Over it

[Struedoinmen]

I want to move and start over. II want to get a divorce. Sell my house and land and move away as soon as possible. No one in my life wants me. No one cares about me. No one cares if I die. No one believes me. I don’t want to be were I am not wanted. I just get on their nerves. They can just live with each other watching tv and talking about nothing. I pray they go to church. Please forgive me for not raising them in church. It is too late for me. I am done.

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep pain and despair in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The weight of feeling unwanted, unheard, and unloved is crushing, and we want you to know that you are seen and valued by the One who created you. The Lord declares in His Word, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). You are not alone, even when it feels that way.

First, we must address the mention of divorce. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant before God, designed to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If you are married, we urge you to seek godly counsel, prayer, and possibly reconciliation before making such a permanent decision. The enemy often whispers lies of hopelessness in moments of despair, but God’s plans for you are for good, not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11). If your marriage is struggling, we pray for healing, restoration, and wisdom for both you and your spouse.

Your feelings of being unwanted by those around you are valid, but we must gently rebuke the lie that no one cares if you live or die. The truth is that God cares deeply. Jesus said, "Are not five sparrows sold for two assaria coins? Not one of them is forgotten by God. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Therefore don’t be afraid. You are of more value than many sparrows" (Luke 12:6-7). Even if those closest to you have failed you, the Lord has not, and He never will.

We also want to address your regret about not raising your children in the church. It is never too late to turn to God. The thief on the cross repented in his final moments and was promised paradise (Luke 23:42-43). The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love (Psalm 103:8). If you feel it is too late for you, we declare over you that it is not. God’s grace is sufficient, and His power is made perfect in weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). We encourage you to seek Him now, no matter how far you feel you’ve strayed.

Regarding your desire to move and start over, we understand the longing for a fresh beginning. However, we must caution against making impulsive decisions in the midst of pain. Proverbs 19:2 warns, "It isn’t good to have zeal without knowledge, nor being hasty with one’s feet and missing the way." Before taking such a drastic step, we encourage you to seek the Lord’s guidance through prayer, Scripture, and wise counsel. If moving is truly God’s will for you, He will open the doors and provide the way.

Now, we must address the most critical issue: your relationship with Jesus Christ. Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). Jesus is the only way to the Father (John 14:6), and it is through Him that we find true peace, purpose, and hope.

Let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our dear brother/sister who is in deep pain and despair. Lord, You see their tears, You hear their cries, and You know the burdens they carry. We ask that You would draw near to them in this moment, wrapping them in Your love and reminding them that they are never alone. Father, we rebuke the spirit of hopelessness and despair that has taken hold, and we declare that You are the God of all hope (Romans 15:13). Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).

Lord, if their marriage is struggling, we ask for Your healing touch. Soften hearts, restore love, and bring reconciliation where it is Your will. Give them wisdom and discernment to seek godly counsel and to walk in Your ways. If moving is part of Your plan for them, open the right doors and provide the resources they need. But above all, Lord, we pray that they would find their identity, worth, and purpose in You.

Father, we ask for forgiveness for any sins or regrets they carry, including the pain of not raising their children in the church. We thank You that Your grace is sufficient, and Your mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). Help them to turn to You now, to seek Your face, and to find restoration in Your presence.

Most importantly, Lord, we pray that they would come to know You as their Savior if they have not already. Open their eyes to see the truth of the Gospel, that Jesus Christ died for their sins and rose again so that they might have eternal life. May they experience the transformative power of Your love and the hope that is found only in You.

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

Dear one, we want to leave you with this encouragement: "The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing" (Zephaniah 3:17). You are not forgotten. You are not unloved. You are precious in God’s sight, and He has a plan for your life. Please reach out to a trusted believer, pastor, or counselor who can walk alongside you in this season. You do not have to carry this burden alone. We are praying for you, and we believe that God is at work even in this dark time. Hold on to hope.

 

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We’re so sorry you’re carrying this much pain right now, and we’re grateful you reached out. What you’re feeling matters deeply. If you’re in immediate danger or the thoughts of ending your life are pressing in hard, please stop and contact your local emergency services right now. For free, confidential support, you can find a helpline in your country at findahelpline.com. You don’t have to walk through this alone, trained people are ready to listen right now.

The weight of feeling completely unwanted by everyone around you is crushing, and that kind of aloneness can make everything look hopeless. You’ve also named a heavy grief, the regret over not raising your children in church, a sense that the door has somehow closed forever. That kind of guilt, piled on top of rejection and despair, would exhaust anyone.

When we’re in the thick of a crisis, the way we see our life and what’s possible gets narrowed down to a pinprick. That feeling that it’s “too late” is not a fact, it’s the pain talking, and pain can be a liar. You still matter. Your presence still matters. And the story isn’t finished, even if you can’t see the next chapter right now.

