Prayer for Kingdom Spouse

[Anonymous]

It’s been three years since my last relationship. And that relationship I felt like I was used financially for loans, which soon came to work against me once I started asking back for my money when it came due. In the end, that person left me or someone else and potentially cheated on me with that person since I have no clarity on the timeline. For those past three years, I’ve still had to be in contact with the person because they owed me for essentially the entirety of our two year relationship plus the past three years. Over that time they’ve made passes until I comments that would imply that there is interest on their part. But I’ve never given into that because at the end of the day right now it’s just about getting back my money and they do not know that I know that there is someone new in the picture or all the things that transpired since. Today while doing some research, I found out that it seems that they are now engaged to that new person. Of course, seeing that didn’t make me jealous or anything about that short because I honestly do not see myself in that position with him however, it did make me reflect on how things have played out for me since the breakup. It’s almost as though my enemies have a triumph over me and there’s no victory for me. I feel like I’ve been stagnant just having to deal with this money situation, even though we’re no longer together. Have dealt with a lot of disrespect from him despite my kindness and now we’re coming up on the final payment towards the debt and I’m not sure where all that leaves me. I’ve always been in search of companionship. I’ve never dated just a date. I’ve always wanted to find a husband and someone. And it’s really disheartening to see how things have played out for him relative to how things have played out for me this fight how many times I’ve been wronged in this situation. Now I know that I can’t control God’s plan. I know that everything happens in his divine timing but right now I want to put two things before God. The first thing is passing my license exams for my field and finding my person. If I had to put something into words for the type of person, I’m hoping to find it would be that I’m hoping to find the Tom Holland to my Zendaya. Quite frankly that’s really all I want. Just a guy who is for me. And as I said, I’ve always been and goal driven so it’s not because I’ve come across something that my ex has proposed to the girl he left me for but I just want to see you work out loud. I’m folding my life too. Feels like I’ve been left out this past season or at least for the past seasons. I don’t want to be ungrateful because I know I’ve been blessed in other ways when this is I’m asking for success with my license for my field and success finding my person I think I’m ready now especially now that this financial debt is coming to an end as this guy is about to make the final payment. Please join me in prayer for these things. I just really want to find the man who God ordained me and I just really want to move forward in my career by achieving this license. I feel like when this whole breakup happened. I just finished school and I was just not in a mental space to be able to study for the exam exams for this license cause I was just dealing with a lot of having to continue to stay in touch with the ex over the debt and all these other things have played on me so I just want to put all of this before God and ask for victory in the midst of all of this. I’ve seen what he has done for those who have wronged me so I just hope he hasn’t forgotten me in this season

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart and the deep longing you carry for both professional fulfillment and a godly marriage. The pain of betrayal, financial exploitation, and disrespect you’ve endured is not lost on us, and we stand with you in bringing these burdens before the Lord. The enemy may have sought to triumph over you, but we declare that God’s victory is already yours in Christ. Let us turn to Scripture and lift these matters before Him together.

First, we must address the sin that has been committed against you. The financial manipulation, deception, and emotional harm you experienced were not just personal offenses, they were violations of God’s commands. The Bible is clear: "Do not exploit the poor because they are poor, and do not crush the needy in court, for the Lord will take up their case and will exact life for life" (Proverbs 22:22-23). Your ex-partner’s actions were rooted in selfishness and greed, and we rebuke that spirit of injustice in Jesus’ name. We also recognize that your continued contact with this person, while necessary for restitution, has been a source of ongoing temptation and emotional turmoil. Scripture warns, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). Even now, as the debt nears repayment, we pray for wisdom in how to handle the final interactions, may they be marked by grace, but also by firm boundaries that protect your heart.

The pain of seeing this person move forward while you’ve felt stagnant is understandable, but we must guard against comparison. The enemy would love for you to believe the lie that God has forgotten you or that your season of waiting is a punishment. But the Word assures us, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). Your worth is not defined by another’s engagement or success, it is defined by Christ, who loved you enough to die for you. We also gently remind you that your desire for a spouse must be rooted in God’s design for marriage, not in cultural ideals or superficial comparisons. The "Tom Holland to your Zendaya" analogy, while harmless on the surface, can subtly shift our focus from seeking a godly spouse to seeking a perfect one. We pray that your heart would align with God’s will: "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22). A godly marriage is not about chemistry alone, but about two believers sharpening one another in Christ, serving together, and reflecting His love to the world.

Your request for success in your licensing exams is also close to our hearts. The enemy has used this prolonged debt and emotional turmoil to distract you from your calling, but we declare that this season of delay is not a season of defeat. "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope" (Jeremiah 29:11). We pray that God would grant you focus, discipline, and peace as you prepare. May He open doors of opportunity that no man can shut, and may your career be a testament to His faithfulness.

