Marriage restoration

[Anonymous]

My husband filed for divorce, his name is ### and I am ###. There has been a lot of hurt on both ends and for a long time I resented him. He struggled with alcoholism and added another substance called poppy to it. In our home, we have five children three which we shared biologically and the other two are his bonus children that know only him. He is in these court ordered rehab and domestic violence classes and some other groups for sobriety. In them, they are teaching him that we are not good together and he should divorce mebut I believe if we both focus on God and change our life for the better then together is where we belong. I have taken up Christ seriously. There is no turning back/away this time. I need prayer for restoration, that the Lord may block his ears and eyes from the enemy and show him/let him know that I am faithfully, patiently and honestly here, I am not waiting where he left me, but growing in God. I pray he meets me in my journey with Christ and that we can come together in unity for our family out of love and continue to grow. I speak the name of Jesus over every person that is against us, and I rebuke the evil spirits that have flooded this marriage. Please pray with and for me.

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep pain and hope in your heart for your marriage and your family, and we stand with you in prayer for restoration. We thank God that you have taken up Christ seriously and declare there is no turning back, for this is the only foundation on which true healing can be built. We believe with you that marriage is sacred, a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman joined together by God, and that what God has joined together, let no man separate, Matthew 19:6 and Mark 10:9. The Lord says He hates divorce, Malachi 2:16, not because He wants people trapped in hurt, but because He knows the pain it brings and He desires reconciliation, forgiveness and holiness within the covenant.

We want to speak with love and truth about the hurts you have shared. For a long time you resented your husband, and we understand how years of pain can harden the heart. Yet we are called to forgive as God forgave us, Ephesians 4:32 and Colossians 3:13, not because the hurt was small, but because Christ has forgiven us so greatly. Your willingness to let go of resentment and to grow in God rather than simply waiting where you were left is a beautiful sign of the new creation you are in Christ, 2 Corinthians 5:17, and of being transformed by the renewing of your mind, Romans 12:2. Continue to press into Jesus, into His Word, into prayer and into fellowship with mature believers who will point you to truth.

We must also address with loving firmness the sin that has wounded your home. Alcoholism and the use of poppy and other substances, and any form of domestic violence, are not of God. The Scriptures warn us not to be drunken with wine, Ephesians 5:18, and that drunkenness and such works of the flesh keep us from inheriting the kingdom of God, Galatians 5:19-21 and 1 Corinthians 6:10. Husbands are commanded to love their wives even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it, Ephesians 5:25, and to not be bitter against them, Colossians 3:19, which leaves no room for violence or abuse. We pray your husband comes to true repentance, which bears fruit worthy of repentance, Matthew 3:8, and that he will confess his sins and find forgiveness and cleansing, 1 John 1:9. Sobriety and gentleness and self control are fruit of the Spirit, Galatians 5:22-23, and we pray he will walk in that freedom.

We are concerned that in his court ordered rehab and classes he is being told you are not good together and should divorce. That counsel does not align with the Word of God, which says to the married, a wife should not depart from her husband and a husband should not send away his wife, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. While separation for safety and for time to pursue real repentance and healing can at times be necessary, especially where there has been violence and addiction and where five precious children are in the home, we do not endorse divorce as the solution. We encourage you both to seek godly, biblical counsel from a pastor or mature believers who honor marriage, and for you to maintain wise boundaries that protect you and your children while you pray for his complete deliverance and transformation. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit, Psalm 34:18, and He promises to restore the years that the swarming locust has eaten, Joel 2:25, when hearts turn fully to Him.

We join you in rebuking the evil spirits that have flooded this marriage and we speak the name of Jesus over every voice and influence that is against what God has joined together. We pray that the Lord will block your husband's ears and eyes from the schemes of the enemy and open them to the truth of Christ, that he will see your faithful, patient and honest growth in God and be drawn to meet you in that journey.

We pray together now.

Father in heaven, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, for there is no other name by which we are saved and have access to Your throne, Acts 4:12 and John 14:6. We lift this marriage and this family to You. Lord, You see the years of hurt on both sides, the resentment, the bondage to alcohol and drugs, the anger that led to violence, and the pain carried by five children. We ask for Your mercy and forgiveness for all sin, and we thank You that our sister has turned to You with her whole heart. Keep her rooted and growing in You, give her wisdom, strength, peace and discernment each day, James 1:5, and help her to walk in forgiveness and love while also walking in wisdom and safety.

