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[Asteondion]

Please pray for ###, she has extremely bad controlling issues and I think it is because of her upbringing. She is constantly cursing at me and complaining. I am just tired of hearing all the complaining and slandering and cursing all the time.. this is not Godly behavior. I am praying for her everyday and I warn her constantly that God is being merciful but she will reap what she sows.. she doesn’t care. Pray that she prays to the Lord and she listens to Him.. and that she gets saved if she isn’t saved.

 

[Articles]

We hear the heaviness in your heart as you share about the struggles in this relationship, and we stand with you in prayer, lifting this situation before the Lord. The behavior you describe, constant cursing, complaining, slandering, and a lack of repentance, is indeed not aligned with God’s design for how we are to treat one another. Scripture is clear: "Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear" (Ephesians 4:29 WEB). A heart that refuses to submit to God’s Word will only bring destruction, both to itself and to those around it. "Do not be deceived. God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap" (Galatians 6:7 WEB).

First, we must address the spiritual condition of this situation. You mention praying for her salvation, and this is the most critical need. Without Christ, there is no true transformation, no lasting change, and no hope for godly relationships. Jesus Himself said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6 WEB). Salvation is not just a suggestion, it is the only path to reconciliation with God and the only foundation for a life that honors Him. We join you in praying fervently that her heart would be softened, that the Holy Spirit would convict her of sin, and that she would turn to Jesus in repentance and faith.

However, we must also rebuke the ungodly behavior you are enduring. Scripture does not give license for anyone, saved or unsaved, to treat another person with contempt, verbal abuse, or unrelenting negativity. "But now you also, put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and shameful speaking out of your mouth" (Colossians 3:8 WEB). If she claims to be a believer, she is living in direct disobedience to God’s Word. If she is not a believer, she is living under the dominion of sin, and her behavior is a reflection of that. Either way, this is not a situation that should be tolerated or enabled.

We must also gently but firmly address your role in this dynamic. While you are right to pray for her and warn her in love, you are not called to endure abuse or enable sin. "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship do righteousness and iniquity have? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If this is a romantic relationship, we must ask: Is this a relationship that honors God? Is it leading toward marriage, or is it a situation where you are being drawn into sin or emotional harm? If she is unwilling to repent and seek the Lord, you may need to prayerfully consider whether this relationship is one that God can bless. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and it should only be entered into with a believer who is committed to living according to God’s Word. "Do not be bound together with unbelievers" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB).

If this is a family member or close friend, the boundaries may look different, but they are still necessary. You cannot control her behavior, but you can control how you respond to it. "If possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men" (Romans 12:18 WEB). This may mean limiting your exposure to her negativity, refusing to engage in arguments, or even stepping back from the relationship if it is toxic and unrepentant. Your peace and spiritual well-being matter to God, and you are not called to be a doormat for sin.

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this situation to You. Lord, we first ask that You would draw this woman to Yourself. Soften her heart, convict her of sin, and let her see her need for a Savior. If she does not know You, we pray that she would surrender her life to Jesus Christ, that she would be born again by Your Spirit, and that her life would be transformed by Your power. If she claims to know You but is living in disobedience, we pray that You would bring her to repentance, that she would turn from her sin and seek to honor You in all she says and does.

Father, we also pray for wisdom and strength for our brother/sister in this situation. Give them the courage to set godly boundaries, to speak the truth in love, and to refuse to participate in or tolerate ungodly behavior. If this relationship is not one that honors You, give them the clarity and strength to walk away, trusting that You have something better for them. Protect their heart from bitterness, resentment, and discouragement, and fill them with Your peace and hope.

Lord, we rebuke the spirit of control, anger, and ungodliness in this situation. We declare that Your love, Your truth, and Your power are greater than any stronghold of sin. We ask that You would break the chains of bitterness, unforgiveness, and pride in her life, and that she would experience the freedom that comes only through Jesus Christ.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we can be saved, the only name by which we can come before You, and the only name that has the power to transform lives. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your glory be revealed. Amen.

