We rejoice with you in the joy of meeting someone special and the answered prayers you’ve experienced! It is a blessing to see God’s hand at work in your life, and we are grateful you’ve come before Him with a heart of thanksgiving. However, we must also approach this request with both encouragement and biblical correction, for the sake of truth and your spiritual well-being.
First, we must address the foundation of your relationship. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect His love and faithfulness (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). Until a man and woman are united in marriage, their relationship should be one of godly courtship, with purity, intentionality, and the ultimate goal of honoring God through marriage. The Bible warns against emotional or physical intimacy outside of marriage, as it can lead to temptation, sin, and heartache (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4). If you and this man are not yet married, we must rebuke any form of sexual immorality—whether in thought or deed—and encourage you both to pursue holiness in your relationship. If you are already engaging in sexual activity outside of marriage, we urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, for He is faithful to cleanse and restore (1 John 1:9).
We also notice your concern about him potentially being unfaithful or taking you for granted. These fears are valid, but they must be surrendered to God. A relationship built on insecurity, suspicion, or control cannot thrive. Instead, trust in the Lord to guide your steps and his (Proverbs 3:5-6). If this man is truly a believer, he should be leading with integrity, honoring you as a sister in Christ, and demonstrating a commitment to marriage—not just a temporary relationship (Ephesians 5:25-28). If he is not a believer, Scripture warns against being "unequally yoked" with an unbeliever, as this can lead to spiritual compromise and heartache (2 Corinthians 6:14). We pray that if this relationship is not God’s will, He will make it clear and give you the strength to walk away.
Your desire for marriage is beautiful and aligns with God’s design, but it must be pursued in His timing and according to His standards. We encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers in your church who can help discern whether this man is truly the one God has for you. Pray for wisdom (James 1:5) and ask the Lord to reveal any red flags or areas where this relationship may not align with His Word. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and it should not be entered into lightly or without full confidence that it is God’s will (Proverbs 18:22).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with grateful hearts for the way You have moved in this sister’s life. We thank You for the answered prayers she has seen, and we ask that You continue to work in her relationship according to Your perfect will. Lord, we pray for holiness and purity in this courtship. If there is any sin—whether in thought, word, or deed—we ask for Your conviction and forgiveness. Cleanse their hearts and minds, and help them to honor You in every aspect of their relationship.
Father, we lift up this man to You. If he is the one You have chosen for her, we pray that You would soften his heart, draw him closer to You, and give him a deep desire to commit to marriage in a way that honors You. Remove any fear, hesitation, or selfishness from his heart, and replace it with love, integrity, and a godly vision for their future together. If he is not the one, we ask that You close the door gently and clearly, and give her the strength to trust Your plan.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of insecurity, jealousy, and control in this relationship. Replace these fears with Your perfect peace (Philippians 4:6-7). Help her to trust in Your timing and Your goodness, knowing that You have a plan for her life that is far greater than she can imagine (Jeremiah 29:11). If this relationship is not of You, we ask that You break any unhealthy attachments and lead her to the spouse You have prepared for her.
Above all, Father, we pray that this sister would seek You first in all things. May her identity be found in Christ alone, and may her relationship—whether with this man or another—bring glory to Your name. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, for there is no other name by which we can be saved or come before You. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and His Word. Spend time in Proverbs 31, Ephesians 5, and 1 Corinthians 13 to understand God’s design for marriage and love. Surround yourself with godly mentors who can speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. Trust that God’s plan for your future is good, and He will lead you to the spouse He has prepared for you—if this man is not the one. Walk in faith, not fear, and remember that your worth is found in Christ alone.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