Lord, we lift her husband to You. Deliver him completely from alcohol and every substance, break every chain of addiction, heal his body and mind, and renew his heart. Convict him of sin and bring him to true repentance and to salvation in Jesus if he has not yet truly believed. Heal him from the lies he is hearing that divorce is the answer, and let him hear Your voice above every other voice. Cause him to love his wife as Christ loved the church, to be gentle, sober, responsible and faithful, and to embrace his calling as husband and father to all the children in this home, including the two bonus children who know only him as father. Restore unity out of love, that this family may grow together in Christ and honor You.

We rebuke the enemy's work over this home and we ask You to build a hedge of protection around this marriage and these children. Let Your will be done, and let restoration come in Your perfect timing and way. We trust You to do what is impossible for man, for with God all things are possible, Matthew 19:26. Keep this sister steadfast, not turning back, and let her testimony draw her husband and children closer to You. We ask all this in the name of Jesus, our hope and our redeemer, amen.

 

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Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

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We hear how heavy this has been for you and your family. Carrying years of hurt on both sides, walking through your husband's struggles with alcohol and other substances, facing a divorce filing, and caring for five children is a lot to hold. We are encouraged to hear you have taken your walk with Christ seriously in this season and are choosing to grow in Him, not just wait where things were left. That is a faithful and brave step.

Because your story includes domestic violence and court ordered rehab and classes, we want to gently encourage you to keep safety and wisdom at the center alongside prayer. It can help to stay closely connected to a safe, trusted pastor or Christian counselor who understands both addiction and domestic violence, and to keep wise legal guidance as the court process continues. You do not have to sort all of this alone, and having steady, safe support for you and your children matters greatly.

We are holding you, your children, and your husband in prayer as he continues in his programs.

Father, we lift this family to You in Jesus name. Cover them with Your protection and peace, bring healing where there has been deep hurt, give clear wisdom for each next decision, and keep drawing each heart closer to You. Lead them step by step according to Your will and keep them safe in Your care. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your prayer has been heard and laid before the throne of grace, and we join our hearts with yours in seeking the Lord for mercy and healing in your home.

There is forgiveness with God, and that truth is your first comfort and your first hope. Whatever hurt has been heaped up on both sides, whatever resentment has taken root, whatever sin of drunkenness and bondage to substances has defiled and wounded this covenant, there is forgiveness with Him through Jesus Christ alone. It is a divine forgiveness, not of man but of God Himself who says, I, even I, am He that blotteth out thy transgressions. It is a surprising forgiveness, so great that God speaks as though even He would have us wonder at it, and it is a complete forgiveness, as though the debt were fully paid and nailed to the cross, remembered no more. If you have turned to Christ seriously and there is no turning back, rejoice that you have in Him a full and eternal forgiveness, and that He not only forgave you at the first but continues daily to forgive as you walk with Him.

And because you have received such forgiveness, you are now called to that joint work of mutual forgiveness which belongs to the household of faith. Forgiving one another, even as Christ forgave you, so also do you. This is not a paltry thing but a great minded and ennobling grace. For a long time you resented your husband, and he has sinned grievously against you and against the Lord and against those five precious children entrusted to you, three of your bodies and two who know only him as father. Resentment must now give way to the grace you have received, not that wrong is made light, but that you may be free to love and to pray with a clean heart while God does His sanctifying work.

We will pray that the Lord will do a true and lasting work in your husband. That He will bring him not merely to sobriety through classes required by courts, but to repentance toward God and faith in our Lord Jesus Christ, for only in Christ is there forgiveness and freedom and power to walk in newness of life. We pray that every voice that would counsel him to break the covenant which God calls lifelong, the covenant of one man and one woman till death parts them, would be silenced by the voice of the Spirit speaking through the Word, and that his ears and eyes would be guarded from the enemy who would flood a marriage with lies and division. We pray that the Lord would rebuke every evil influence and set him free indeed, that he may be healed not only in body from addiction but in soul.

We pray also for you, that you may continue to grow in Christ where you are, not waiting in bitterness where you were left, but abiding in Him, patient and honest and faithful. May the Lord keep you steadfast, give you wise and godly counsel in your church, and give you discernment to seek safety and holiness for yourself and your children while you hope for restoration. True restoration must be built upon true repentance, truth telling, and a new walk with God on both sides, not upon mere sentiment.