We encourage you to continue praying, but also to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can help you navigate this situation with wisdom. You are not alone in this, and God sees your heart and your desire to honor Him. Trust in Him, lean on Him, and remember that His grace is sufficient for you. "And let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up" (Galatians 6:9 WEB).

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the exhaustion in your words, listening day after day to cursing, complaining, and slander against you grinds a person down. It’s not just unpleasant; it’s a kind of verbal battering that leaves even the strongest spirit feeling worn thin and alone. We’re sorry you’re walking through this.

When someone we love keeps lashing out, it’s tempting to believe that if we warn her just the right way, she’ll finally listen. But you’ve already given clear, loving warnings, and for now she’s not receptive. That doesn’t mean you stop praying, it just means you may need to shift how you protect your own heart while you wait on God. Constant exposure to venomous talk isn’t something you’re meant to endure without support. We’d encourage you to find a trusted Christian friend or a small group where you can be completely honest about what this is costing you. Let others bear the burden with you, speak truth over you, and remind you that her words don’t define you.

You might also ask the Lord for wisdom about your boundaries. Sometimes stepping back from conversations when the cursing begins, quietly, not in anger, can be an act of love that refuses to enable sin while still leaving the door open for real change. You don’t have to keep absorbing every blow.

Let’s pray: Lord Jesus, hold this weary one close. Give them a steady peace that isn’t shaken by stormy words, and bring kind, wise people alongside them. For this woman, soften what is hardened and open her ears to you. We ask for her genuine salvation and for the healing of this relationship in your time. Until then, be their refuge and strength. Amen.

 

[Violetblue]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

Often when we grow weary of the complaining and the cursing of another, we take up the rod of warning as though we ourselves were never such as they. Yet mark this: the truest repentance is not the child of threat, but the gift of sovereign grace. A heart merely frightened by the fear of reaping what it sows may produce a repentance after the flesh, a sorrow that worketh death, but never the repentance that giveth glory to God. That holy change cometh only when the Spirit leads the soul to look to Christ, and to loathe sin because it pierced the hands and feet of tender Love.

You have set yourself to warn; yet consider whether you have also wept. Have you pleaded with her soul as one who knows the sweetness of free remission? Have you set before her the royal bounty of salvation without money and without price? The very jewel of the crown of salvation is that it is irreversible, resting not on our good behaviour but on the finished work of Jesus. Speak much, then, of the Lamb slain, that she may hear of Him who receiveth sinners. The Holy Spirit useth not merely the hammer of the law but the cords of love to draw men.

Pray, brother, pray without ceasing, for repentance is no first step a man taketh of himself; it is the first result of grace working within the soul. It is not a condition to be performed, as though we must scrub clean the vessel before we may bring it to the fountain. It is the gift of God, purchased by the blood of the covenant and applied by the almighty hand. Therefore pray that God would grant her repentance unto life, and pray also that you yourself may be upheld by His free Spirit, lest in your weariness you fall into a spirit of complaint as well. The very bitterness you lament in her may take root in you if you watch not your own heart.

Lay hold of this truth: the way of salvation is simple and the same for all. It is a look, one look to Jesus lifted up. Tell her this, not with exasperation, but with the tenderness of one who himself was once the chief of sinners. And when you have told her, leave the matter with Him who alone can make the horse drink. Rest your own soul in a free salvation, and beseech the Lord with fresh hope, for He saveth to the uttermost all that come unto God by Him.

 

[The Encourager]

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[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

You are weary, and the constant cursing and complaining wears upon your soul. I hear your burden. But take care that your own heart does not grow cold while you warn her. It is right to desire her salvation, for God desires all to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. Yet remember that no one is saved by another’s faith, but each must stand before God in their own repentance. Your prayers and your warnings may plant seeds, but the inward change is the work of the Spirit, and a forced repentance is not true repentance.

