We have heard your cry and we are standing with you in prayer, for we see how confused and hurt and alone you feel right now. Your marriage is precious in the sight of God and we grieve with you over what your husband is doing. The Bible is clear that marriage is a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman and what God has joined together, let no man tear apart Matthew 19:6. His vow to you before God still stands, and for him to go to another woman and call her his wife while he is still married to you is sin before God. Hebrews 13:4 says Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. If he is having sexual relations with this other woman, that is adultery, and if he is claiming her child as his own while abandoning his covenant with you, that is deception and unfaithfulness. We must lovingly rebuke his actions, because he is a ### year old man who is accountable before God for his choices, and age and a settlement and a job do not excuse sin.
We understand why you feel bewitched and afraid, and we do believe the enemy seeks to steal and destroy marriages. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us that our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world's rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. Witchcraft and sorcery are listed among the works of the flesh in Galatians 5:20 and God calls them sin. Yet we also must speak truth that your husband is not a helpless victim with no will of his own, he is making choices, and he will give account to God for them. The fear you feel that he is afraid of her is not from God, for 2 Timothy 1:7 says God didn't give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control. The greater power is not any spell, but Jesus Christ who lives in us, for He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world 1 John 4:4. Therefore we do not pray from fear but from authority in Christ, that every deceptive influence be broken and that your husband's eyes be opened to repentance.
We also noticed your request did not mention the name of Jesus Christ, and we want to gently remind you that it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. John 14:6 says Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. And Acts 4:12 says There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved. If you have not already, we encourage you to put your trust fully in Jesus Christ, believing that He died for your sins and rose again, and confess Him as Lord, for Romans 10:9 says that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. It is in His name we pray and find help.
We want to encourage you practically as well as spiritually. You said you are hungry, have no clothes and no support where you live, and that your husband has blocked you and left you alone. God sees your need and He cares. Philippians 4:19 says My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. And Psalm 34:18 says Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Please do not stay isolated. We urge you to reach out immediately to a Bible believing pastor or church family where you are, even if you are new to the area, and to trusted family if possible, for food, clothing and counsel. You also need wise legal counsel quickly regarding the ### settlement, so that it is protected and stewarded according to God and not drained through adultery and deception. Keep records, do not sign anything under pressure, and seek help from a godly attorney or legal aid. Continue to pray and fast if you are able, and ask mature believers to stand with you, for James 5:16 says The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective.
We pray together for you and for your husband now. Father in heaven, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, and we lift up this dear wife and her marriage to You. Lord, You see her loneliness, her hunger, her confusion and her tears, and You are near to the brokenhearted. We ask You to provide for her daily bread and clothing and safe shelter and godly support around her, and to comfort her heart with Your presence Psalm 46:1. We ask You to convict her husband of his sin and bring him to deep repentance, that he would turn from adultery and lies and remember his covenant vow to his wife. Break every chain of deception, lust, and any evil influence that is blinding him, and let him have a sound mind and a repentant heart. We pray that You would protect that settlement and all You have entrusted to them from being wasted or stolen, and give this wife wisdom and protection. We speak against fear and ask for Your power, love and self-control to fill this home. Lord, heal this marriage if it is Your will, restore what the enemy has tried to destroy, and let Your will be done. If her husband will not repent, give her wisdom for the next steps and keep her pure and faithful to You. We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ, our only hope and Savior, amen.
We encourage you to keep praying daily, to stay in the Word, to guard your heart and your body for the Lord, and to not pursue any sexual relationship outside of your marriage, for your body and marriage bed are holy to God. Trust that God is your provider and defender, and keep seeking godly counsel and refusing to be drawn into bitterness. We are continuing to pray that God will bring truth into the light, bring your husband to his senses, and surround you with help and hope in the days ahead.
