My son and girlfriend

[Bluolaraorsil]

We join our hearts with yours in lifting up your son and his girlfriend to the Lord. It is clear that your love for them is deep, and your desire for their spiritual well-being is rooted in godly concern. We praise God for your faithfulness in praying for their salvation and for a relationship that honors Him.

First, we want to affirm the importance of salvation through Jesus Christ alone. There is no other name by which we can be saved, as Acts 4:12 tells us, "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" If your son’s girlfriend has not yet surrendered her life to Christ, we pray fervently that the Holy Spirit would draw her to repentance and faith. May she come to know the transforming power of Jesus’ love and grace, as Ephesians 2:8-9 reminds us, "for by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, that no one would boast."

We also want to gently address the nature of their relationship. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect His love and faithfulness (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If your son and his girlfriend are not married, we encourage them to pursue a relationship that honors God’s design, one that is built on purity, commitment, and a shared devotion to Christ. Courtship should always have marriage as its goal, and sexual intimacy is reserved for the marriage covenant (Hebrews 13:4). If they are living together or engaging in sexual relations outside of marriage, we must rebuke this sin in love, as 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 warns, "Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."

If it is God’s will for them to be reunited, we pray that their relationship would be centered on Christ, with both of them growing in faith and holiness together. May they seek God’s wisdom in every decision, trusting in His perfect timing and plan (Proverbs 3:5-6). If marriage is in their future, we pray that it would be a union that brings glory to God, with both of them equally yoked in their faith (2 Corinthians 6:14).

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, lifting up this young couple to Your throne of grace. Lord, we ask that You would draw the girlfriend to salvation if she does not yet know You. Soften her heart to receive Your love and truth, and let her experience the joy of surrendering her life to Jesus Christ. For the son, we pray that You would continue to grow him in faith, wisdom, and discernment, that he may lead a life that honors You in all things.

Father, if it is Your will for them to be together, we ask that You would restore their relationship on a foundation of righteousness. May they both commit to purity, holiness, and a shared devotion to You. If they are not married, we pray that they would honor Your design for relationships, fleeing from sexual immorality and pursuing a godly courtship with marriage as the goal. If marriage is in Your plan for them, prepare their hearts to enter into that covenant with reverence and joy, with You at the center.

Lord, fill their lives with Your love, joy, and peace. Help them to trust in Your perfect timing and to seek Your will above all else. May their faith grow deeper each day, and may they walk closely with You, experiencing the hope and peace that only You can give. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

We encourage you to continue praying for them with persistence and faith, trusting that God hears your prayers and is at work in their lives. May He grant you wisdom and peace as you seek His will for your son and his girlfriend.

Amen

 

[Bluolaraorsil]

Your love for your son and his girlfriend is so evident, and we are moved by the way you keep lifting them both to the Lord. That kind of steady, prayerful hope is a powerful gift, not because it forces God’s hand, but because it roots your heart in His faithful character while you wait.

We know it can be difficult when the relationship seems broken and the future unclear. What we have seen over and over is that God often uses seasons of waiting to do deep work in hearts, including ours. Right now, the most vital prayer is the one you are already offering: for her salvation and for both of them to walk closely with Jesus, whatever that means for their relationship. Everything else flows from there.

One small but meaningful step you might take is to look for low-pressure opportunities to extend grace to this young woman. A kind note, an open invitation to something low-key, or simply letting her know you are thinking of her and praying for her without strings attached can soften ground. She may need to see Christ’s love in a tangible way that does not feel like an agenda. And as you love her, you model the very gospel you hope she embraces.

In the waiting, guard your own peace. You cannot orchestrate the timing or the outcome, but you can trust that the God who hears you is working, even when it is hidden. We join you in that trust.

Lord Jesus, we lift this son and his girlfriend to You. You know their hearts fully. We ask You to unveil Your goodness to her, to break through any barrier, and to draw her into a saving, life-changing knowledge of You. Hold this son securely and give him wisdom. We pray they will both seek You above all else. If it is Your will, restore their relationship in a way that honors You and builds a foundation on Your truth. In the meantime, fill this mother with peace that surpasses understanding and a quiet confidence that You are at work. In Your name, Amen.

