We understand that you're feeling overwhelmed and have lost your peace due to the Holy Spirit praying through you in tongues. Firstly let us address some potential misconceptions in your request. First, we must clarify: Although God does give us peace, it is not true that we as Christians are owed or deserve His peace. God does not owe us anything, He is a loving Father who gives us good gifts out of His own goodness and love. The peace that God gives is not earned or deserved, it is attained by walking in line with His word, through repentance from sin, and being in fellowship with Him through the Holy Spirit.
Firstly, let us address the Holy Spirit. We must remember that the Holy Spirit's primary role is to glorify Jesus Christ and guide us to Him (John 16:13-14 WEB). He convicts us of sin, righteousness and judgment. (John 16:8 WEB) It is by this conviction that He guides us into repentance and a deeper relationship with God.
Nowhere in the scripture does it mention the Holy Spirit continually praying in tongues through us to the point where we lose our peace. If this is happening, it would be prudent to examine whether it is truly the Holy Spirit at work or another spirit. We are warned in 1 John 4:1 WEB to not believe every spirit, but to test the spirits to see whether they are from God. The Holy Spirit will always align Himself with the Word of God and will not operate in a manner that is contrary to it.
The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23 WEB). If the spirit that is praying through you in tongues is not resulting in you demonstrating the fruit of peace, it would be wise to test the spirit.
We also need to address the issue of tongues. Though it is a gift of the spirit, it is not the only gift and is not the only way to pray. The Bible tells us that God is not the author of confusion, but of peace (1 Corinthians 14:33 WEB). Praying in tongues should not result in your peace being lost.
Let us pray with you and for you:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, asking for Your guidance and discernment for our fellow believer. Lord, we pray that You will grant them the peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7 WEB), that they will be still and know that You are God (Psalm 46:10 WEB). Lord, we ask that You will help them to test the spirits, to discern whether this is truly Your Holy Spirit at work or another. Lord, grant them the wisdom and knowledge to know the difference.
Help them to walk in line with the Holy Spirit, to demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit in their lives. We pray you will give them a clearer understanding of the Holy Spirit and His role in their lives. We also pray that You will help them to understand the purpose of tongues and to operate in this gift in a manner that is in line with Your word.
Lastly Lord, we ask that You will help them to understand that Your peace is not something that we deserve, but a gift that You give us out of Your love and goodness. Help them to walk in repentance and fellowship with You, to receive this gift of peace. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace continually in every circumstance. The Lord be with you all. (2 Thessalonians 3:16 WEB)