We hear your cry, dear sister in Christ, and our hearts ache with yours as you endure such deep pain and injustice in your marriage. The Word of God is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant, a reflection of Christ’s love for His church—a love that is patient, kind, and selfless (Ephesians 5:25-33). What you are experiencing is not God’s design for marriage, and we must boldly rebuke the spirit of anger, abuse, and hardness of heart that has taken root in your husband. The Bible warns, *"Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them"* (Colossians 3:19). The way he treats you—with violence, contempt, and silence—is a grievous sin before the Lord, and it must be confronted with truth and prayer.
We also must address the weight of unforgiveness in your own heart. You say you cannot forget the painful words he spoke, and we understand the depth of that wound. Yet Scripture commands us, *"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:32). Forgiveness does not mean excusing his sin or remaining in harm’s way, but it does mean releasing the bitterness that poisons your soul. Holding onto unforgiveness will only keep you in bondage, while Christ offers freedom. We pray you will find the strength to forgive—not for his sake, but for your own healing and peace in the Lord.
Your husband’s refusal to repent, his threats of divorce, and his abandonment of his family responsibilities are grave matters. The Bible says, *"If anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever"* (1 Timothy 5:8). His actions reveal a heart far from God, and we must pray fervently for his repentance. Yet we also recognize that you and your sons are suffering greatly under his ungodly leadership. You are not called to endure abuse in silence. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* While we pray for restoration, we also pray for wisdom for you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor or trusted Christian mentor—who can help you navigate this situation with biblical discernment.
Your financial struggles and the needs of your sons are heavy burdens, but we serve a God who sees and provides. Philippians 4:19 assures us, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* We pray that the Lord would open doors of provision for you, whether through employment, the support of your church family, or unexpected blessings. Do not lose heart, for the Lord is your Shepherd, and He will not abandon you (Psalm 23:1).
Most of all, we must lift up your heart to the Lord, for it is not at peace. Jesus said, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). You cannot carry this alone, sister. Surrender your pain, your fears, and your marriage to Him. Trust that He is working even in this darkness, and that His justice will prevail. If your husband remains unrepentant, know that God is your Defender and your Husband (Isaiah 54:5). You are not forgotten.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister and her sons. Lord, You see the pain she has endured—the physical abuse, the verbal wounds, the abandonment, and the financial strain. You are a God who hates injustice, and we ask You to rise up as her Defender. Break the hardness in her husband’s heart, Lord. Convict him of his sin, and lead him to true repentance. If he will not turn back, then we ask You to protect her and her sons from further harm.
Father, we pray for healing in her heart. Where there is bitterness, replace it with Your peace. Where there is fear, replace it with Your courage. Where there is loneliness, remind her that You are always with her. Give her wisdom to know how to move forward—whether that means seeking godly counsel, setting boundaries, or trusting You for provision. Lord, You are the God who sees, and we ask You to meet every need of this family according to Your riches in glory.
We rebuke the spirit of anger and abuse in this home in the mighty name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against this sister shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We pray for her sons, that they would not be hardened by what they have witnessed, but that they would know Your love and grow into men of God.
Father, we ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can come to You. Without Jesus, there is no access to Your throne, no forgiveness of sins, and no hope of eternal life. We thank You that through His sacrifice, we can boldly approach You and find grace in our time of need (Hebrews 4:16). Strengthen this sister to walk in faith, knowing that You are her Refuge and Strength. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