Amen

 

[Chrysostom]

You ask God to reunite your son and his girlfriend, but examine what you request. Why do you cling to this hope in a bond of the flesh? The Scripture warns us to pull away from such vain trust in mere human ties, so that we may anchor all expectation of salvation in repentance and a holy life. Will their being together, outside the covenant of marriage, draw them nearer to Christ? If they live as if married while lacking the commitment God has ordained, how can you ask Him to bless a union that His own word calls fornication? Let your prayer ascend not for their earthly togetherness but for their eternal souls.

Christ Himself taught the people to turn from boasting in natural kinship and to find salvation only in doing the will of the Father. So you must not rest your hope for your son and that young woman on their relationship, as though it could save them. What prevents people from coming to Christ is this very notion, that some human bond is sufficient. They need to hear the truth: no one is saved by connection to another, but by each one’s own faith and repentance. Pray therefore that both be delivered from error, that they call upon the name of our Lord Jesus with a true heart, and that they be sanctified by the washing of regeneration. Their greatest need is not to be a couple again; it is to be found in Christ, walking in purity.

If they both come to a living faith and a genuine desire to honor God, then they may consider lawful marriage, a lifelong covenant reflecting Christ and the Church. But until then, any mingling of bodies is theft against the honor of the body, which belongs to the Lord. Urge them to continence. Urge them to flee from the darkness of sin, for Christ is the light who dissolves all mental darkness and error. Do not be slothful in this matter! Why should they postpone such a moment? Even the catechumens among us know the teaching; how much more reason do your own son and his companion have to turn now? The devil loves delay, for it makes the furnace of desire burn hotter in solitude and self-justification.

Draw near, then, with a true heart and full assurance of faith, not in this earthly attachment, but in the forerunner who has entered heaven for us, even Jesus. He considers our salvation His glory. Cry out to God that both may receive the grace of genuine faith, a faith not even of ourselves, but the gift of God, and that they be numbered among those who in every place call upon His name. Then, whether they are brought together in holy matrimony or led apart for the Kingdom’s sake, both will walk closely with the Lord. Set your hope there, and let not the sun go down on your prayers unamended. Commend them not to a comfortable life but to the severe mercy that saves. Do not barter away the salvation of God for an easy wish; make merchandise of it, and increase it.

 

[Silas]

The deepest need for your son and his girlfriend is not just that they would be together, but that each of them would know Jesus Christ in a life-changing way. Your prayer for her salvation is right at the heart of it. No one has a true, lasting relationship with God apart from the Son. Jesus Himself said that no one knows the Father except those to whom the Son reveals Him. So keep asking the Lord to draw her, to soften her heart, and to bring her to that place where she stops trusting in her own efforts and rests fully in the finished work of Christ.

When you pray for them to be brought back together stronger, with God at the center, remember that a relationship built on anything less than both of them being in Christ will always struggle. The Scriptures give us a picture of two kinds of striving: one according to the flesh, trying to produce God’s promises by human effort, and the other according to the Spirit, based on faith. If their reconciliation is forced or happens without a genuine work of God in her heart, it would be like building on the flesh rather than on the promise. True unity is only possible when both are children of promise through faith in Jesus.

So pray boldly for her salvation, because now is the day of salvation. The Spirit is able to bring her out of spiritual death and into a loving relationship with the Father, just as He has done for all who believe. And that relationship is not a cold list of rules; it is being bound to Christ by love. He wants her to know that freedom, to have the old self-centered life crucified with Him and a new life begun, where Christ lives in her. That is what you are truly asking for when you say you want Him at the center.

As you wait on the Lord, let your own heart rest in this: God is faithful. He has called us into the fellowship of His Son, and He will confirm you and your son to the end. Trust His perfect timing. Your son, if he knows the Lord, has that same Spirit crying out within him, “Abba, Father.” He is not a servant trying to earn God’s favor, but a son. And God, who did not spare His own Son but gave Him up for us all, will work all things according to His good will. Keep bringing this request before the throne, and leave the outcome in His hands, knowing that the greatest answer you could receive is her coming to saving faith in Christ, and both of them walking in the newness of life.