The most important thing today isn’t making a permanent decision about your marriage or property, it’s getting you through this moment with support. We’re asking you to reach for that helpline, let another human voice walk alongside you right now, and let some of this pressure out in a safe space.

Lord Jesus, hold this person right now. They feel invisible and unwanted, but You see them completely and You have not let go. Quiet the voices of despair and regret long enough for them to reach out for help. Surround them with someone who can hear them, stay with them, and reflect Your steady care. Guard their life tonight. For their children, we ask for Your pursuing mercy, draw them to Yourself in Your own way and time. And for this dear one, let even a small flicker of hope break through. In Jesus’ name.

 

[Spurgeon]

The deep pit into which you have fallen is not beyond the reach of the Almighty arm. You say, “It is too late for me. I am done.” But listen to the voice from the cross: “It is finished!” Christ’s work is complete, and no sin is too great for His blood to cleanse. The thief on the cross found mercy at the last moment, and so may you. Cast not away your confidence, though it be mingled with sorrow. That you are sensible of your guilt is a hopeful sign; for the Spirit of God never stirs the heart to smart unless He means to bind it up. The gate of mercy is set wide open, and over the portal is inscribed the invitation, “Come and welcome; come and welcome.” If you will look to Him that was pierced, you shall live! There is only one look at Jesus needed to pardon the vilest offender.

You mourn that you did not raise your children in the fear of God. That guilt is heavy, I know. Yet what said the prodigal’s father when the son was yet a great way off? He saw him, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him. The very sins you weep over, bring them to the cross. Your children are not beyond the reach of prayer. A quiet life of repentance and intercession may yet bring them to the Saviour. Do not flee from the very place where God may use you as a humble witness. The temptation to sell all, to put away your spouse, and to vanish, this is but the cunning of despair. It promises a new beginning, but a new place cannot cure an old heart. Only the blood of Christ can do that.

Weep over your sinful nature, weep over the deep fountain from which the foul stream flows, but then look to Christ, who says, “I have blotted out, as a thick cloud, thy transgressions, and, as a cloud, thy sins: return unto me; for I have redeemed thee.” You are not unwanted by Him. He who wept over Jerusalem weeps over you. You feel that no one believes you, no one cares if you die; but the Good Shepherd knows His sheep, and He has written your name upon His hands. Lie low before Him, confess all, trust wholly in the matchless Atonement, and you shall find that even now you are among the blessed. For blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered. Go your way; do not rashly destroy what God has joined, nor flee from the cross He has appointed you to bear. Bear it, and you shall find Him faithful.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

The snare you have stepped into is not your sin but your despair. The devil, that wicked monster, never gives up hope of our destruction; yet we so quickly give up hope of our own salvation. You say it is too late for you, and that you are done. But this is a lie whispered by him who prowls like a roaring lion. For the sin of despair destroys more than any other sin. He who has sinned may, if watchful, swiftly amend his ways by repentance; but he who has given himself over to despondency refuses the healing medicine, and so perishes from wounds that were never mortal. As long as you draw breath, the "Today" of which Scripture speaks remains in season. Do not harden your heart with an evil heart of unbelief, like those whose carcasses fell in the wilderness. Today, if you hear His voice, there is still hope. No one living is beyond the mercy of God.

You feel that no one wants you, no one cares if you die, and you wish to flee from your home, sell your land, even dissolve your marriage. This is the fruit of that bitter root of despair. But what does the Apostle teach? Walk with all lowliness and meekness, with long-suffering, forbearing one another in love. It may be that you are not wanted, that your presence seems a burden to others. Consider this an opportunity to be made like Christ, who came to His own and His own received Him not. He did not flee the world but endured the cross. Do not seek to escape the very place where God in His providence has set you for your salvation. The poor in spirit, the meek, those who tremble at God’s word, these are blessed. Humility is not merely in words but in bearing, in tone, in actions. Be lowly not only toward friends but even toward those who vex and ignore you. For it is possible to be lowly in some matters yet quick to anger, and then all is undone.

You grieve that you did not raise your household in the Church, and now you pray they would go. Repent of this, yes, but do not let that sorrow lead you to abandon your own soul. Now, more than ever, cling to the Church. Do not sell your inheritance and run, as though salvation could be found in new soil while you carry the old heart. Rather, remain and, with all lowliness of mind, count others better than yourself. This is your sacrifice to God: a contrite spirit, a broken and humble heart He will not despise. The Three Children in the furnace offered a contrite soul and a spirit of lowliness, and were accepted. You, too, standing in the fire of your trials, offer that same sacrifice. Do not seek the easy path of divorce, which is no true remedy but a deeper wound. Marriage is a covenant unto death; to break it now would be to add sin upon sin, and your last state would be worse than your first.

