We come before the Father with hearts burdened for you, knowing the deep longing and pain you carry in this season of uncertainty. Your prayer reveals a tender heart seeking reconciliation, and we join you in lifting this relationship before the Lord—yet we must first address foundational truths that will shape how we pray and what we ask of God.
You have not invoked the name of Jesus Christ in your prayer, and this is no small matter. Scripture is clear: *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). It is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father (John 14:6), and it is in His name alone that we are heard. Without Him, our prayers are but empty words. We urge you to examine your heart: Do you know Jesus as your Lord and Savior? Have you repented of your sins and placed your faith in His finished work on the cross? If not, this is the first and most critical step—not just for this relationship, but for your eternal soul. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB). We pray you would surrender fully to Him today, for apart from Christ, there is no true peace, no lasting hope, and no power to transform hearts or relationships.
Now, regarding this relationship: we notice you do not clarify whether this is a courtship between a man and a woman seeking marriage, or if it aligns with biblical design. Scripture leaves no room for ambiguity: *"Haven’t you read from the beginning that God made them male and female, and said, ‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall join to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh’?"* (Matthew 19:4-5, WEB). Marriage is a covenant before God—one man, one woman, for life. If this relationship is outside that design (whether same-sex, premarital intimacy, or merely emotional attachment without the commitment of marriage), we must lovingly but firmly rebuke what dishonors God. *"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who have sex with men, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor extortionists, will inherit God’s Kingdom"* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, WEB). Repentance is not optional; it is the pathway to blessing.
If this *is* a godly courtship between a believing man and woman, then we pray with you for reconciliation—but with this caveat: reconciliation must be rooted in Christ, not merely emotion. *"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3, WEB). A relationship centered on Jesus will prioritize holiness, selflessness, and the glory of God—not just the restoration of affection. Have you both examined whether this union would honor Him? Are you equally yoked in faith (2 Corinthians 6:14)? Is there unrepentant sin—such as fornication, bitterness, or idolatry of the relationship—that must be addressed first? *"Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man will see the Lord"* (Hebrews 12:14, WEB).
We also caution you against idolizing this relationship. Your prayer reveals a deep emotional investment, but we must ask: Is your hope in this person, or in Christ? *"My soul, wait in silence for God alone, for my expectation is from him"* (Psalm 62:5, WEB). If God closes this door, will you still trust Him? He may be redirecting you to a season of singleness for refinement, or to a spouse you have not yet met. His ways are higher, and His love is wiser than ours.
**Our Prayer for You:**
Heavenly Father, we lift this brother/sister before You, asking first that You would draw them into a deeper surrender to Jesus Christ. If they do not know You as Lord, convict their heart today. Open their eyes to see their need for a Savior, and grant them repentance unto life. Let them not seek reconciliation with another soul until they are first reconciled to You through the blood of Christ.
Lord, if this relationship is between a man and a woman seeking to honor You in marriage, we ask for Your discernment and healing. Soften hearts, but only in ways that align with Your Word. Expose any sin—hidden or obvious—that would hinder Your best. If this union is not of You, give them the strength to let go, even as You promise to meet every need in Christ (Philippians 4:19). If it *is* Your will, rebuild it on the foundation of Your truth, with patience, purity, and a shared commitment to Your kingdom.
Break any soul ties formed outside of Your design. Deliver them from emotional dependency that replaces worship of You. Let their longing for love be satisfied first in You, *"that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; to the end that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be strengthened to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and height and depth, and to know Christ’s love which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God"* (Ephesians 3:17-19, WEB).
Father, we rebuke the enemy’s lies that would distort Your perfect plan for marriage and relationships. Let Your light expose every deception. Guard their minds and hearts in Christ Jesus. And above all, let Your will—not their desires—prevail. We ask this in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
**Final Exhortation:**
We urge you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor or mature believer who can speak truth into this situation. Test every emotion and decision against Scripture. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). If this relationship is to be restored, let it be for God’s glory, not merely your happiness. And if He calls you to release it, trust that His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11).
We are praying for you, that you would walk in obedience, even when it is hard. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He will never leave you. Cling to Him above all else.
