Prayer for a family member
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We join with you in lifting up this family member and their marriage before the Lord, for we know how heavy it is to watch someone we love suffer under destructive and selfish behavior within their own home.
We hear your heart crying out for them to get right with Jesus and that is the most important prayer we can pray, for apart from Christ there is no true change of heart. The behavior you describe as narcissistic is at its root pride and self-centeredness, which Scripture warns against. Proverbs 16:18 tells us pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall, and Philippians 2:3-4 calls us to do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than ourselves, looking not only to our own interests but also to the interests of others. Destructive behavior flows from a heart that has not been humbled before God. We rebuke that spirit of pride and selfishness, for it harms the marriage covenant and wounds the whole family. At the same time we know that God is able to create a new heart. Ezekiel 36:26 promises I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you, and 2 Corinthians 5:17 declares if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new. What man cannot fix, God can transform when there is true repentance.
We believe marriage is a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman ordained by God, and Jesus said in Matthew 19:6 So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate. We pray for this marriage to be preserved and made holy, not by excusing sin but by both husband and wife being made right with Jesus and walking in obedience to Him. This means the one acting destructively must take ownership, confess and forsake that sin, for Proverbs 28:13 says he who conceals his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy, and 1 John 1:9 assures us if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Love in marriage is not enabling sin, and Scripture calls husbands to love their wives and not be bitter against them in Colossians 3:19 and to live with their wives with understanding and honor in 1 Peter 3:7, while all of us are called to let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice in Ephesians 4:31 and to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you in Ephesians 4:32.
We pray together now for them.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, Your Son, asking for Your mercy and power to move in this family. We lift up our family member and their spouse to You. Lord, draw them both into a right relationship with Jesus, for we know it is only through Him that we have access to You and that there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved. We ask You to convict the heart that has been prideful and destructive, to bring deep godly sorrow that leads to repentance and to cleanse and renew that heart by Your Holy Spirit. Bring healing to the wounds that have been inflicted on this family, soften hearts that have grown hard, and restore trust where it has been broken. Help our family member to walk in wisdom, to speak the truth in love in Ephesians 4:15, to set godly boundaries while also extending forgiveness as You have forgiven us, and to not grow weary in doing good. We pray for godly counselors and pastors to come alongside this marriage, for protection over this family, and for Your peace to reign in their home. Let Your fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control in Galatians 5:22-23 be evident in both lives as they surrender to You. We ask that as far as it depends on them, they would live peaceably as Romans 12:18 teaches, and that this marriage would be strengthened to reflect Christ and His church and honor You all the days of their lives. In Jesus name we pray, amen.
We encourage you to continue to pray fervently, for James 5:16 reminds us the insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective. Keep pointing your family member to Jesus and to His Word, encourage them to seek wise biblical counsel from a pastor or mature believers and not to walk this road alone, and encourage both husband and wife, if willing, to humble themselves before the Lord together. God is faithful to hear our prayers and to work even in the most difficult situations for His glory and their good.
We hear your heart crying out for them to get right with Jesus and that is the most important prayer we can pray, for apart from Christ there is no true change of heart. The behavior you describe as narcissistic is at its root pride and self-centeredness, which Scripture warns against. Proverbs 16:18 tells us pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall, and Philippians 2:3-4 calls us to do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than ourselves, looking not only to our own interests but also to the interests of others. Destructive behavior flows from a heart that has not been humbled before God. We rebuke that spirit of pride and selfishness, for it harms the marriage covenant and wounds the whole family. At the same time we know that God is able to create a new heart. Ezekiel 36:26 promises I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you, and 2 Corinthians 5:17 declares if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new. What man cannot fix, God can transform when there is true repentance.
We believe marriage is a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman ordained by God, and Jesus said in Matthew 19:6 So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate. We pray for this marriage to be preserved and made holy, not by excusing sin but by both husband and wife being made right with Jesus and walking in obedience to Him. This means the one acting destructively must take ownership, confess and forsake that sin, for Proverbs 28:13 says he who conceals his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy, and 1 John 1:9 assures us if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Love in marriage is not enabling sin, and Scripture calls husbands to love their wives and not be bitter against them in Colossians 3:19 and to live with their wives with understanding and honor in 1 Peter 3:7, while all of us are called to let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice in Ephesians 4:31 and to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you in Ephesians 4:32.
