My husband for 40yrs.

[Kamar]

Please God in the name of Jesus make my husband to love me again and our children I am in so much pain and severe stress because he loves someone else after ###yrs together why can't he see me his wife and true love he has hurt me deeply this is a big mistake we are almost ###yrs old please God don't let this happen we both should be together forever in Jesus name amen.

 

[Articles]

We hear your deep pain and we weep with you over this heartbreak after ### years of marriage, and we join with you in bringing this before the Lord in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father.

We know this severe stress and sorrow you feel is real, for God sees your tears and He is close to you in this suffering. Psalm 34:18 says Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. And Psalm 147:3 says He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds. We also hear your prayer for your husband to love you and your children again, and we understand your desire for your marriage to be restored, for that desire honors God.

We must speak clearly about what God says concerning marriage and what your husband is doing. Marriage is a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman before God. Matthew 19:6 says What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate. And Hebrews 13:4 says Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. What your husband is doing in loving someone else while he is still your husband is adultery, and God calls it sin. Exodus 20:14 says You shall not commit adultery. Malachi 2:16 says God hates divorce and the covering of one's garment with violence. We rebuke this adultery and we pray that your husband will be convicted by the Holy Spirit, repented in his heart, and turn away from this other relationship completely. Ephesians 5:25 calls husbands to love their wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it, and your husband is failing in this sacred duty before God, to you and to your children.

We also want to gently remind you that God does not force a person to love against his will, but God can soften a hard heart, convict of sin, and bring true repentance. Ezekiel 36:26 says I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. We pray for that work in your husband, that he would see the gravity of his sin, the hurt he has caused you and your children, and the mistake he is making, and that he would choose to honor his vows.

In your pain we encourage you to cast your burden on the Lord. 1 Peter 5:7 says casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you. Philippians 4:6-7 says In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus. We encourage you to not carry this severe stress alone but to seek godly counsel from a faithful pastor or mature believers in your church, to be surrounded by prayer and support, and to continue to walk faithfully before the Lord even while you hope for reconciliation.

We pray together for you and for your marriage.

Father in heaven, we come before You in the precious name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this dear wife and mother to You. Lord, You see her ### years of faithfulness, You see her broken heart and her severe stress, and You know every tear. We ask You to comfort her now with Your presence, to guard her heart and mind with Your peace that surpasses understanding, and to heal her wounds. Give her strength for each day and hope in You. Lord, we also lift up her husband to You. We ask that You convict him of his sin of adultery, that You open his eyes to the pain he has caused his wife and children and to the seriousness of breaking his covenant vows before You. Soften his heart, Lord, turn him from this other person, bring him to repentance, and draw him back to You first and then to his wife and family if it be Your will. We pray for the restoration of this marriage according to Your perfect will, that what You joined together would not be separated by man. Protect their children from further hurt and draw them close to You. Help this wife to forgive as You have forgiven us, while still trusting You for justice and truth, for Romans 12:19 says Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord. Let Your will be done in this family, and let Your name be glorified. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We heard the ache in your words and we have been holding you in prayer. Forty years of loving and building a life together is no small thing, and to feel unseen and set aside for someone else near the end of those decades brings a very particular kind of grief and stress. It is understandable you feel pain so deeply.

Please try not to carry this alone in these weeks. When trust has been broken, the hurt can feel overwhelming and isolating. Having one or two steady, godly people who know you, a pastor, a wise counselor, a trusted friend or family member, to sit with you, listen and pray with you regularly can make a real difference while you seek what is next. If the stress is weighing on your sleep, your health or your ability to get through the day, please also reach out to your doctor or a counselor alongside prayer, so your body and mind are cared for too.

We are asking God to meet you with comfort and clear wisdom for each step, and to guard your heart and your home.

Father, we lift this wife to You in Jesus name. You see her years of faithfulness, her hurt and her love for her family. Wrap her in Your peace, give her strength for today, wise counsel around her and guidance for whatever lies ahead. Lead her husband according to Your will and bring healing where only You can. Amen.

 

[Kheumor]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Asteondion]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Faomond]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Faomond]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

There is a sorrow in your words that has gone up before the Lord, and we have heard it with deep tenderness. Forty years of life together as one flesh, and now this sharp wound of unfaithfulness, has brought you into great pain and stress, and you do well to pour out your heart before God who sees and knows all your grief.

The Lord has taught us in His Word what marriage is. It is not a light bond to be broken at will, but a covenant before God, cemented by mutual love, wherein a man and a woman become one. He Himself says, I am married unto you, to show that He has chosen His people and joined Himself to them in faithful love. And of earthly marriage He has said that what God has joined together, let not man put asunder. Your desire to see your marriage preserved and your husband restored to his vows is right and honoring to God, and we join our prayers to yours for that holy end.

We do not ask God to bless what is sin, nor to prosper a path that breaks His covenant. Rather we pray that He will in mercy awaken conscience, bring conviction of sin, and turn the heart that has wandered. As our Lord looked upon Peter after his grievous fall and denial, not with crushing rebuke but with a look that broke him and then restored him, so the same Lord can look upon the wanderer still. Peter was down, but he was soon up again by almighty love that came after him, saying, Go tell my disciples and Peter. If the Lord could restore one who denied Him, He is able to restore one who has forsaken his covenant. We pray that your husband may be brought to see the greatness of his wrong, to repent before God and before you and your children, and to seek again the love that was pledged.

We pray also for you in this hour of sighs and groans and tears. The Psalm which David wrote after his great sin was set to music of sighs and sobs, and God hears such music. Cast your burden upon Christ the Lamb, who proved His love by His wounds and blood, and who is able to bind up the broken heart. A bone that has been broken may, by His healing, become stronger at the place of mending. So we ask that whether by full restoration of your marriage, which we earnestly seek from the Lord, or by His sustaining grace if the hard heart remains, you may find strength and peace in Christ alone, for salvation is through Jesus Christ alone and He will not forsake those who trust Him.

Seek the Lord daily in prayer, open His Word, and lean upon the faithful counsel and comfort of His church around you. Walk in quiet faithfulness, speaking the truth in love, and committing your husband to the power of that grace which alone can change the heart. The Lord Jesus loves His own with an unchanging love and He will not let one drop of your love be wasted when it is poured out before Him.

We now carry you and your children and your husband before the throne.

O Lord God, who has ordained marriage to be a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, look in mercy upon this wife and mother bowed down with sorrow. Comfort her heart, sustain her in severe stress, and let her feel Thy presence near. Convict her husband of his sin, turn him from the strange path he has taken, grant him repentance and faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, and restore to him love for his wife and for his children and reverence for his vows. Let that which is broken be healed by Thy hand, and let Thy name be honored in this house. We ask this in the name of Jesus our only Saviour, Amen.