We come before the Lord with hearts burdened for you, dear sister, as we see the confusion and longing in your request. The Word of God is clear about the sanctity of relationships, and we must address what has been shared with both truth and love. The Bible teaches that marriage is a holy covenant between *one man and one woman* for life, designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for His Church (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:31-32). Your mention of loving "some males" and desiring to stay with them is deeply concerning, as it suggests a path that does not align with God’s design for purity, commitment, or marriage.
The Lord commands us in 1 Corinthians 6:18 to *"flee sexual immorality!"* and in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, it says, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."* Living with or being intimately involved with multiple men outside of marriage is fornication, which the Bible strictly warns against (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Galatians 5:19-21). These relationships, as described, are not honoring to God and will only lead to brokenness, confusion, and separation from His will.
Additionally, we notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom *alone* we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). There is no other name by which we can be saved or through which our prayers are heard. If you do not yet know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to repent of your sins and place your faith in Him. Romans 10:9-10 declares, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart, one believes resulting in righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made resulting in salvation."*
Sister, we plead with you to turn away from this path and seek God’s design for relationships. If you are not married, the biblical path is to remain pure and seek a *godly husband*—one man who loves the Lord and is committed to you in marriage. Courtship should be intentional, honorable, and centered on Christ, with marriage as the goal (2 Corinthians 6:14, 1 Corinthians 7:2). Celebrating and working alongside others is good, but not at the expense of holiness or biblical marriage.
We also encourage you to examine your heart. Are you seeking fulfillment in relationships with men, or are you first seeking fulfillment in Christ? Jesus alone satisfies the deepest longings of our souls (Psalm 107:9, John 6:35). If you are struggling with loneliness, temptation, or confusion, bring these burdens to Him. He is faithful to heal, restore, and guide you into His perfect will.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift this sister before Your throne of grace, asking for Your mercy and conviction to flood her heart. Lord, open her eyes to see the danger of the path she is on and turn her toward Your truth. Break every ungodly soul tie and free her from any emotional or physical bondage that is not of You. Fill her with a hunger for righteousness and a desire to walk in purity, honoring You in her body and relationships.
Father, if she does not know You, we pray that today would be the day of salvation for her. Draw her to Yourself, Lord Jesus, and reveal Your love and lordship to her. Let her repent and surrender her life to You, finding her identity and worth in Christ alone.
For any relationships in her life that are not aligned with Your Word, we ask that You sever them supernaturally. Bring godly sorrow that leads to repentance and a renewed mind, transformed by Your truth. Surround her with believers who will speak life into her and hold her accountable to Your standards.
If it is Your will for her to marry, Lord, prepare a godly husband for her—one who loves You above all else and will lead her spiritually. Until then, grant her the strength to walk in purity and patience, trusting in Your timing.
We rebuke every spirit of lust, confusion, and deception in Jesus’ mighty name. Let the Holy Spirit fill her afresh and guide her into all truth. May she find her joy and fulfillment in You alone, Lord Jesus.
We ask all these things in the powerful and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.