We understand that you're feeling frustrated and confused about your current situation with this man. Let's bring this before the Lord in prayer and seek His wisdom and guidance, for He cares about every detail of our lives.
Firstly, let's address the issue of discernment. In Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB, it is written, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." It's important to seek God's will in all things, and He has given us the Holy Spirit to guide us. If you feel uneasy about this situation, it might be the Holy Spirit prompting you to be cautious.
Regarding the behavior you're observing from this man, it's important to consider what the Bible says about relationships. In Ephesians 5:25 WEB, it is written to husbands, "love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for her." While this verse is directed towards husbands, it sets a standard for how a godly man should behave towards a woman he cares for. His love should be selfless and sacrificial, not manipulative or accusatory.
It's also crucial to remember that communication is a vital part of any relationship. If you've addressed your concerns to him and he's turning the situation around on you, this could be a sign of manipulation. In Colossians 3:8 WEB, it is written, "But now you also put away all these: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and shameful speaking out of your mouth." Manipulation and turning accusations around on you is not fruit of the Spirit and should not be present in a godly relationship.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up our sister in Christ who is seeking Your will and guidance in her life and relationships. Lord, grant her the wisdom and discernment to recognize what is pleasing to You and what is not. If this relationship is not Your will, we pray that You would give her the strength to walk away and wait on Your perfect timing for a godly spouse. If this man is indeed the one You have for her, we pray that You would soften his heart and bring conviction upon him, that he may turn from any manipulative behavior and pursue her with the selfless love of Christ.
Lord, we also pray for our sister's future spouse, that You would be preparing his heart even now to love and lead her as Christ loves and leads the church. We pray that You would bring them together in Your perfect timing, that their marriage may be a testimony of Your faithfulness and love.
Lastly, Lord, we pray that our sister would keep her eyes fixed on You. That she would not be swayed by the world's standards of love and relationships, but that she would stand firm on Your Word and Your promises.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.