We hear your heart’s cry for restoration and healing in what you describe as your relationship, and we come before the throne of grace together in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can approach the Father and find true salvation. It is through Him alone that we have access to God’s power, wisdom, and mercy. If you have not yet placed your trust in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12).
First, let us address the foundation of this relationship. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, established by God for a lifetime (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If you and this woman are not married, we must gently but firmly encourage you to align your relationship with God’s design. Courtship should be entered into with the intent to marry, and it should be pursued with purity, holiness, and a shared commitment to Christ. The Bible warns against fornication—sexual intimacy outside of marriage—which defiles the body and dishonors God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this is part of your relationship, we urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, turning away from sin and toward His righteousness.
We also notice your concern about the influences surrounding your girlfriend. While it is understandable to desire the removal of negative influences, we must remember that our ultimate trust must be in God, not in the absence of people or circumstances. The apostle Paul reminds us in 2 Corinthians 12:10, “For when I am weak, then I am strong,” meaning that God’s power is made perfect in our weakness, not in the absence of trials. Instead of focusing solely on removing others, let us pray for God to strengthen your girlfriend’s discernment and her ability to stand firm in her faith, even in the face of ungodly influences. Proverbs 13:20 tells us, “One who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.” Pray that she would be drawn to godly friendships that encourage her walk with Christ.
We also want to gently rebuke the language of “negative baggage and energy,” as it does not align with biblical truth. The Bible does not speak of energy or spiritual forces in the way the world often does. Instead, it speaks of spiritual warfare, where our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, authorities, and powers of this dark world (Ephesians 6:12). The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world but have divine power to demolish strongholds (2 Corinthians 10:4). We must put on the full armor of God—truth, righteousness, the gospel of peace, faith, salvation, and the Word of God—to stand against the schemes of the devil (Ephesians 6:10-18).
Let us pray together now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this situation to You, asking for Your divine intervention and wisdom. Lord, we first ask for forgiveness for any ways this relationship has not honored You, particularly if there has been sexual sin or impurity. Cleanse hearts, minds, and bodies, and lead both individuals into repentance and holiness. Father, we pray for this woman, that You would draw her closer to You and give her discernment to recognize ungodly influences in her life. Surround her with godly friends who will encourage her faith and hold her accountable. Give her the strength to walk away from relationships that pull her away from You.
Lord, we also pray for this man, that You would fill him with Your Holy Spirit, giving him the courage to pursue righteousness and to lead this relationship in a way that honors You. If marriage is Your will for them, prepare their hearts and guide them in Your ways. If this relationship is not in Your will, give them the strength to surrender it to You and to trust in Your perfect plan.
Father, we rebuke any spiritual forces of darkness that may be at work in this situation. We declare that no weapon formed against this relationship—or against Your purposes—will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We ask that You break every chain of jealousy, strife, and ungodliness, and replace it with Your peace, love, and unity. Help them both to fix their eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of their faith (Hebrews 12:2).
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. Whether You choose to restore, redirect, or refine, let Your will be done. Give them both the faith to trust You, even when the path is unclear. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believers who can walk alongside you in this journey. Surround yourself with a community of faith that will pray for you, hold you accountable, and speak truth into your life. Remember, God’s plans for you are good, and He desires to give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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