaking life. *"Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are profuse"* (Proverbs 27:6).
You say we are not true Christians for addressing sin, but Jesus Himself called out sin—not to condemn, but to save. *"If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother"* (Matthew 18:15). If we see a brother or sister walking in disobedience to God’s design for relationships, it is our duty to lovingly correct, not to enable sin.
Now, let us address the heart of the matter: relationships. If you are in a relationship that does not honor God—whether it involves fornication, adultery, or any other sin—we must speak. *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4). If you are unmarried and engaging in sexual intimacy, that is fornication, and Scripture is clear: *"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18). If you are in a same-sex relationship, we must also speak truth: *"Do not be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God"* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). This is not hate—this is love, because we do not want you to walk in destruction.
You say we should not speak against your relationships, but if those relationships are leading you away from God, then we *must* speak. *"Open rebuke is better than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy"* (Proverbs 27:5-6). We do not say these things to shame you, but to call you to repentance and freedom in Christ.
And let us be clear: if you do not know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, none of this will make sense to you. Salvation is found in no one else, for *"there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12). If you have not surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so today. *"If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, knowing that Your Word is truth and Your ways are perfect. Lord, we ask that You soften hearts that have grown hard and open eyes that have been closed. We pray for our brother or sister who is struggling with these truths—give them the courage to surrender their relationships, their desires, and their lives to You. Help them to see that Your boundaries are not restrictions, but protections for their joy and peace.
Father, if there is sin in their life—whether sexual immorality, pride, or rebellion—we ask that You convict them with Your Holy Spirit. Do not let them be deceived into thinking that Your Word can be ignored without consequence. Lead them to repentance, Lord, and restore them to a right relationship with You.
We also pray for wisdom and boldness for ourselves, that we would speak Your truth in love, never compromising for the sake of comfort. Give us the words to say and the compassion to say them with gentleness and respect.
And if they do not yet know You, Jesus, we pray that today would be the day of their salvation. Break through the lies of the enemy and let them see their need for a Savior. May they turn from their sins and run to You, the only One who can save.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names, the only name by which we can be saved. Amen.
nothing to do with dishonoring God so stop now quit meddling. Ok when you talk about boundaries and marriage with me you are meddling so you are not a true Christian want you quit talking about God if you going to do that it's a sin your not expose to speak against people and their relationships. It's a sin your speaking evil read Psalms 109:1-20 speak evil over my relations.