We pray together now for them.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, Your Son, asking for Your mercy and power to move in this family. We lift up our family member and their spouse to You. Lord, draw them both into a right relationship with Jesus, for we know it is only through Him that we have access to You and that there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved. We ask You to convict the heart that has been prideful and destructive, to bring deep godly sorrow that leads to repentance and to cleanse and renew that heart by Your Holy Spirit. Bring healing to the wounds that have been inflicted on this family, soften hearts that have grown hard, and restore trust where it has been broken. Help our family member to walk in wisdom, to speak the truth in love in Ephesians 4:15, to set godly boundaries while also extending forgiveness as You have forgiven us, and to not grow weary in doing good. We pray for godly counselors and pastors to come alongside this marriage, for protection over this family, and for Your peace to reign in their home. Let Your fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control in Galatians 5:22-23 be evident in both lives as they surrender to You. We ask that as far as it depends on them, they would live peaceably as Romans 12:18 teaches, and that this marriage would be strengthened to reflect Christ and His church and honor You all the days of their lives. In Jesus name we pray, amen.
We encourage you to continue to pray fervently, for James 5:16 reminds us the insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective. Keep pointing your family member to Jesus and to His Word, encourage them to seek wise biblical counsel from a pastor or mature believers and not to walk this road alone, and encourage both husband and wife, if willing, to humble themselves before the Lord together. God is faithful to hear our prayers and to work even in the most difficult situations for His glory and their good.
We are so thankful you brought this family before the Lord. Watching someone you love live with destructive behavior in their marriage, and seeing how it has hurt the whole family, is heavy and heartbreaking. Your care for them and your desire for them to know Jesus is a faithful way to love them.
What you describe, being close to someone whose words and actions are consistently hurtful and self-focused, can leave a spouse and family feeling tense, blamed for things that aren't their fault, and always trying to keep the peace. That exhaustion is real, and it is why we cannot change another person's heart by trying harder ourselves. Only God can soften a heart and bring a willingness to see the need for Him, and that kind of change has to be chosen from within.
A steady way to keep loving them is to keep praying while helping your family member stay connected to safe, wise support. If they are open, encourage them to talk regularly with a trusted pastor or Christian counselor and a couple of mature friends who will listen, help them think clearly about healthy boundaries, and remind them they are not alone. You do not have to carry this by yourself either, so keep sharing the burden with people you trust.
Father, in Jesus' name we lift this family to You. Draw each one closer to Yourself, bring healing where there has been hurt and clarity where there has been confusion. Give wisdom, protection, and courage for each next step, and lead them in Your truth and grace. We trust them into Your hands. Amen.
What you describe, being close to someone whose words and actions are consistently hurtful and self-focused, can leave a spouse and family feeling tense, blamed for things that aren't their fault, and always trying to keep the peace. That exhaustion is real, and it is why we cannot change another person's heart by trying harder ourselves. Only God can soften a heart and bring a willingness to see the need for Him, and that kind of change has to be chosen from within.
A steady way to keep loving them is to keep praying while helping your family member stay connected to safe, wise support. If they are open, encourage them to talk regularly with a trusted pastor or Christian counselor and a couple of mature friends who will listen, help them think clearly about healthy boundaries, and remind them they are not alone. You do not have to carry this by yourself either, so keep sharing the burden with people you trust.
Father, in Jesus' name we lift this family to You. Draw each one closer to Yourself, bring healing where there has been hurt and clarity where there has been confusion. Give wisdom, protection, and courage for each next step, and lead them in Your truth and grace. We trust them into Your hands. Amen.
Aeruiraornor
Disciple of Prayer
I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
We join you in bringing this heavy burden for your family before the throne of grace, and we have heard your cry for one who is entangled in a destructive course and for a household that has felt the wound of it. Such behaviour, marked by pride and self seeking, brings sorrow upon all who are near, and it is right that you should mourn it and seek the Lord for healing and for salvation.
We would point you and those for whom you pray to the one true hope, for salvation is of the Lord alone and beside Him there is none else. The Scripture says, Whoever believes on Him shall not be ashamed, and the way of salvation is to believe on Christ, whom God has laid in Zion for a foundation. What is believing on Him but trusting in Him, leaving the whole matter of your present and eternal salvation with Him in unquestioning confidence. It is not to believe about Him, but to believe on Him, the Person Himself, for He Himself is salvation. This salvation is without money and without price, free to the chief of sinners who will look unto Him. As the prophet cried, Look unto me, and be ye saved, all the ends of the earth, so we urge the soul that is far off to look at once, for a look does not require a moment and yet it saves.
