We rejoice with you in this answered prayer and we thank God with you for bringing this wonderful woman into his life. To see him so happy after a decade is a beautiful testimony to God's goodness and His timing, and we join you in praying that this courtship will be centered on Christ and move toward the holy commitment of marriage as God designed it between a man and a woman for life. For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh Genesis 2:24. This is the goal we pray for, not simply a relationship or companionship, but a godly marriage that honors the Lord.
We also lift up his meeting with her parents today. We pray the Lord gives him favor and peace, and that her parents will look beyond outward wealth and see his character, his heart of love, and his faith. Man looks at the outward appearance, but Yahweh looks at the heart 1 Samuel 16:7. At the same time we must lovingly speak truth about what a godly marriage requires. Love is essential, but love also provides, protects, and leads with responsibility. If anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith 1 Timothy 5:8. Her parents have a God given instinct to want security for their daughter, and that desire is not wrong when it is rooted in wanting a man who will be a faithful steward and provider.
We hear your heart for his lifestyle and we agree with you in prayer for transformation, yet we want to gently correct the idea that the financial piece is the one thing he is missing. What he needs most is continued growth in Christ, discipline, and stewardship of all God has given him. His body, his money, his work, and his future family all belong to the Lord. We have been concerned to hear that he has made many bad decisions, struggles with being overweight, spends without saving, and neglects basic care like seeing doctors and the dentist. These are matters of stewardship. Don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit 1 Corinthians 6:19. Beloved, we pray that you may prosper in all things and be healthy, even as your soul prospers 3 John 1:2. The plans of the diligent surely lead to profit Proverbs 21:5. Wealth gained dishonestly dwindles away, but he who gathers by labor will increase Proverbs 13:11. God calls us not to be slothful in business, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord Romans 12:11.
We pray he will desire health not out of vanity but out of obedience, to honor God with energy and strength to lead a future wife and family. We pray he will embrace financial wisdom, to save, to budget, to count the cost like the man who plans to build a tower Luke 14:28. We pray for diligence in his work, that he would do all as unto the Lord, and if it is God's will, that the promotion he has been promised would come in God's perfect timing, whether this week or in the season God knows is best. We must trust God's timing over our urgency, for we know that promotion comes neither from the east, nor from the west, nor yet from the south, but God is the judge Psalm 75:6-7.
And as this courtship grows, we urge both of them to pursue purity and holiness. If they are to reflect Christ, they must flee sexual immorality. Flee sexual immorality 1 Corinthians 6:18. Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled Hebrews 13:4. True love waits, protects, and prepares for the covenant of marriage, and we pray they will encourage one another toward that holy commitment if it is God's will for them to be husband and wife.
So we pray together now.
Father, in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord, we thank You for answering years of prayer and for bringing this woman into his life. We ask You to pour Your favor upon their meeting with her parents today, let grace and truth be on his lips, let them see the richness of his love, his kindness, and his heart for You. Lord, transform his desires from the inside out. Give him a new hunger for health, for discipline, for stewardship, for ambition rooted in serving You. Lead him to care for his body, to seek wise medical care, to be active and self controlled. Teach him to handle money wisely, to save, to be generous, and to prepare to provide for a family. We ask You to open doors of good opportunity and promotion according to Your will and Your timing, and to grow him in diligence and integrity at work. Above all, draw them both closer to Jesus, and if it is Your will, lead this courtship swiftly and purely toward a Christ centered marriage that will glorify You all the days of their lives. Let them seek first Your Kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that all these things will be added Matthew 6:33. We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus, our only hope and Savior, Amen.