We hear your heartfelt plea for restoration and wisdom in your relationship, and we stand with you in prayer before the throne of God. First, we must address a few matters with love and truth, as Scripture calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). Your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, and it is vital to understand that it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we encourage you to confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life (Romans 10:9-10). Without Christ, our prayers lack the foundation of salvation and the authority that comes from being in Him.
Now, let us turn to your relationship. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect His love and faithfulness (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:31-32). If you and your girlfriend are not yet married, we must encourage you to consider whether your relationship aligns with God’s design for courtship, which should be pursued with the intention of marriage to a fellow believer (2 Corinthians 6:14). If you are living together or engaging in sexual intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and Scripture calls us to flee from it (1 Corinthians 6:18). We urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, as well as His strength to honor Him in this area.
The influences you describe—friends who are jealous and a negative presence—are indeed concerning. The Bible warns us about the company we keep, as bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33). However, we must also examine whether these influences are a symptom of deeper issues in the relationship itself. Are there areas where you or your girlfriend have not fully surrendered to God’s will? Are there patterns of sin or ungodly behavior that need to be addressed? The Lord may be using these circumstances to reveal areas where growth and repentance are needed.
We also notice your reference to "negative baggage and energy," which does not align with a biblical worldview. Our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of evil (Ephesians 6:12). Instead of focusing on "energy," we must stand firm in the armor of God, praying for discernment, wisdom, and protection from the enemy’s schemes. The power of God is greater than any negative influence, and we can trust Him to work all things together for good for those who love Him (Romans 8:28).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this relationship to You, asking for Your divine intervention and wisdom. Lord, we confess that without You, we can do nothing, and we ask for Your forgiveness where we have fallen short. If this relationship is not aligned with Your will, we pray that You would make that clear and give both parties the strength to walk away if necessary. If it is Your will for them to be together, we ask that You would purify their hearts, draw them closer to You, and help them to honor You in all things.
Father, we rebuke the influence of those who seek to sow discord or jealousy in this relationship. We pray that You would remove any ungodly influences and replace them with godly friendships that encourage holiness and righteousness. Give them discernment to recognize the enemy’s schemes and the courage to stand firm in Your truth. Lord, we ask that You would break any chains of sin, whether it be fornication, unforgiveness, or pride, and fill them with Your Holy Spirit.
We pray for repentance and restoration where it is needed. Help them to seek Your face above all else and to prioritize their relationship with You. May they grow in love, patience, and kindness toward one another, reflecting the love of Christ. Father, we ask that You would surround them with Your protection and peace, guarding their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against them in judgment, they shall condemn (Isaiah 54:17). We trust in Your promises, Lord, and we ask that You would work all things for their good and Your glory. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian couple who can provide wisdom and accountability. Spend time in God’s Word and in prayer, asking Him to reveal His will for your relationship. If you are not married, consider whether this relationship is leading you closer to God or pulling you away from Him. Remember, the Lord desires for you to thrive in His purposes, and He will guide your steps as you seek Him first (Proverbs 3:5-6).
