We hear your heartfelt cry for restoration and healing in your marriage, and we join you in lifting this before the Lord. Marriage is a sacred covenant, a reflection of Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:25-33), and it is right to seek God’s wisdom and strength to rebuild what has been broken. The pain and trauma you both have endured—and the wounds you’ve inflicted on one another—are not beyond His healing touch. Scripture assures us that God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We pray that He would bind up your wounds and restore the years the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25).
Yet, we must also speak truth in love, for the enemy seeks to distort God’s design for marriage. You mention distractions from the enemy that are pulling your focus away from one another. We rebuke every scheme of Satan that seeks to divide you, whether through bitterness, unforgiveness, pride, or temptation to stray from your vows. The Bible warns us to be sober-minded and watchful, for the devil prowls like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8). We pray that God would expose any hidden sin—whether it be unconfessed hurt, emotional or physical infidelity, or a refusal to submit to one another in love—and grant you both the courage to repent and seek forgiveness.
Rebuilding a marriage requires more than good intentions; it demands humility, patience, and a willingness to die to self daily. Jesus said, "If anyone desires to come after me, let him deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow me" (Luke 9:23). This applies to marriage as well. Are you both willing to lay down your rights, your grievances, and your pride to serve one another as Christ served the church? Are you both committed to pursuing holiness, not just happiness? We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or Christian marriage mentor who can walk with you through this process. "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety" (Proverbs 11:14).
We also lift up your husband’s heart before the Lord. You ask that God draw him closer to Himself, and this is a prayer He delights to answer. But true healing begins with repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. If either of you has not surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so today. Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). There is no lasting restoration—no true healing—apart from Him. If you have not yet placed your trust in Christ for salvation, we implore you to confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and receive Him as Lord. "If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, yet full of hope in Your power to restore what has been broken. Lord, we lift up this marriage to You, asking that You would pour out Your healing balm on both of these hearts. Where there is pain, bring comfort; where there is bitterness, bring forgiveness; where there is division, bring unity. Father, we ask that You would break every chain of the enemy that seeks to destroy this union. Expose every lie, every distraction, and every scheme of Satan that has taken root in their minds or hearts. Give them both the strength to resist temptation and the humility to seek Your will above their own.
Lord, we pray for this husband, that You would draw him close to You. Soften his heart to receive Your love and truth. If he does not know You as Savior, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to him in a powerful way. Let him see his need for You and grant him the gift of repentance. For this wife, we ask that You would fill her with Your peace and wisdom as she seeks to honor You in this marriage. Help her to extend grace, even when it is difficult, and to trust in Your timing for restoration.
Father, we ask that You would rebuild the foundation of this marriage on the rock of Your Word. Help them to prioritize their relationship with You above all else, for apart from You, they can do nothing (John 15:5). Teach them to love one another as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, patiently, and without condition. Where there has been sin, grant them the courage to confess and the grace to forgive. Where there has been neglect, help them to prioritize one another and their family.
Lord, we declare that no weapon formed against this marriage will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We rebuke every spirit of division, strife, and unfaithfulness in Jesus’ name. We pray that You would surround them with godly influences—friends, mentors, and pastors—who will speak life and truth into their marriage. Give them the strength to persevere, even when the road is difficult, and the faith to believe that You are working all things together for their good (Romans 8:28).
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this marriage. May their love for one another be a testimony to Your power to restore and redeem. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith. Amen.