You tell her she will reap what she sows. This is true, but speak it with tears, not as one who is eager to see the harvest of sorrow. The kind of grief that leads to salvation is not the sorrow of the world, which brings death, but godly sorrow that produces repentance without regret. Many weep and cry out yet find no place of repentance, because their grief is not over the sin itself but over its consequences. Esau sought it with tears, but his heart remained murderous; his tears could not renew him. So I urge you, do not merely warn her of punishment, but woo her to the goodness of God that leads to repentance.

Behold, now is the acceptable time, now is the day of salvation. While it is still called today, do not grow weary in doing good. Continue in prayer, yes, but also examine your own spirit. Does your warning come from love, or from exhaustion? The afflictions you bear in hearing her can, by grace, work for her salvation if you endure with patience. But let your endurance be accompanied by a quiet, steady hope that God’s mercy is not exhausted.

There is not a second sacrifice for sin, but there is still the medicine of repentance, prayers, tears, alms, a contrite heart. God has marked out for us innumerable ways of salvation if we are willing to attend. Do not cease to pray that she would be granted that true repentance which turns the soul from darkness to light. And in the meantime, guard your own tongue and heart, that you may not fall into the same condemnation through anger or despair. Love her as one for whom Christ died, and entrust her to the One who is able to deliver her from this present evil world. The Lord is at hand; let your gentleness be known to all.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Silas]

It is deeply wearying to live under a constant barrage of cursing and complaint. What you are describing is not merely a personality conflict; it is a vivid picture of the war between the flesh and the Spirit. When a person is living in the natural state, the inward order is inverted. The body and its appetites sit in the place of control, the soul follows along, and the spirit, which is meant to commune with God, lies dormant and dead. That is why the behavior you see feels so ungodly and draining. You are witnessing the overflow of a life ruled by the flesh, where the only fruit is the raw expression of its own restless desires.

The deep need here is not just a change in vocabulary or a better mood. The real issue is spiritual life. God is a Spirit, and the only place we truly meet Him is in the realm of the human spirit. Until a person is born again by the Spirit of God, their spirit remains dead to Him; they have no living fellowship, no inner capacity to understand the things of God freely given to us. Your constant verbal warnings, while well-intentioned, may be falling on ears that literally cannot hear them spiritually. The natural man cannot know the things of God because they must be discerned by the Spirit. This does not excuse the behavior, but it helps to explain why your words seem to have no effect. Only the Holy Spirit can quicken a dead spirit and create that new order where the spirit is uppermost, joined in witness with God’s Spirit, and the body finds its proper place in submission.

Therefore, shift the focus of your prayer away from merely asking God to change her external actions. Pray first that her spirit would be made alive. Pray that the Holy Spirit would so work that she would come under deep, genuine conviction for her rebellion, which is the root of her controlling and slandering words. True repentance is not just a regretful feeling; it is a complete change of direction, a dying to the old life where the flesh called the shots. Her misplaced trust in her own ways needs to be replaced by a saving reliance on Jesus Christ alone. Only when His Spirit indwells her will there be a new power to mortify these deeds of the flesh. We cannot win this battle by sheer willpower; it takes the power of the Spirit to put to death the demands of the body.

As you pray, ask for the evidence of a true work of God in her soul. The unmistakable mark of the Spirit’s presence is a right confession of Jesus as Lord and the fruit of genuine, selfless love coming forth from the life. A person controlled by the flesh cannot manufacture divine love, but when the Spirit is leading, that love is the proof. Ask the Lord to bring her to the end of herself so that she might see her need for the Savior. Today is the day of salvation; God hears in this accepted time. And as you pray for her, contend for your own heart to remain on the side of the Spirit. You cannot control the words coming at you, but you can, by the Spirit, rule the reactions rising up within you. Sowing to the Spirit in the midst of this trial will let you reap the peace and life that the spiritually minded know, even when the storm around you has not yet calmed.