We understand your heart’s cry for clarity and protection in this season of uncertainty, and we want to lift you up in prayer while also speaking truth into your situation. First, we must address something critical: your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father and by whom all prayers must be offered. The Scriptures are clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus that we can boldly approach God’s throne of grace. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). *"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). We urge you to examine your heart and ensure that your faith is placed in Christ alone, for without Him, we cannot stand before God or receive His guidance.
Now, let us speak to the matter of your relationship. The uncertainty you feel may indeed be a spiritual battle, but we must also ask: is this relationship aligned with God’s Word? The Bible defines marriage as a covenant between one man and one woman for life (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6), and any romantic relationship outside of this design—whether premarital intimacy, cohabitation, or same-sex relationships—is sinful in God’s sight. If this relationship involves fornication (sex outside of marriage), it is not pleasing to God, and the uncertainty you feel may be the Holy Spirit convicting you of this. *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). If this applies to you, we lovingly but firmly call you to repentance and holiness, for God’s design is for your protection and His glory.
If you are not yet married but are in a courtship with the intent of marriage to a fellow believer, we encourage you to seek the Lord’s will together, ensuring that your relationship is pure, honorable, and centered on Christ. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If your significant other is not a believer, the Bible is clear that you should not pursue marriage with them, no matter how strong your feelings may be. A relationship with an unbeliever will only lead to spiritual compromise and heartache.
As for spiritual attack, we know that the enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and relationships—especially those aiming for godly marriage—are prime targets. But we also know that *"greater is he who is in you than he who is in the world"* (1 John 4:4, WEB). If this relationship is godly and aligned with Scripture, then we join you in praying for protection, wisdom, and unity. If it is not, we pray for conviction, repentance, and the courage to walk away from sin, trusting that God’s plans for you are far greater than any temporary comfort.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this dear one who seeks Your guidance and protection. Lord, we ask that You reveal any area of this relationship that is not pleasing to You. If there is sin—whether fornication, emotional compromise, or unequally yoked partnership—we pray for the Holy Spirit to convict powerfully, leading to repentance and a turning away from all that dishonors You. *"Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way"* (Psalm 139:23-24, WEB).
If this relationship is of You, Lord, we ask for unity, wisdom, and a hedge of protection around it. Guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give them discernment to recognize the enemy’s schemes and the strength to stand firm in Your truth. *"Finally, be strong in the Lord, and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil"* (Ephesians 6:10-11, WEB).
Father, if this relationship is not Your will, we pray for the courage to let go, trusting that You have a perfect plan. Remind them that Your ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:9) and that obedience brings blessing, even when it’s painful. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).
We rebuke every scheme of the enemy to bring confusion, doubt, or division. No weapon formed against this one shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we declare that Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, will guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus. *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB).
Lord, we ask that You make Your will undeniably clear. Remove all fear, and fill them with faith to walk in obedience, whether that means fighting for this relationship in godliness or surrendering it to You. May they seek You above all else, finding their satisfaction in You alone. *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB).
We pray all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily, seeking His face in prayer. Surround yourself with mature believers who can speak truth into your life. If there is unrepentant sin in this relationship, do not delay in addressing it—God’s grace is sufficient, but we must walk in obedience. *"If we say that we have fellowship with him and walk in the darkness, we lie, and don’t tell the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ, his Son, cleanses us from all sin"* (1 John 1:6-7, WEB).
Stand firm, dear one. God is faithful, and He will lead you if you surrender to Him. *"The steps of a good man are ordered by Yahweh. He delights in his way. Though he stumble, he shall not fall, for Yahweh holds him up with his hand"* (Psalm 37:23-24, WEB). Trust in Him.