Now, let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts heavy for our sister in Christ. Lord, You see the injustice she has endured, the financial exploitation, the emotional wounds, and the years of waiting for restitution. We ask that You would bring full repayment of what is owed, not just in money, but in restoration of peace and closure. Father, we rebuke the spirit of delay and stagnation that has tried to take root in her life. Your Word says that You "will repay the years that the locusts have eaten" (Joel 2:25), and we claim that promise over her now. Let this final payment mark the end of this chapter, and may she walk forward unshackled from the past.

Lord, we also lift up her desire for a godly spouse. You know the longing of her heart, and we trust that You will bring the man You have ordained for her in Your perfect timing. Guard her heart from bitterness, comparison, and impatience. Help her to seek You above all else, knowing that "delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4). Prepare her to be a wife who honors You, and prepare the man who will cherish and lead her in righteousness.

For her career, Father, we ask for Your favor. Give her clarity of mind as she studies, and grant her success in her exams. Open doors of opportunity that align with Your will, and let her work be a reflection of Your glory. May she rise above the distractions and discouragement of the past and step into the calling You have for her.

Most of all, Lord, we pray that she would know Your presence in this season. When she feels forgotten, remind her that You are near. When she feels weary, renew her strength. When she feels alone, surround her with Your love. We declare that this is not a season of lack, but a season of preparation. You are working all things together for her good, even when she cannot see it.

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who has overcome the world and who holds her future in His hands. Amen.

You are not forgotten. The same God who parted the Red Sea, who raised Jesus from the dead, and who numbers the hairs on your head is at work in your life. This season of waiting is not in vain, it is a refining fire that is preparing you for the blessings ahead. Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that His timing is perfect. When the enemy whispers that you’ve been left behind, remember: "Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" (Isaiah 40:31). Your victory is coming.

 

[hostadmin]

We’ve been sitting with your request and we want you to know we hear the ache behind it. Three years of financial entanglement with someone who used you, while they appear to move on publicly, that’s not a small thing. It’s draining and it’s unfair, and it makes perfect sense that you’d feel stuck while others seem to prosper. You’ve shown real restraint and integrity despite being disrespected, and that isn’t lost on us, or on the Lord.

That final payment is close. When it clears, we’d encourage you to mark that moment as a deliberate release. Maybe take an evening to write out everything you’re ready to let go of: the bitterness, the humiliation, the sense of being left behind. Then, in prayer, hand it over. You don’t need to carry that baggage into what God has next.

As you prepare for your license exam, consider asking one or two trusted people from church to pray specifically for your study and recall. Having someone check in with you weekly can steady you when the load feels heavy. And for the companion you long for, a man who is truly for you, hold on to the quiet truth that God hasn’t forgotten you. He sees your faithfulness, and these years haven’t been wasted.

Lord, we lift up this sister who feels overlooked. Bring clarity and peace as she studies; let her pass her exam and step into new career ground. And in Your perfect time, would You bring a godly spouse who will honor her and walk beside her. Until then, steady her heart and give her small, daily reassurances that she is seen. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

It is well that the financial entanglement is now drawing to its close. See the hand of God in this; were it not for the burden of that debt, you might have been tempted to return to that which God, in His mercy, has torn away. The little bag of money, held in the hand of a treacherous treasurer, became a snare. Often the Lord employs such sharp goads to drive us from pastures that would prove poisonous. You say that it seems as though your enemies have triumphed over you, and there is no victory. This is the whisper of the unbelieving heart. The tables will yet be turned. The trampler shall be trampled on, and captivity itself led captive. Your own personal holdfast must be, “My God will hear me.” He has not forgotten you in this season; it is the very season in which He hides you in the hollow of His hand, that you may learn a deeper dependence upon Him alone.

You ask prayer for two things: your license exams and the finding of a spouse. As to the first, study diligently, for personal service to God often demands the honing of the mind. But lean not on your own understanding. There is a Divine necessity in all things; it is as much the purpose of God that you should pray as that the blessing should come. Yet, as you pray for success, pray also for a recovered spirit. You tell me that when the breakup happened, you were not in a mental space to study. This is the slow work of recovery of which the Psalmist speaks. Do not wonder if recovery is gradual; acknowledge in each small increase of strength that the Lord has a new claim on your affection. He who is strengthening you in your career is also fortifying the inward man for a far weightier thing.

Concerning your longing for a companion, your heart’s desire is not in itself amiss, but it must be weighed on the scales of the sanctuary. You speak of a “### to your ###,” which I take to mean a helper suitable, devoted, and wholly for you. Yet let us fix our gaze upon a nobler Spouse. The love of a husband for his wife is something special and particular, standing quite alone. But see how this is but a dim shadow of Christ’s love to His Church, His spouse. He is not ashamed to call us brethren. He has made a household whereof we two are the companion parts. It may be that your current sense of being “left out” is a Divine interposition to break the fetters of a lesser satisfaction, so that you seek first a union with the heavenly Bridegroom. The weakness of this past season has shown you the vanity of trusting in a mere man who could use your kindness for financial gain. Righteousness and integrity are the bulwarks of Christ’s kingdom, and He wishes you to let your heart beat in sympathy with His triumph.

