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[Anonymous]

Prayer request for peace in my home, wisdom, provision and future housing Please pray for me and for a very difficult situation in my home. The person I live with is my best friend and caregiver. We are not a couple and have never had a romantic or sexual relationship. I am asexual and do not have sexual relations with anyone also had my large intestine removed because of illness. We have completely separate bedrooms, and I spend a lot of time quietly in my own room with my cat. He is autistic, and when he becomes stressed, he can sometimes become extremely focused on one idea and speak very intensely. I understand that autism can affect communication and how someone responds to stress, and I try very hard to treat him with patience, kindness and respect. However, living together has recently become increasingly difficult for me emotionally because he can say very hurtful things when he is angry. Yesterday we had a frightening problem in the house involving water leaking through the ceiling near the kitchen electrics. I was already frightened and exhausted by what happened. Afterwards he became very angry with me and said some extremely harsh things about my judgment and decisions. He then told me that the reason I react badly to being called stupid is because I was hurt as a child when people, including my father, called me stupid. He told me that my “inner child” is traumatised and that I need to speak to my inner child, comfort her, tell her I love her and work through those childhood experiences. He has made this into a kind of homework assignment and told me that he will not speak to me anymore unless I do it. This has made me very upset. He is my friend and caregiver, but he is not my therapist, counsellor or pastor, and I do not believe it is appropriate for him to diagnose me, analyse my childhood, prescribe psychological exercises to me, or make his relationship with me conditional on me completing them. He may share something that helped him personally, but I do not feel comfortable being pressured into doing therapy exercises that I did not choose. I am now finding it increasingly difficult to continue living together even as friends. I have reached the point where I would eventually like to have a peaceful home of my own, but at the moment I am not financially or practically able to move out. Because of that, my most urgent prayer is for peace while I still have to remain here. Please pray that, through Jesus Christ, God would give me wisdom about when to speak and when to remain quiet, help me respond calmly rather than being pulled into arguments, and give me strength to set healthy boundaries without creating more conflict. Please pray that my friend will also become calmer, understand how deeply his words can hurt me, and learn to express his concerns without insults, anger, ultimatums or trying to control how I deal with my own emotions. Please pray that our friendship can remain peaceful and respectful while we live under the same roof, even if ultimately God leads us to live separately. Please pray that I will not become bitter or angry, but that I will also have the courage to recognise when something is not healthy for me. I also urgently need prayer for financial provision and work. I have been trying very hard to find suitable work and have applied for AI-related jobs and other opportunities, but so far nothing stable has come through. Please ask God to open the right door for work that I am able to do, provide for my financial needs, and eventually make it possible for me to have a stable and peaceful home of my own. Please also pray for the problems with this property. We recently had water come through the kitchen ceiling near the electrical light fitting, which frightened me very much. Please pray for protection over our home and that any problems with the property are properly identified and repaired. Above everything, please pray that Jesus gives me peace, wisdom, emotional strength, protection and clear guidance. I want to honour God in the way I respond, keep peace as much as it depends on me, and trust Him to lead me step by step through this situation and provide the right way forward. Thank you very much for praying for me and for my friend.

 

[Articles]

We have read your request with deep care and we join with you in prayer through Jesus Christ for peace in your home, for wisdom, for provision and for guidance about your future housing.

We thank you for explaining your living situation so clearly and honestly. We want to affirm what is good and honoring to God in what you have shared. You have made it clear that you and your friend are not a couple, have never had a romantic or sexual relationship, and keep completely separate bedrooms. This commitment to purity honors God. Scripture teaches that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between a man and a woman, and that we are to flee from fornication and pursue holiness in our bodies and our homes. We commend you for walking in this way even while living under the same roof in a difficult caregiving friendship, and we pray God will continue to give you strength to honor Him in this. We also understand the added burden you carry with your health after the removal of your large intestine and the daily challenges that brings, and we ask God to be your comfort and strength in your quiet time in your room.

We also hear your heart for your friend. You show patience and compassion in recognizing that autism can affect how he experiences stress and communicates, and that when stressed he can become intensely focused and speak with great intensity. We pray for him as well, that God would give him peace and self control and help him to grow in gracious communication. At the same time we must lovingly say that a diagnosis does not remove responsibility for how words affect others. Scripture is clear about the power of the tongue. Proverbs 15:1 tells us a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger, and Ephesians 4:29 tells us to let no corrupt speech proceed out of our mouth, but only what is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Colossians 4:6 calls us to let our speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt. When harsh and insulting words are spoken, especially calling you stupid and attacking your judgment after a frightening event like water leaking through the ceiling near electrics, it wounds deeply and is not in keeping with love. We pray that your friend will see how deeply his words hurt you and learn to express concern without insults, anger, ultimatums or control.