There is in Christ not only pardon but healing, for the leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations, and the least thing about Christ is healing. His fruit is sweet and nourishing, but even His leaves, the little things as it were about Him, are full of healing virtue. When Jesus healed the sick of the palsy He said, Son, be of good cheer, your sins are forgiven you, and pardon and healing were one. When the Lord comes and dwells with His people the Sun of Righteousness rises upon them with healing in His wings. These healing leaves change the life blood and make the nature other than it was before. What man cannot cure, the Lord can, for He delivers not only from the guilt of sin but from the power of sin, from bad habits and carnal passions and the dominion of self. This is the great work of His grace, to work health and cure till the soul is renewed.
We take comfort also in the promise of household salvation, for the Lord who called the jailer called his household also, and He still uses the prayers of one to bring others into the gospel net. He is able to make a rejoicing family out of a wounded one, for where Christ enters He brings renewal. Marriage, as God ordained it, is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and within that holy bond alone is found the place for faithful love and dwelling together. We do not ask God to bless pride or destructive ways, but we ask Him to convict of sin, to grant repentance unto life, and to heal what sin has broken according to His mercy and wisdom.
Let us pray together. O Lord our God, look in mercy upon this family which has been torn and troubled. Forgive sin and heal disease, for with You pardon and healing flow from the same hand. Grant to the one who has walked in pride and brought destruction a true sight of self and of Christ, that he may look unto Jesus and be saved, and that he may be turned from the power of sin to walk in newness of life. Grant to the family member for whom special prayer is made, and to all the household who have been wounded, the comfort of Your presence, the cleansing of Your blood, and the healing of Your leaves. Draw each one to trust wholly in Jesus Christ alone for salvation, for there is no other name given among men whereby we must be saved. Make this household to know Your common salvation, that common salvation which is for all believers, and let it be made common among them by faith. We ask this in the name and for the sake of Jesus Christ our only Saviour. Amen.
We would point you and those for whom you pray to the one true hope, for salvation is of the Lord alone and beside Him there is none else. The Scripture says, Whoever believes on Him shall not be ashamed, and the way of salvation is to believe on Christ, whom God has laid in Zion for a foundation. What is believing on Him but trusting in Him, leaving the whole matter of your present and eternal salvation with Him in unquestioning confidence. It is not to believe about Him, but to believe on Him, the Person Himself, for He Himself is salvation. This salvation is without money and without price, free to the chief of sinners who will look unto Him. As the prophet cried, Look unto me, and be ye saved, all the ends of the earth, so we urge the soul that is far off to look at once, for a look does not require a moment and yet it saves.
There is in Christ not only pardon but healing, for the leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations, and the least thing about Christ is healing. His fruit is sweet and nourishing, but even His leaves, the little things as it were about Him, are full of healing virtue. When Jesus healed the sick of the palsy He said, Son, be of good cheer, your sins are forgiven you, and pardon and healing were one. When the Lord comes and dwells with His people the Sun of Righteousness rises upon them with healing in His wings. These healing leaves change the life blood and make the nature other than it was before. What man cannot cure, the Lord can, for He delivers not only from the guilt of sin but from the power of sin, from bad habits and carnal passions and the dominion of self. This is the great work of His grace, to work health and cure till the soul is renewed.
We take comfort also in the promise of household salvation, for the Lord who called the jailer called his household also, and He still uses the prayers of one to bring others into the gospel net. He is able to make a rejoicing family out of a wounded one, for where Christ enters He brings renewal. Marriage, as God ordained it, is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and within that holy bond alone is found the place for faithful love and dwelling together. We do not ask God to bless pride or destructive ways, but we ask Him to convict of sin, to grant repentance unto life, and to heal what sin has broken according to His mercy and wisdom.
Let us pray together. O Lord our God, look in mercy upon this family which has been torn and troubled. Forgive sin and heal disease, for with You pardon and healing flow from the same hand. Grant to the one who has walked in pride and brought destruction a true sight of self and of Christ, that he may look unto Jesus and be saved, and that he may be turned from the power of sin to walk in newness of life. Grant to the family member for whom special prayer is made, and to all the household who have been wounded, the comfort of Your presence, the cleansing of Your blood, and the healing of Your leaves. Draw each one to trust wholly in Jesus Christ alone for salvation, for there is no other name given among men whereby we must be saved. Make this household to know Your common salvation, that common salvation which is for all believers, and let it be made common among them by faith. We ask this in the name and for the sake of Jesus Christ our only Saviour. Amen.
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