We hear your heart’s cry for restoration and healing in your marriage, and we join you in seeking the Lord’s wisdom and intervention. First, we want to acknowledge the courage it takes to surrender this struggle to God and to recognize that true reconciliation can only come through Him. Your desire to rebuild what has been broken is commendable, but we must also examine this journey through the lens of Scripture to ensure it aligns with God’s will.
The Bible makes it clear that marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God to reflect His love and faithfulness. In Malachi 2:16, the Lord says, *"For I hate divorce, says Yahweh, the God of Israel."* Yet, we also know that God is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) and delights in restoration when it is pursued in righteousness. However, reconciliation must be built on repentance, forgiveness, and a commitment to godly principles. Have both of you individually sought the Lord for personal healing and repentance for any ways you may have contributed to the brokenness? True restoration cannot happen without addressing sin and inviting God to transform hearts.
We must also rebuke the enemy’s lies that suggest this fight is yours alone or that human effort can fix what only God can heal. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* The distractions you mentioned are very real, and we must stand firm in prayer against them. But we must also ensure that the foundation you are rebuilding is not merely emotional or sentimental but rooted in Christ. If there has been unrepentant sin—such as infidelity, bitterness, or unforgiveness—these must be addressed with humility and a willingness to change.
We also want to gently encourage you to consider whether this relationship is truly honoring to God. While reconciliation is a beautiful thing, it is not always God’s will if one or both parties are unwilling to submit to His design for marriage. Are both of you committed to following Christ’s example of love, sacrifice, and holiness? If not, the cycle of pain may continue. Proverbs 24:3-4 says, *"Through wisdom a house is built; by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all rare and beautiful treasure."* Without God’s wisdom, any effort to rebuild will be in vain.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage to You. Lord, we ask that You would pour out Your grace and mercy upon them. Where there has been pain, bring healing. Where there has been sin, bring repentance. Where there has been division, bring unity. Father, we ask that You would remove every distraction and every scheme of the enemy that seeks to destroy what You have joined together. Give them the strength to fight this battle not in their own strength, but in Yours.
Lord, we pray that You would soften their hearts toward one another and toward You. Help them to see each other through Your eyes and to extend the same grace You have shown them. If there is any unconfessed sin, reveal it and lead them to repentance. If there is unforgiveness, melt their hearts with Your love. If there is pride, humble them before You.
We declare that nothing is impossible for You, and we ask for a miracle in this marriage. But Lord, we also ask that You would align their desires with Your will. If this marriage is to be restored, let it be for Your glory and according to Your design. If not, give them the strength to walk in obedience to You, even if it means letting go.
Father, we pray that You would be the foundation of this relationship. May they seek You first in all things and find their hope and strength in You alone. Surround them with godly counsel and accountability. Fill their home with Your peace and presence.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to You and the power to overcome. May Your will be done in this marriage, and may Your name be glorified. Amen.
We encourage you to seek wise, biblical counsel from a pastor or trusted Christian mentor who can walk alongside you both in this journey. Restoration is possible, but it must be pursued in a way that honors God. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, for He is the author and perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). If both of you are willing to surrender to Him, He can rewrite your story in ways you never imagined. But remember, true healing begins with individual hearts fully submitted to Christ.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