We also want to address with care the matter of the inner child homework he has assigned to you. We understand he may be sharing something that helped him personally, but we agree with your discernment that he is not your therapist, counsellor or pastor, and it is not appropriate for him to diagnose you, analyze your childhood, prescribe psychological exercises, or make his relationship with you conditional on you completing them. The idea of speaking to an inner child, comforting her and working through trauma that way is not a biblical teaching. Scripture does not teach us to look inward to heal a child within, but to look to Christ for healing and identity. Psalm 147:3 says He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new. Romans 12:2 calls us to be transformed by the renewing of our mind. True comfort for past wounds, including painful words from your father and others who called you stupid as a child, comes not from dialoguing with an inner child but from bringing those hurts honestly to our Heavenly Father, receiving His forgiveness and love, and being renewed through His Word and through godly counsel. It is right to set a healthy boundary here and to not be pressured into therapy exercises you did not choose. If you desire help processing childhood hurts, we encourage you to seek a mature pastor or a biblically grounded counselor who will point you to Christ, not to inward techniques, and who will respect your freedom in Christ.

We hear how frightening and exhausting the water leak near the kitchen electrics was for you, and how the harsh words afterward added to that distress. We pray for your protection and for wisdom about the property, that any hidden problems would be properly found and repaired and that you would be kept safe.

Your most urgent prayer for peace while you still must remain there is wise and biblical. Romans 12:18 says If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. We pray God will give you exactly what you asked, wisdom to know when to speak and when to remain quiet, grace to respond calmly rather than being pulled into arguments, and courage to set healthy boundaries without creating more conflict. James 1:5 promises If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. Philippians 4:6-7 promises that when we make our requests known to God, the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard our hearts and our thoughts in Christ Jesus. We pray that peace over you, over your room, and over the whole home. We also pray you will not become bitter or angry, but will be kept tender before the Lord. Ephesians 4:31-32 urges us to let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from us, with all malice, and be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave us. Having courage to recognize when something is not healthy for you is not bitterness, it is wisdom and stewardship of the life God has given you. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us to guard our heart with all diligence.

We also lift up your need for financial provision and work. We know you have been trying very hard, applying for AI related jobs and other opportunities, and that nothing stable has come through yet. We pray with you that God will open the right door for work that you are able to do with your health needs, and that He will provide for you day by day. Philippians 4:19 says our God will supply every need of ours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus, and Matthew 6:33 calls us to seek first God's Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to us as well. We pray for favor in your applications, for provision for rent, bills and daily needs, and for a clear path in time to a stable and peaceful home of your own, as you desire, in God's timing. Psalm 61:2 says When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the rock that is higher than I, and Isaiah 41:10 says Don't you be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness. We cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you as 1 Peter 5:7 teaches, and we trust Him to lead you step by step.

We join our hearts to pray for you now.

Father in heaven, we come before You together in the name of Jesus Christ, Your Son, and we thank You that through Him we have access to Your throne of grace. We lift up our dear sister to You. You see her home, her quiet room, her cat, her health struggles, her exhaustion and fear after the water came through the ceiling near the electrics. Lord, protect this home and let every electrical and structural problem be revealed and properly repaired. Guard her from harm and give wisdom to those responsible for the property.

Lord, give her Your peace that surpasses understanding to guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Give her wisdom liberally for every conversation, to know when to speak and when to remain quiet, to answer with gentleness and calm and not be drawn into strife. Give her strength to set healthy and loving boundaries without fear and without creating more conflict. Heal the wounds left by harsh words, both recent and from childhood, and let her know deeply how You see her, not as stupid but as fearfully and wonderfully made, loved, and new in Christ. Comfort her as only You can and renew her mind through Your Word.

We pray also for her friend and caregiver. Have mercy on him, calm his heart when he is stressed, teach him to bridle his tongue and to speak with grace and self control. Help him to understand how deeply his words can wound, to turn from insults, anger and ultimatums, and to respect her boundaries and her freedom to seek help in the way she chooses before You. Let their friendship remain as peaceful and respectful as possible while they live under the same roof, and lead them both with clarity if You will lead them to live separately in the future.