Let us pray together. O Lord God, with whom there is forgiveness that Thou mayest be feared, look upon this sister and her household. Wash her in the blood of Christ and keep her near to Thee. Look upon her husband, bring him to the end of himself, show him his sin and his need of a Saviour, and grant him that godly sorrow which worketh repentance. Break the chains of alcohol and every other substance that has bound him, and deliver him from violence and wrath. Restore, O Lord, what sin has broken, if it be Thy will, and make this marriage to be as though Thou hadst not cast them aside, for Thy glory and for the good of these children. Teach them both to forgive as Thou hast forgiven, and to walk in holiness and love. We ask this not because we are worthy, but because there is forgiveness with Thee through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

Continue to seek the Lord daily in His Word, to walk with His people, and to trust Him with your family. He is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think.

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

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God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

Your prayer for your marriage and your family has been received with sorrow and with hope, and I join you in lifting it before the Lord. I hear the weight of what you have carried, the hurt on both sides, the long resentment, your husband's struggle with alcohol and with poppy, the pain of a divorce filing, and the responsibility for five children, including two who know only him as father. I also hear the clear turn you have made to follow Christ without turning back, and that is the sure foundation for all that follows.

Your desire for restoration is right and good. Marriage is honorable before God, a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and it is meant to preserve the holiness that comes through faith, keeping husband and wife in chaste and orderly love and not permitting defilement. There is hope, as Scripture teaches, that the believing spouse may be a means by which the other is drawn toward salvation, because in marriage the two become one and share a communion that no other bond has. To pray for unity, for sobriety, for healing and for your family to be kept together in love is to pray according to God's will.

At the same time restoration cannot come by simply adding more of the same desires or efforts. Evil is stayed not by addition but by taking away. The cloud that has blinded your husband has come through wicked desires, through drink and drugs that gather like a humor over clear eyes. Sight is recovered when a person learns how he was blinded and turns from it, when the mind is convinced to desire what is true and possible in Christ rather than what destroys. For him this means a real turning away from alcohol and from poppy, a humble acceptance of the help he is receiving in rehab and in the classes ordered for him, and a daily learning to use the gift of marriage with moderation and purpose. Marriage itself is not the hindrance, but the purpose that makes ill use of it becomes the hindrance. When it is used well, with self control and grace, it can be a place where both husband and wife are first in the kingdom in their faithfulness.

For you, continue as you have begun, not waiting where you were left but growing in God. That growth is shown in holiness, in steady prayer, in following every good work as you care for your children and for others, in the manner of Anna who persevered continually in prayer. If you bear these losses thankfully and keep your eyes on Christ, God is able to restore what has been broken, and even if what is restored looks different than you expect, your reward in faithfulness will not be lost. God showed this with Job, who when he had wrestled nobly and trusted God through loss, received restoration in God's time after his heart was proven.

I also hear your concern that voices around your husband are telling him you are not good together and should part. Pray that God will guard his ears and eyes from the enemy and from any counsel that is not according to truth, and that he will hear the gospel clearly. Yet pray also that your husband will be given honesty to face what has happened, including any harm that led to the domestic violence classes, and that he will take full responsibility before God and before others. True restoration requires repentance, sobriety that endures, and safety for you and for the children. Love does not force or manipulate, it invites and it waits while remaining faithful and truthful.

I will pray with you and for you.

Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus Christ alone, through whom we have salvation, I bring this wife, her husband and their five children before You. Lord, have mercy. Forgive sin, heal resentment on both sides, and cleanse this home from all that has defiled it. Deliver this husband from addiction to alcohol and to poppy, take away the evil that has blinded him, and grant him a clear mind, a sober body and a repentant heart. Bless the work of true sobriety and teach him to walk in self control, to honor his vows, to protect and provide for his family in holiness. Guard his ears and eyes from the deceit of the enemy and from any word that would lead him away from Your design for marriage. Draw him to Yourself, that he may meet his wife in her journey with Christ and come to know You for himself.

Lord, strengthen this wife who has taken up Christ seriously. Keep her faithful, patient and honest, growing daily in Your Word, in prayer and in every good work. Give her wisdom to love her children well, to live chastely and orderly, to speak truth in love, and to trust You with the outcome while she remains obedient. Rebuke every evil spirit that has flooded this marriage and let the name of Jesus reign over this home. Let peace and holiness dwell there. If it be Your will, restore this marriage to unity, that husband and wife may be reconciled and together raise their children in the love and discipline of the Lord. Above all, let Your will be done and let each member of this family be saved and kept in You. Amen.

Remain steadfast in Christ, stay close to your local church for counsel and accountability, and keep your life ordered in prayer, Scripture and good works. Whether the path ahead is restoration together or a continued walk of faith through trial, the Lord sees your faithfulness and will not forsake you.