See your predicament not as a sign of God’s forgetfulness, but as a Divine surprise in the making. When the Lord descended on Sinai, the mountains flowed down at His presence. Was it ever thought that sinful men should be adopted into the Divine family? This is a most amazing thing. If He has done this, should it seem incredible that He can provide a kingdom spouse in His own time? It is a very delightful thing when the Divine Lord begins to strengthen His people. I pray for you, that He may do it. You have been very wretched and miserable, have you not? Then look to the Sovereignty of God. It is the last resource of a broken-down spirit. He has not left you to drown in these floods of trouble. He made you exercise a holy violence to even remain standing in prayer during this three-year desert. You were too weary to trust, but He led you to this point.

Now, as the final payment arrives, count it as the closing of a dark chapter. Do not look back to Egypt. That man’s engagement is no triumph over you; it is a providential severing of a yoke that would have destroyed you. You have been called out. You must turn from that old life and live according to the instincts of the Divine Life communicated to you. The Lord calls His saints by name and leads them out to higher attainments. I charge you, anticipate the bliss of being forever with the Lord, and in the light of that union, make your petition for an earthly union. A husband who is a true gift from God will be one who helps you to fix your eyes not upon his own fading charms, but upon the unsearchable riches of Christ the Bridegroom. Seek the man who is himself lost in wonder at the love that Christ has lavished on His Church. Until then, know that your Husband is on the throne. Do not be afraid of the victory and the crown. Wait on the Lord; He will yet answer you, and you shall see that He has not forgotten your sacrifice.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

The love of money is a grievous tyrant, more intoxicating than wine, and you have tasted its bitterness. You lent, you trusted, and you were repaid with betrayal. This is painful, but do not let the wound fester. The debt is coming to its end, and with it, a chain will be broken. Do not look back with longing or resentment. The one who wronged you may seem to prosper, but do not envy the prosperity of the wicked. Their engagement is no triumph over you; it is a passing shadow. What is that to you? You follow Christ.

You say your enemies have triumphed and you see no victory for yourself. But consider this: to endure wrongs patiently, to refrain from revenge, to show kindness though insulted, this is the victory that God honors. Our contest is not against flesh and blood. When you are wounded and you do not strike back, when you are cheated and you commit your cause to God, you win a crown that does not fade. The world might say you have been left behind, but in the spiritual arena, you have been given an occasion for a glorious trophy. Do not throw it away by despair.

You long for a husband and for success in your examinations. These are not wicked desires. To seek a godly spouse is good, and to apply yourself diligently to your calling is commendable. But remember that all these things are in the hand of God, and His timing is not ours. Do not be like those who stumble because they do not immediately obtain what they ask. Instead, attend to the state of your own soul while you wait. A calm sea does not make a skilled sailor. This season of stagnation and hurt, as you call it, is the very training ground for the virtues that will be needed in a holy marriage and a life of service. If you cannot wait on God now, how will you bear the heavier crosses of family life?

Guard your heart against the creeping despair that says God has forgotten you. Did He forget Job when all was stripped away? The righteous man wrestled nobly, and only after his endurance was proved did God restore to him double. Did He forget Joseph, sold by his own brothers, imprisoned though innocent? That betrayal was the path to his royal throne. Your misfortune is not a sign of God’s absence but the raw material of His secret dispensation. Refuse to be drowned in self-pity, for that is a wave of a worldly life that can shipwreck faith. Let your feet stand on the rock, which is the hope of Christ’s appearing and His righteous judgment.

The past relationship held you bound through a love of money, his and perhaps your own expectation of repayment. As that final payment arrives, regard it as the snapping of a chain. Do not let your heart be entangled again by curiosity about his life. Let the dead bury their own dead. You have been offered release, so take it and do not look back. Bring your ambitions and your loneliness before the throne of grace, yes, but lay them down with open hands. Ask not only for your person and your license, but for the grace to desire Christ above all. For when the soul finds its satisfaction in Him, it is ready for whatever gift or lack He ordains.

You desire a husband who is for you, as a companion and a co-laborer. Pray for a man who fears the Lord, and then wait with active faith. Do not measure your worth by another’s wedding. That way is a snare, bringing the soul beside itself with envy, which is as madness. Instead, occupy yourself with the work before you. Prepare for your exams with diligence, not as if your whole life depended on them, but as a faithful steward. Seek first the kingdom, and these other matters, if they are for your good, will be added. Even if they are not, you will have gained something that no debtor’s money and no earthly spouse can provide: a heart at rest in the will of God.

The enemy would love for you to see this as loss and defeat. But the resurrection came after the crucifixion. In your soul, let hope rise. The betrayal you endured was real, but Christ knows betrayal intimately and stands with those who are broken by it. Do not let your heart be hardened; rather, let it be softened into compassion and wisdom. You have learned, at a cost, what it means to be unwise in entrusting your treasure. That lesson is worth more than the money owed. Go forward, free from that debt and from that bond, and do not chain yourself again to the past by constant reexamination. Your victory is to walk in forgiveness, trusting the righteous Judge.