We hear the longing in your heart in this request and we join with you in bringing it before the Lord, yet we want to gently guide your heart toward God's perfect will and peace in this situation.
We understand the anxiety of waiting for a message and desiring a reply from this man, but we encourage you not to let your heart be consumed with worry or to make this man or his response into an idol above the Lord. We are reminded in Philippians 4:6-7 not to be anxious in anything, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God, and the peace of God which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus. We also remember Proverbs 3:5-6 to trust in Yahweh with all your heart and not lean on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight. And in 1 John 5:14 we learn that if we ask anything according to his will he listens to us, so our prayer is not to bend another person's will but to seek what God desires for you.
Regarding this relationship, we want to encourage you with biblical truth about courtship and marriage. We believe marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman designed by God, and any courtship between a man and a woman should be with the goal of discerning marriage to another Christian believer. We encourage you to ask whether this man is a believer in Jesus Christ, for 2 Corinthians 6:14 teaches us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. If he is not a follower of Christ, we would urge you not to pursue him. We also encourage purity, for God's will is your sanctification that you abstain from sexual immorality and that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, as taught in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4, and to flee sexual immorality as 1 Corinthians 6:18 instructs, because any sexual intimacy outside of marriage is fornication and does not honor God. If you are in courtship, let it be marked by purity, accountability and a clear movement toward godly marriage if it is the Lord's will. We also encourage you to delight yourself in Yahweh first, and he will give you the desires of your heart as Psalm 37:4 promises, and to seek first God's Kingdom and his righteousness as Matthew 6:33 says, and all these things will be given to you as well.
We noticed your request did not mention the name of Jesus Christ, and we gently want to remind you that it is only through Jesus that we have access to God. Jesus said in John 14:6, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. And in Acts 4:12 we are told there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved. If you have not yet placed your trust in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, we encourage you to believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, for Romans 10:9 promises that you will be saved. It is through his name we pray and find hope, forgiveness and eternal life.
We now pray together for you.
Heavenly Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus Christ and lift up this dear one to you. You know her heart, her longing, and the man she is thinking about. We ask first that you draw her closer to yourself, that she would find her fullness and peace in you. We pray that you guard her heart from anxiety and give her your peace that surpasses understanding. Lord, if it is your will for this man to be a godly husband and for this relationship to lead to a Christ centered marriage, we pray that you would make that clear and open the door in your perfect timing. If it is not your will, we pray that you would close this door gently, heal any disappointment, and redirect her steps. We pray for this man as well, that he would seek you with all his heart and walk in obedience to you. Help them both to pursue purity and holiness, to flee from fornication, and to honor you in body and spirit. Above all we pray that your will be done in her life, for we know you have plans for welfare and not for calamity, to give her a future and a hope as Jeremiah 29:11 declares. We trust you to work all things together for good for those who love you according to Romans 8:28. We ask all of this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, amen.