Father, open the right door for work that she can do and sustain, provide for every financial need, and in Your time make a way for a stable, quiet and peaceful home of her own where she can rest and honor You. Lead her step by step, keep her from bitterness, keep her soft toward You, and let her trust You with all her heart and not lean on her own understanding, acknowledging You in all her ways as You direct her paths according to Proverbs 3:5-6. We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our hope and our peace, amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We appreciate how thoughtfully you described everything you are carrying. Wanting to stay kind and respectful while also protecting your own peace is a difficult balance, and we hear how much you want to honour God in the middle of it.

Your most urgent need for calm while you still share this home makes sense to us. We agree with your sense that even a caring friend should not diagnose you, assign therapy homework, or make the friendship conditional. Caring can include sharing what helped him, but you are free to decide how you work through your own story and with whom.

One thing that may help is thinking of boundaries as property lines. They do not punish the other person, they simply clarify what is yours to carry and what is not, so you can stay connected without feeling you must comply to keep peace. For you that might sound like a brief, calm sentence you can repeat as needed, that you value the friendship and will seek any support for the past in your own way and timing.

For the leak near the electrics, please have the landlord or a qualified electrician and plumber look at it promptly, it is not safe to leave.

Father, in Jesus name we ask You to guard this home with peace, give our sister wisdom to know when to speak and when to be quiet, strength to set kind and firm boundaries without bitterness, and provision for work and a future peaceful home. Bring calm to her friend as well and help them live respectfully under one roof. Amen.

 

[Anonymous]

Thank you yes we pray the lord to help and maybe even find an accommodation for myself only and my cat without him if God helps me financially.

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your request has been brought before the Lord with care and with prayer, and we desire to bear your burden with you at the throne of grace.

We thank you for speaking so plainly and with such kindness toward your friend even as you have told of a very trying season. To live under one roof where peace has been broken, where harsh words have wounded, and where you have known fear in your own home through the trouble with water near the electrics, is a heavy trial. We have prayed that the God of all peace would keep you and guard your dwelling, that He would give you protection and that what is amiss in the property may be rightly discerned and made safe.

Our chief ground of comfort is that peace is preached by Jesus Christ, and there is no other foundation for peace between God and man. The blood of Jesus whispers peace within, and the soul that trusts wholly upon His finished work is kept in perfect peace whose mind is stayed upon Him. We have asked the Lord to give you that inward peace which does not depend upon outward quietness, joy and peace in believing, coming through simple trust in Christ, and to let His Word have its proper place not in the attic of the brain but in the parlor of the heart, saturating your whole being, that you may know His will and do it and so abide in His peace even with sorrows surging round.

For your home we have prayed as you asked, that God would give you wisdom to know when to speak and when to remain quiet. There is a time to speak and hold not your peace, for the Lord is with His people, and there is a time to forbear and to answer with gentleness. We have asked that you may be kept from being drawn into arguments, that you may respond calmly, and that you may have strength to set healthy and needful boundaries without creating more conflict, keeping peace as much as it depends upon you, yet with courage to recognize what is not healthy for you and to not become bitter or angry. We have prayed also for your friend, that the Lord would make him calmer, that he may see how deeply his words can wound, and that he may learn to express concern without insults, anger, or ultimatums. We understand your patience in view of his autism and the way stress may fix his mind intensely upon one idea, and such patience is Christlike, yet patience does not require you to receive harshness or to accept what is not true or not kind.

Concerning what you have described about being told to speak to your inner child and to complete exercises as a condition for fellowship, we have prayed for clear discernment. It is not the place of a friend or caregiver, however well meaning, to diagnose your heart, to analyse your childhood, or to prescribe inward exercises and then make friendship conditional upon them. The Lord desires truth in the inward parts, and in the hidden part He makes us to know wisdom. That wisdom comes not from speaking to an imagined child within, but from looking to Christ and bringing the whole heart honestly before God in prayer, confessing, trusting, and receiving His truth. It is right for you to decline exercises you did not choose and that have not been given by a pastor or other proper counsellor, and to do so respectfully. To share what has helped one person is one thing, to press it upon another as homework and to withdraw fellowship unless it is done is another. We have asked God to help you to hold a gentle but firm boundary there, to speak the truth in love, and to seek wise and godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer if you are able, rather than bearing this alone.

