Prayers

[Chrysostom]

The fear you feel at the thought of this child is not the fear that brings dissolution, but a sign that your conscience is not asleep. True love is not this tangled passion that burns contrary to the will of God. You speak of love, but hear the Apostle: when he longed for the Romans, he would not see them contrary to what seemed good to God. His affection was terrible and warm, like the tender mercies of Christ, yet it never transgressed the divine law. The love you describe, which seeks to be a light in nightmares only to lead to the passions of the flesh and the talking of dirty things, is not that love. For those passions, desire was implanted for a necessary end: the procreation of children within the lawful bed of marriage. But you have twisted it outside that bond, seeking to fulfill lusts that dissolve the fear of God.

You ask God to make this man love you and stay turned on by what you text him, yet the Spirit given to us is not a spirit of fear, but of power and of love toward God Himself, which then overflows to the neighbor in purity. Where is the fear of God in these requests? Where is the reverent acknowledgment that this child, if it exists, is a soul entrusted by the Creator, not a tool to bind a man to you through passion? You speak of being pregnant with his baby, and yet you do not speak of marriage, the only vessel holy enough to hold such a gift. Woe to them that are with child and give suck in days of judgment, not because the child is evil, but because the bonds of nature hold them fast to a world they love more than God. Do not exult over the prospect of this child while living in a state that offends heaven. Now is not a time for good cheer, but for fear and trembling, that you may turn and live.

If you truly love him, love him as you owe a debt through our spiritual kinship. Love does not consist in making him your light in nightmares only to entice him to bed. That is to make room in your hearts for lust, not for Christ. The Apostle longed for his children with the bowels of Jesus Christ, a glowing warmth that sought their virtue, their mourning, their zeal for him in the Lord. You say you want to support him and ask him questions from his heart, but you mingle this good impulse with a thousand unlawful desires. You cannot serve two masters. Renounce the sin, and then your care for his soul will be acceptable to God. Make room for Christ first, and then for a love that is according to knowledge and all discernment, that you may approve the things that are excellent, and be sincere and without offense.

You fear to know if you are with child, and I tell you, let that fear be the beginning of wisdom. For if you love Me, says the Lord, keep My commandments. To love is to obey His words, not to ask blessings on a union that breaks them. You pray for peace, for him to fall in true love with you, but true love is shown by works of righteousness, not by the passion of the moment which you then try to play off. You ask that all who meet you will like you, but better to be unknown and pleasing to God than approved by the whole world while living in transgression. The Spirit of truth cannot be received by the world, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him. Turn, then, and receive that Comforter by discarding the works of darkness. Let your longing be for God, and let your body be kept pure until you may enter into the honorable estate of marriage, if that be His will. Only then can the desire for children be a fruit of righteousness unto the glory and praise of God.

 

[Silas]

Your prayer shows a heart that longs for love, for family, and for security, and it’s clear you’re carrying real fear right now. That fear is something God understands deeply, and across Scripture His first word to so many who trembled was, “Fear not.” When the angel appeared to Zacharias after centuries of silence, the message wasn’t judgment but mercy: your prayer is heard. Just as Zacharias and Elizabeth prayed for years for a child, God hasn’t forgotten you. He sees the life you may be carrying, and He is the one who knits every child together in the womb. That should give you reason to pause and trust Him, even when your own heart is racing.

But fear not isn’t just comfort, it’s also a call. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and wisdom teaches us to hate what is evil. You can’t cling to God with one hand and embrace things He warns against with the other. When you describe the physical intimacy you long for with this man, all the passion and the words exchanged, I understand the desire for closeness, but God designed those things to be enjoyed within the safety of a marriage covenant. The things God tells us to do build up a home and make it stable. The things He says to avoid are the very things that tear hearts and families apart. Right now, your relationship is built on a pattern that isn’t in line with His design, and that will bring trouble, not the lasting love you crave.

Remembering the Lord is the cure for fear. When you let fear drive your decisions, fear of losing this man, fear of being alone, fear of the unknown, you’ll make choices that push faith aside. Faith and fear can’t live together. So instead of chasing after a fantasy of passion that hasn’t been grounded in commitment, bring your whole situation under God’s authority. You’ve prayed persistently, and that persistence is good, but let your prayer be shaped by His will, not just your immediate emotions. Ask Him to make the path clear, to give you the courage to follow His way, and to provide for this child in the shelter of a righteous family. He wants to give you true peace, not just a moment’s relief.

The man you love carries his own burdens from his time in the service, and you long to be a light for him. That’s a beautiful desire, to be a source of healing. But that healing will never come through a relationship built on disobedience. Real love doesn’t just spark in the night and try to laugh it off later. Real love walks in the daylight, in faithfulness, and in the fear of God. If this child is growing inside you, then God has already begun a story of redemption. He can rewrite what feels chaotic right now into something that honors Him and brings you a deep, settled joy. Lean hard on Him, turn from what you know is against His word, and watch how He can make even this season a testimony of His goodness.

 

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We are so grateful you shared your heart with us and allowed us to lift your fears, hopes, and deepest desires before our Heavenly Father. It is a sacred privilege to stand in agreement with you as you navigate this uncertain yet precious time of waiting and trusting in God’s plan for your life and the life of this little one you carry.

We continue to pray for peace to guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus, especially as you consider the next steps. May the Lord confirm His presence with you, calming every fear and filling you with His perfect love that casts out all doubt. We ask the Father to strengthen the bond between you and the father of this child, that your communication would be filled with grace, understanding, and mutual care. May God open doors for gentle, honest conversations—helping you both grow closer to each other and to Him as you prepare for this new season.

We also lift up your prayer for a baby boy, trusting that God hears the desires of your heart and will answer according to His perfect will. May He grant you both wisdom, patience, and joy as you await His timing. And as you seek to support one another, we pray the Lord would heal past wounds, replace nightmares with hope, and fill your relationship with laughter, tenderness, and true intimacy—rooted in Him.

If the Lord has already answered any part of your prayer, we would love to rejoice with you! Please share a praise report so we can give thanks together. If you’re still waiting, know that we stand with you—praying without ceasing for God’s peace, provision, and purpose to unfold in your life. May He draw you ever closer to Himself and reveal His goodness in every detail.

We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.