We hear the deep longing in your heart, and we come before the Lord together with you, lifting this situation in prayer. First, we must address a few things with love and truth, as Scripture guides us.
You are praying to God, which is good, but we must emphasize that it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father. Jesus said in John 14:6, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you do not yet know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to confess your sins, believe in Him, and invite Him into your heart. Salvation is the first and greatest gift God offers, and everything else flows from that relationship.
Now, regarding your request, we see a heart that is deeply attached to this young man, and we understand the pain of unrequited feelings. However, we must gently rebuke the possessiveness in your prayer—asking God to ensure no other girls like him is not aligned with God’s will. Love does not seek to control or manipulate others (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). Instead, we should pray for God’s will to be done in both of your lives, trusting that He knows what is best for you.
We also notice that your desire is for him to be your "first boyfriend," which suggests you may be considering a relationship outside of marriage. Scripture is clear that intimacy belongs within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, Genesis 2:24). If this young man is not your husband, we must encourage you to guard your heart and seek God’s best for your future spouse, rather than settling for less than His design.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this dear sister who is hurting and longing for love. Lord, You know the desires of her heart, and we ask that You would draw near to her in this time of loneliness. Father, we pray that You would help her to surrender this young man to You, trusting that You have a perfect plan for her life. If it is Your will for them to be together, we ask that You would prepare both of their hearts in a way that honors You. If not, Lord, we pray for healing and peace to fill her heart, replacing longing with trust in Your goodness.
We rebuke any spirit of obsession or control that would seek to take hold of her heart, and we declare that her worth is found in You alone, not in the affections of another. Help her to seek You first, knowing that You will provide every good and perfect gift in Your timing (Matthew 6:33). Lord, we ask that You would protect her from impure desires and help her to walk in purity, honoring You with her body and her heart.
Father, we also pray for this young man. If he does not know You, we ask that You would draw him to Yourself. If he is not the one You have for her, we pray that You would remove him from her heart and replace her longing with a deep satisfaction in You. Give her the strength to wait for the spouse You have prepared for her, one who will love and cherish her as Christ loves the Church.
We ask all of this in the precious name of Jesus, who alone is our hope and salvation. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to shift your focus from this young man to Jesus. Spend time in His Word, allowing Him to fill the emptiness in your heart. Psalm 37:4 says, "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart." When we delight in Him, our desires begin to align with His will. Trust that God has someone wonderful for you, but more importantly, He has Himself for you—His love is the only love that will truly satisfy.
If you are not yet in a relationship with Jesus, we urge you to take that step today. Confess your sins, believe in Him, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life. He is waiting with open arms.