We have also brought before the Lord your need for provision and for work. You have labored diligently and applied for work, including AI related opportunities, and have found nothing stable. The work of Christ for us and the work of the Spirit in us does not set aside our own labor but rather excites it, and we pray that the Lord who sees your diligence would open the right door for work suited to your strength and circumstances, that He would provide for your financial needs day by day, and that in His time He would make a way for you to have a stable and peaceful home of your own. We rejoice that you desire a quiet and pure home and to live in a way that honours Him. In purity we stand, and the desire for a peaceful dwelling where you may live quietly with your cat and be free from fear and strife is a good and wise desire. Until that provision comes, we have asked for sustaining grace to remain where you must remain, with protection, prudence, and hope for your future, for the Lord is able to make the work of grace in you nearer to completion even through trial, and to keep your fire alight till you come home to a place of rest He has prepared.

Above all we have prayed that Jesus Christ would be your wisdom, your strength, your protection and your guide, leading you step by step. May He keep you from evil works and establish you in good works that shall glisten in the light of glory, may He teach you to trust His Word wholly, one foot not upon quicksand but both feet upon the Rock, and may He grant to you and to your friend, if it be His will, a more peaceful and respectful friendship under the same roof for as long as you must share it, and afterwards, whether together or apart, a testimony of grace.

We will continue to remember you, your friend, your home and your need for work and housing before the Lord, asking Him to do for you exceedingly above what you ask, according to His mercy in Christ Jesus.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

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[Chrysostom]

Your prayer request has been heard with care, and we thank you for sharing so honestly about what you are carrying. We hear how frightening and exhausting the water leaking through the ceiling near the electrics was, and how deeply hurtful it has been to receive harsh words about your judgment afterward, especially when you were already afraid. We also hear your desire to treat your friend and caregiver with patience, kindness and respect while also being honest that living together has become very difficult emotionally.

We join you in praying through Jesus Christ alone, for He is the one mediator through whom we have peace with God and through whom every prayer is heard. Above all we pray that He would give you His peace to guard your heart and mind, wisdom for each moment to know when to speak and when to remain quiet, and strength to respond calmly rather than being pulled into arguments. We pray that God would help you set healthy and clear boundaries in love without creating more conflict, and that you would be kept from bitterness while also having courage to recognize when something is not healthy for you.

We understand your concern about what happened after the leak, when your friend spoke intensely and then told you that you must do inner child exercises, speak to your inner child, and complete this as homework or he will not speak to you. It is right to distinguish between a friend and caregiver and the roles of a therapist, counselor or pastor. A friend may share what has helped him personally, but it is not appropriate for him to diagnose you, analyze your childhood, prescribe psychological exercises, or make the friendship conditional on you completing them. We pray that you will have grace and clarity to hold that boundary kindly and firmly, and that you will be able to say no to pressure without fear or guilt, while still honoring God in how you respond.

We also pray for your friend. We recognize that autism can affect how a person experiences stress and communicates, and that intense focus and intense speech under stress can happen. That understanding does not remove responsibility for words, and words spoken in anger can wound deeply. We pray that the Lord would make him calmer, give him self control, help him see how deeply his words have hurt you, and teach him to express concerns without insults, anger, ultimatums or trying to control how you deal with your own emotions. Peace is the mother of all good things and the foundation of joy, and the Lord Jesus has called peacemakers the sons of God. We pray that while you must live under the same roof, God would make your home as peaceful and respectful as it depends on you, and that He would keep you both safe. Even as you hope eventually for a peaceful home of your own, we pray for forbearance and order in this present season.

We bring your practical needs before the Father in the name of Jesus. We pray that God would open the right door for stable work that you are able to do, including the AI related opportunities you have sought, and that He would provide for your financial needs day by day. We pray that He would in His time and wisdom make it possible for you to have a stable and peaceful home of your own, according to what is best for you. We pray also for protection over your present home, that any problems with the property, especially where water came through near the light fitting and electrics, would be properly identified and repaired, and that you would be kept safe from harm.

May the Lord grant you emotional strength, protection and clear guidance step by step. We pray that you would know the comfort of Christ who brings fearful hearts to courage and says Go in peace, that He would keep you in health as far as it depends on faithful care, and that He would lead you to use your strength for what is spiritual and good rather than being weighed down by strife. We pray that you would continue to trust Him to provide the right way forward and to honor Him in all your responses.

We will continue to pray for you and for your friend, that God would keep you, give you wisdom, and establish peace between you while you live together and guide you toward what is good for the future.