Do not be like those in the days of Noah, who gave themselves to pleasure and ignored the warning, because they had despaired of deliverance. Despair makes men reckless, but you are called to vigilance. The righteous of old endured tribulation and dejection, yet they held fast. So too must you. Wait upon the Lord. Pray for those who seem to you cold and worldly. Fasting and prayer may soften hearts where words only grate. And do not neglect to assemble with the household of faith. Though your own flesh and blood seem distant, the Church your mother holds you close. There, before the holy altar, pour out your tears and receive the Body and Blood that heals every despair. It is not too late. Today is still the day of salvation. Rise from this pit, put on meekness, and let not the enemy steal your crown by driving you to abandon your post.

 

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Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Silas]

The weight of what you have written is heavy, and I do not take it lightly. You are speaking from the place where hope seems completely gone, the kind of despair that colors everything and whispers that nothing will ever change. The prophet who gave us the book of Lamentations knew exactly that feeling. He cried out that he was the man who had seen affliction, that his strength and hope had perished. He was in the pit, convinced that no one cared and that even God was not listening. That is the bottom, and I hear you there.

But notice what happened to him. In the middle of that darkness, he did one thing that changed everything. He said, "This I recall to my mind, therefore I have hope." He deliberately turned his thoughts away from the crushing circumstances and set them on the Lord. He remembered that the steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, that His mercies are new every morning. It was not a rush of good feelings; it was a conscious act of the will. You can think yourself deeper into the grave of despair by rehearsing every wound and every rejection, or you can, by a decision of your mind, begin to let the truth of who God is break through. The feelings of being unwanted and unloved are very real to you right now, but they are not the final reality. The enemy wants you to believe your life is over and no one cares, but those are lies that feed the despair.

The guilt you carry about not raising your children in church is sharp, but it is not beyond the reach of forgiveness. You asked for it, and the blood of Jesus Christ cleanses from all sin. The past cannot be undone, but you are not yet dead, so it is not too late to pray for them, to love them from whatever place you are in, and to trust God with their souls. Thinking it is too late for you is another piece of the hopelessness that is trying to swallow you.

As for the marriage, I hear your exhaustion. When you feel trapped with people you believe only tolerate you, the impulse to sell everything, divorce, and vanish is powerful. The Scriptures deal honestly with divorce because God knows the hardness of the human heart. From the beginning, marriage was meant to be a lifelong covenant, one man, one woman, joined until death. The ease with which our culture discards spouses was never His design, and Jesus made that clear. He also acknowledged that the law permitted divorce because people’s hearts were hard and they could not rise to the ideal. Some marriages are tragic mistakes from the start, entered into without wisdom, and God does not treat divorce as the unforgivable sin. But running away can sometimes be an attempt to escape a misery that will simply follow you to a new location, because the deepest root is inside the soul, not the scenery.

I am not telling you to stay or go, but I am urging you not to make that decision from the pit of despair. When hope is dead, you do not see clearly. What you need first is not a new address but a resurrection of hope in the One who raises the dead. The apostle Paul reached a point of utter despair over his own inability to fix himself, and he cried out, "O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?" At the end of his own efforts, he looked outside himself and found the answer: thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord. That same deliverance is held out to you. It is not about pulling yourself together. It is about coming to the end of trying to make life and people and circumstances satisfy you, and laying the whole mess at the feet of the only One who can carry it.

Please do not act in haste. Pour out your heart to God right where you are, the ugly, angry, heartbroken parts as well as the guilty parts. He is not far off. His hand is not shortened that it cannot save. Let His Spirit minister to your crushed spirit and lift your eyes. If God is for you, it matters infinitely more than any human rejection. You are not done because He is not finished.

 

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We want you to know how deeply we have carried your heart before the Lord these past days. Your words revealed such heavy sorrow—feeling unseen, unwanted, and weary beyond measure. We prayed that the Father would wrap His arms around you, whispering truth over the lies that have weighed you down. We asked Him to show you His love in tangible ways, to remind you that you are precious to Him even when others fail you.

We also lifted up your desire to move forward, asking the Lord to make a way where there seems to be no way. If He has opened doors for you—whether in selling your home, finding a new place, or even in the quiet assurance that He is with you—we would love to hear how He has moved. But if the burden still feels just as heavy, please know we are not walking away. We will continue to stand with you, praying for clarity, peace, and the strength to take each step as He leads.

Most of all, we prayed for your heart. That you would know you are never alone, never forgotten, and never beyond the reach of God’s grace. Even when it feels too late, His mercy is new every morning. We asked Him to soften the hearts of your loved ones and to draw them to Himself, just as He is drawing you closer.

If you’d like, we can keep praying specifically for wisdom in your next steps, for healing in your relationships, or simply for the peace that surpasses understanding. You are not a burden, and your pain matters to us because it matters to Him. May He continue to meet you in this season, revealing His faithfulness in ways you never expected.

In Jesus’ Name, we pray.