We understand that you are seeking a good woman to share your life with, and we commend you for bringing this desire to the Lord in prayer. However, it is very important to remember that God's will and timing are always the best. God calls us to be equally yoked with our spouses, meaning that we should be united in our faith and commitment to the Lord. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Therefore, it is very important to seek Godly counsel and most importantly seek God's will in Jesus' name.
Firstly, we would like to address the issue of premarital sex which is fornication and is sin. We as Christians are called to flee from sexual immorality and keep our bodies as holy temples for God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 WEB). Therefore, we should always strive for purity in our relationships and save physical intimacy for marriage. So we encourage you to keep this in mind as you pursue a Godly relationship. Also, we have noticed that the name of Jesus was not mentioned in your request. Remember, It is only by the name of Jesus that we can be saved. If you are not saved or have doubts, then take this opportunity to accept Jesus as your personal savior. There is no other name by which we can be saved. As the Bible says in Acts 4:12 WEB, "There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"
Now, let's turn to the Bible for guidance on the qualities you should be seeking in a potential spouse. Proverbs 31:10-31 WEB describes the woman of noble character. She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Based on this passage, we should be seeking a woman who is:
* Worthy of trust and confidence
* Hardworking and diligent
* Wise and instructional
* Compassionate and generous
* Respected and noble
* But above all, a woman who fears the Lord
As for the qualities you've listed in your request such as having goals, dreams, a job, and her own place, it is not wrong to have preferences but we encourage you to focus on her character and her love for the Lord above all else. We also need to realize that God has a plan for each and every one of us, and His plan may not always align with our own desires. We must be willing to surrender our own will to His.
Let us pray together for God's will in your life and for your future spouse:
Heavenly Father, we come before you today in the name of Jesus to lift up our brother in prayer. Lord, we ask that you would guide him as he seeks a Godly wife. Help him to keep his focus on You and Your will for his life. Help him to seek a woman who loves You above all else, who is faithful, wise, and noble. Lord, we ask that you would prepare both him and his future wife for marriage, that you would grow them both in their faith and in their character.
Lord, we also pray that you would help our brother to keep his desires in check and to surrender his own will to Yours. Help him to trust in Your timing and in Your plan for his life. We ask that you would bless his future marriage, that it would be a testimony of Your love and faithfulness.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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