We hear the deep sorrow in your words, and our hearts ache with you as you carry this heavy burden. The pain of being alienated from your child by someone who should be working alongside you to raise them in love is a wound that cuts deep. It is not God’s design for families to be torn apart by bitterness or manipulation. The Bible tells us in Malachi 2:16, *"For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence!" says Yahweh of Armies. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you don’t deal treacherously."* While your situation may not involve divorce directly, the spirit of treachery and division is the same, and it grieves the heart of God.
We must also address the brokenness of your family structure. God’s design for parenting is that children are raised by a mother and a father who are united in marriage, reflecting His love and order. The fact that you and your son’s father are not married and are struggling in this way is a sign of the fallen world we live in. However, this does not mean you are without hope. We encourage you to seek God’s healing and restoration, not just for your relationship with your son, but for your own heart as well. If there is any possibility of reconciliation with your son’s father—one that honors God and His principles—we pray that the Lord would open that door. If not, we pray for wisdom and strength to navigate this path in a way that honors God and protects your child’s heart.
The enemy would love for you to believe that this pain will never end, that the alienation will continue indefinitely, and that you are powerless. But we rebuke that lie in the name of Jesus Christ. The Bible tells us in Psalm 30:5, *"For his anger is but for a moment; his favor is for a lifetime. Weeping may stay for the night, but joy comes in the morning."* Your morning of joy will come, but it may require you to stand firm in faith and trust God’s timing. Do not lose heart. Galatians 6:9 reminds us, *"Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up."*
We also want to gently remind you that our access to God is only through the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name by which we can be saved or find true peace. Acts 4:12 says, *"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you have not already, we encourage you to surrender your life to Jesus, to ask for His forgiveness, and to invite Him to be the Lord of your life. He is the only one who can heal your heart and bring true restoration.
Now, let us lift you and your son up in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister who is carrying the weight of sadness and alienation. Lord, You see her pain, and You collect every tear she has shed. We ask that You would comfort her with Your presence and remind her that she is never alone. Father, we pray for her son, that You would protect his heart and mind from the division and strife that the enemy seeks to sow. Surround him with Your love and give him a deep sense of security in You.
Lord, we ask that You would soften the heart of her son’s father. If it is Your will, bring repentance and restoration to their relationship, that they may co-parent in a way that honors You and blesses their son. If that is not Your plan, give her the strength and wisdom to navigate this season with grace and faith. Father, we rebuke the spirit of alienation and division in the name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper, and we speak healing and unity over their lives.
We pray for this sister’s heart, Lord. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Remind her daily that You are her refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Help her to cast all her anxieties on You, for You care for her. Father, we ask that You would restore her joy and give her hope for the future. Let her see Your hand at work in her life, even in the midst of this trial.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.
Dear sister, we want to encourage you to hold fast to God’s promises. This season of sadness will not last forever. Continue to seek the Lord in prayer and in His Word. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can support and uplift you. And remember, God is a Father to the fatherless and a defender of the widow (Psalm 68:5). He sees you, He loves you, and He will not abandon you. Keep pressing into Him, and trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). You are not alone in this.