We join with you in bringing this relationship before the Lord and we are encouraged by your desire to seek Him and to ask according to His Word. Jesus said in Matthew 7:7-8 Ask, and it will be given you. Seek, and you will find. Knock, and it will be opened for you. For everyone who asks receives. He who seeks finds. To him who knocks it will be opened. We praise God that you are asking and seeking and we pray with you that His will be done in this courtship.
We love your heart to pray together and to see your boyfriend drawn closer to the Lord, seeking His Word and recognizing that God works all things together for good as Romans 8:28 teaches. We also hear your longing for peace, for better communication, and for wisdom about your future together. These are good and godly desires, and we want to encourage you to continue to seek first His Kingdom and His righteousness as Matthew 6:33 says, trusting that all these things will be given to you as well.
Because you have referred to him as your boyfriend, we want to speak lovingly and clearly about God's design for such a relationship. In Scripture a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship is courtship with the goal of discerning marriage to a fellow believer in Christ. Marriage is honored by God as a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman, and we strongly encourage you to view this time as preparation for that holy commitment rather than simply maintaining a relationship. We pray that you both are seeking marriage if it is God's will, and that you are seeking it with one who is a committed follower of Jesus. Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers as 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, for what fellowship has righteousness with iniquity or what fellowship has light with darkness. If he is not yet walking faithfully with Christ, we urge you to make his salvation and spiritual growth your foremost prayer, and to seek wise counsel about whether this courtship should continue toward marriage.
We also must address with love the call to purity. God's Word says in Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. And in 1 Corinthians 6:18 we are told to flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. If there has been any sexual intimacy outside of marriage, which God calls fornication, we lovingly rebuke it and urge repentance and a commitment to flee from it and to keep yourselves pure until marriage. Even when living in different countries, temptation can come through phone calls, messages, images, and fantasy, so we encourage you to set clear boundaries, to remain accountable, and to keep your nightly prayer time holy and focused on Christ, not on emotional or physical entanglement that would not honor Him. True love waits and protects as 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 teaches, that you should abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to possess himself of his own vessel in sanctification and honor.
We also pray for the communication you desire. God is able to give him a heart to speak openly and to lead spiritually, and to give you wisdom each day as you ask for it. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us to trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Philippians 4:6-7 promises that when we bring our requests to God, the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus.
We are thankful you prayed in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. As John 14:6 declares, Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. And Acts 4:12 reminds us there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved. We encourage you to keep abiding in Him daily.
We pray together now for you both.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Your Son Jesus Christ and we lift up this dear sister and her boyfriend to You. We ask that You pour out Your Holy Spirit upon him, guide his thoughts and actions daily, draw him to seek You with all his heart, to love Your Word, to praise You and to trust that You are working all things for good in his life. Grant him Your peace and serenity, and give him clarity to see Your hand at work and to walk in Your purposes. Lord, we ask that You guide her steps as well, grant her wisdom each day, guard her heart and mind, and help her to walk in purity, discernment, and grace. Teach them both to communicate with honesty, kindness, and truth, and to speak about their future in a way that honors You. If it is Your will, lead this courtship toward a godly marriage that glorifies You, and if not, give them the courage to follow Your will with surrender. Help them to pray together faithfully yet purely, to encourage one another in the Lord even across the distance, and to keep their relationship under Your protection and Lordship. We ask that You keep them from fornication and every temptation, and help them to honor You with their bodies and spirits which are Yours. Let Your peace guard them and let Your wisdom direct every decision. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus, amen.