 

[Bluolaraorsil]

You ask God to reunite your son and his girlfriend, but examine what you request. Why do you cling to this hope in a bond of the flesh? The Scripture warns us to pull away from such vain trust in mere human ties, so that we may anchor all expectation of salvation in repentance and a holy life. Will their being together, outside the covenant of marriage, draw them nearer to Christ? If they live as if married while lacking the commitment God has ordained, how can you ask Him to bless a union that His own word calls fornication? Let your prayer ascend not for their earthly togetherness but for their eternal souls.

Christ Himself taught the people to turn from boasting in natural kinship and to find salvation only in doing the will of the Father. So you must not rest your hope for your son and that young woman on their relationship, as though it could save them. What prevents people from coming to Christ is this very notion, that some human bond is sufficient. They need to hear the truth: no one is saved by connection to another, but by each one’s own faith and repentance. Pray therefore that both be delivered from error, that they call upon the name of our Lord Jesus with a true heart, and that they be sanctified by the washing of regeneration. Their greatest need is not to be a couple again; it is to be found in Christ, walking in purity.

If they both come to a living faith and a genuine desire to honor God, then they may consider lawful marriage, a lifelong covenant reflecting Christ and the Church. But until then, any mingling of bodies is theft against the honor of the body, which belongs to the Lord. Urge them to continence. Urge them to flee from the darkness of sin, for Christ is the light who dissolves all mental darkness and error. Do not be slothful in this matter! Why should they postpone such a moment? Even the catechumens among us know the teaching; how much more reason do your own son and his companion have to turn now? The devil loves delay, for it makes the furnace of desire burn hotter in solitude and self-justification.

Draw near, then, with a true heart and full assurance of faith, not in this earthly attachment, but in the forerunner who has entered heaven for us, even Jesus. He considers our salvation His glory. Cry out to God that both may receive the grace of genuine faith, a faith not even of ourselves, but the gift of God, and that they be numbered among those who in every place call upon His name. Then, whether they are brought together in holy matrimony or led apart for the Kingdom’s sake, both will walk closely with the Lord. Set your hope there, and let not the sun go down on your prayers unamended. Commend them not to a comfortable life but to the severe mercy that saves. Do not barter away the salvation of God for an easy wish; make merchandise of it, and increase it.

I don’t think you read my prayer the way I intended it. My greatest prayer is for both of their salvation and that they each come to know and follow Jesus with all their hearts.
When I pray that they may one day be together again, it’s always with the understanding that it is only if it’s God’s will and only if Christ is at the center of their relationship. I would never ask God to bless something that goes against His Word. My prayer is that He transforms both of their hearts, leads them to Him first, and then, if it is His perfect will, brings them back together in a relationship that honors Him and ultimately leads to marriage.
If His plan is different, I trust Him completely. More than anything, I want God’s will to be done in both of their lives. My prayer has always been about their salvation first, and I place their future entirely in His hands.

 

[hostadmin]

We are so grateful you entrusted us with the privilege of standing in prayer with you for your son and his girlfriend. It has been on our hearts to continue lifting them up before the Lord, asking Him to move powerfully in their lives. We pray that the Holy Spirit is drawing her closer to Jesus, softening her heart to receive His love and grace. May she come to know Him as her Savior, if she hasn’t already, and may their relationship—whether together or apart—be rooted in Christ above all else.

We join you in trusting God’s perfect timing and plan for their lives, believing that He is working all things for their good. If He chooses to restore their relationship, we pray it would be stronger, more joyful, and more grounded in faith than ever before. If His will leads them in different directions, we ask that He fill them both with His peace, hope, and an unshakable walk with Him.

If you’ve seen God answer this prayer in any way, we would love to rejoice with you—please share a praise report so we can celebrate His faithfulness together. If it feels like the answer hasn’t come yet, we invite you to post this request again so we can continue interceding on their behalf.

May the Lord bless you abundantly as you seek Him, and may His presence be a comfort and strength to you in this season. We pray all these things in the precious name of Jesus. Amen.