recliner

[barbaracottle]

mom had issue during the night trying to get the foot rest down to close it one of those you have to do your self with your own body i was afraid that might be issues since you have to use your body legs to push it back in when you get down so she ask me to come over this morning and see what i think i sure not want to tell her if this is the case she is not able to do it that would really be ruff since i didnt get one with handle and that was what she was hoping i got one like oh well when i told her i might of goofed she got upset and said that is why she not like to tell me any thing in her eyes i am running my self down which i prob do do that when things go wrong when i help others so keep my in your prayers this morning while i go over to try to see what might be going on with it prayers in Jesus name amen

 

[Articles]

We lift you up together before the Lord this morning and we thank you for sharing this burden with us and for your tender heart toward your mom. We see your desire to honor her and to help her well, and that desire itself is pleasing to God, for we are commanded Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which Yahweh your God gives you Exodus 20:12 and again Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother Ephesians 6:1-2. Your willingness to go over and look at the recliner and to face a difficult conversation is an act of love and obedience.

We also hear how heavy you feel about possibly having made a mistake with the recliner and how quickly you turn to running yourself down. We want to gently encourage you that this kind of self condemnation is not from the Lord. There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus Romans 8:1. God calls us to think of ourselves with sober judgment, not to think too highly nor to tear ourselves down Romans 12:3. When things go wrong while we are trying to help others, the enemy would like us to believe we are a failure, but the Lord says whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men Colossians 3:23, and He sees your heart to do good. If indeed the recliner without a handle is too difficult for her to close with her legs, it is not a moral failure on your part, it is simply a practical matter that can be addressed with wisdom and grace.

We also understand the sting when your mom said that is why she does not like to tell you anything. Words spoken in frustration can hurt deeply, and we pray for healing in that communication between you. A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger Proverbs 15:1. We encourage you to go to her in love, speaking the truth in love Ephesians 4:15, with gentleness and without harshness toward yourself or toward her. If the footrest is truly too hard for her to operate, it is loving to tell her the truth kindly so that a better solution can be found, perhaps an exchange, an added handle, or another adjustment, rather than leaving her to struggle at night.

We are grateful you prayed in Jesus name, for it is only through Him we have access to the Father, and there is no other name by which we can be saved Acts 4:12 and Jesus said I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6. We cling to that promise as we pray.

We pray together now, Father in heaven, in the name of Jesus Christ we come before You for our dear friend and for his mother. Lord, we ask You to grant wisdom this morning as he goes over to examine the recliner, for You have promised If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him James 1:5. Give him clear eyes to see what is happening with the footrest and give him gracious words to speak to his mother. Lord, calm his anxious heart and help him to cast all his worries on You, because You care for him 1 Peter 5:7, and to not be anxious for anything, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving let his requests be made known to You, and let Your peace which surpasses all understanding guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus Philippians 4:6-7. Father, strengthen his mother physically, give her safety as she gets in and out of the chair, especially at night, and provide the right solution for this recliner, whether it is learning a better way to close it or providing a different chair that she can use with ease. Heal any hurt between them from words spoken in frustration, and help them to encourage one another and build each other up. Lord, lift from our brother the habit of running himself down, and remind him that You love him and that You work all things together for good for those who love You Romans 8:28. Let him know his labor of love for his mother is not in vain. We ask all this in the precious name of Jesus, amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We are praying for you as you head over to your mom's this morning. We hear how much you want to help her well, and how heavy it feels to worry you may have picked the wrong recliner and then to hear her disappointment.

It makes sense you would be hard on yourself in that moment. When we care a lot and something does not go as hoped, that self-critical voice can get loud quickly. Try to notice it and give yourself a little grace as you walk in, you were trying to do something kind for her, and you are still showing up to sort it out.

One simple way to approach it today might help keep things calm for both of you. When you get there, try the footrest yourself a few times to feel how much leg pressure it really takes and whether there is a trick to it. If it is stiff or truly hard for her to manage, you can tell her you will call the store together to ask about options, like an exchange or adding a handle, before any decisions are made. That keeps the focus on finding a safe solution with her, rather than on who got it wrong.

We are with you in this.

Father, we lift up this visit to You. Give calm and clear thinking, kind words between them, and wisdom about what is safe and workable for his mom. Quiet the harsh thoughts toward himself and replace them with Your peace. Guide the next steps for the chair and for their relationship. In Jesus' name, amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your care for your mother and your desire to help her well has been heard, and we will bring you before the Lord this morning as you go to her.

It is a tender thing to wish to do good for a parent and then to fear that the help has not been sufficient. You speak of running yourself down when things go wrong in trying to help others. Take heed to the difference the Scripture shows us. Every Christian in proportion as he lives near to God will feel a lowliness of heart and will say, look not upon me, for I am black. There is a true self abasement which endears Christ to the heart as the great Savior of unworthy ones. Yet there is also a self abnegation which is not genuine, being the offspring of self conceit and not of self knowledge, and much that we say of ourselves would mightily offend our vainglory if another said the same of us. Do not fall into mock humility, nor into repeating words of self condemnation without life and feeling. Rather humbly confess before God what is true, and then look to Christ who removes both guilt and guile, for when the Son removes guilt the Spirit removes guile and gives a new nature.

You need not fear as you go over to her house. The Lord says to His people, Fear not, thou worm Jacob, I will help thee, saith the Lord and thy Redeemer. Fear dishonors God and weakens the hands, but the fear of God and a holy fear of ourselves which makes us shun self reliance is a happy fear. Labor then to get rid of slavish fear, and quietly wait upon Him who has promised to restrain the powers that trouble us and to provide what we need.

Failure in such small matters, as in greater, may have Divine instruction in it and may be the preface to future usefulness. We are at college with Christ as our Tutor, and He often shows us our lack of faith that we may learn to lean more fully upon Him. Search out the matter simply. See whether the footrest catches or requires strength beyond what your mother can safely give, and consider what might be done to make it secure for her. Speak the truth in love, without excuse and without harshness, and trust the Lord with the outcome between you and your mother.

Let us pray together. O Lord our God, Thou seest this dear one who would honor his mother and do her good. Forgive all sin through the blood of Jesus Christ Thy Son which cleanses us from all sin, and let there be no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus. Take away slavish fear and give a lowly and quiet heart that rests in Thy help. Grant wisdom concerning this recliner, and give grace for gentle words that may heal the upset and restore peace in the home. Keep this Thy servant from self abhorrence that dishonors Thee, and draw him to find his worth in Christ alone. Hold him up lest he fall, and let Thy strength be made perfect in weakness. In the name of Jesus our Redeemer we ask it, Amen.

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.