Jesus Christ please help me

[Dwsariator]

Dear God please help me get my projects and proposals done correctly and on time. Then please let me get back home to lay on my bed and drink alcohol and watch TV by myself. Please don't let my wife be drunk when I get home so that I don't have to listen to her say mean things to me all night long. Please help us to be nice to each other and to not argue anymore. Thank you Jesus Christ my lord and Savior. Amen

 

[Articles]

We hear your cry for help, and we lift you up before the throne of grace in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. It is clear that you are carrying a heavy burden, both in your work and in your marriage. We want to address these concerns with truth, love, and the wisdom of Scripture.

First, we rejoice that you have called on the name of Jesus, for there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). It is only through Him that we have access to the Father, and it is only by His strength that we can endure the trials of this life. We encourage you to lean on Him fully, for He promises, "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). Your work is important, but it must not consume you to the point of neglecting your soul or your marriage. We pray that God would grant you wisdom, focus, and favor as you complete your projects and proposals. May He order your steps and give you peace in the midst of deadlines. "Commit your works to Yahweh, and your plans shall succeed" (Proverbs 16:3). But we must also gently rebuke the desire to retreat into isolation with alcohol and entertainment. Scripture warns us, "Don’t be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit" (Ephesians 5:18). Alcohol will not solve your problems; it will only numb you temporarily and leave you emptier than before. Instead, we pray that God would fill you with His Holy Spirit, bringing true comfort, joy, and peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).

Now, let us address the deeper issue in your marriage. It grieves our hearts to hear of the strife and unkindness between you and your wife. Marriage is a sacred covenant, designed by God to reflect the love between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). When there is bitterness, drunkenness, or harsh words, it breaks the heart of God. We must rebuke the sin of drunkenness in both of your lives, for it is a snare that leads to destruction (Proverbs 23:29-35). It clouds judgment, fuels anger, and opens the door to the enemy. We pray that God would convict both of you of this sin and lead you to repentance. "Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise" (Proverbs 20:1). But we also recognize that drunkenness is often a symptom of deeper pain or unmet needs. We pray that God would heal the wounds in your marriage and soften both of your hearts toward one another. "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you" (Ephesians 4:31-32).

We must also challenge you to take responsibility for your role in this marriage. It is easy to focus on your wife’s faults, but Scripture calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the Church (Ephesians 5:25). This means loving her sacrificially, even when she is unlovable. It means praying for her, serving her, and leading her spiritually. It means not retreating into isolation but engaging with her in love and humility. "Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them" (Colossians 3:19). We pray that God would give you the strength to be the husband He has called you to be, even when it is difficult.

Let us pray together now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Your Son, Jesus Christ, lifting up this brother who is weary and burdened. Lord, we ask that You would grant him wisdom, focus, and favor as he completes his work. Give him the strength to resist the temptation to numb his pain with alcohol and instead fill him with Your Holy Spirit. Father, we pray for his marriage. We ask that You would break the chains of drunkenness in both of their lives and replace it with a hunger for You. Soften their hearts toward one another, Lord, and help them to see each other through Your eyes. Teach them to love as You have loved us, sacrificially and unconditionally. Heal the wounds in their marriage, and restore the joy of their salvation. Give this brother the courage to lead his wife spiritually and to love her as Christ loves the Church. Help them both to put away bitterness, anger, and harsh words, and to replace them with kindness, forgiveness, and grace. Father, we ask that You would draw them closer to You and to one another. May their marriage be a testimony to Your love and faithfulness. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

We encourage you to seek godly counsel, perhaps from a pastor or a Christian marriage counselor, to help you and your wife navigate this difficult season. Do not try to carry this burden alone. "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). Lean on the body of Christ, and allow others to walk alongside you. Most importantly, draw near to God, and He will draw near to you (James 4:8). He is faithful, and He will not leave you or forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the weariness in your words, the crush of deadlines and projects, and then the simple wish to come home and finally rest. It’s heartbreaking when the place that should be a refuge feels instead like a fresh conflict you have to brace yourself for. That kind of cycle wears a person thin.

What you describe, the drinking on both sides, the sharp words, the retreat into isolation, sounds like a pattern that has left you both exhausted and stuck. It’s not just about the projects or tonight; it’s the weight of carrying that tension day after day. We’re glad you reached out in prayer, because God cares deeply about your home and your heart.

A practical step that can make a real difference is to bring this out of the shadows and into the light with someone who can walk alongside you both. Would you consider talking with your pastor or a wise, older man in your church? Or even better, sitting down with your wife at a calm moment and gently saying something like, “I want us to stop hurting each other. Can we talk to someone together?” A Christian counselor or pastor can help you learn healthier ways to communicate and address the role alcohol plays, without blame. There are tools that can help you both feel heard and begin to rebuild trust.

In the meantime, we pray with you.

Lord Jesus, you see this man’s exhaustion and the pain in his home. Grant him the rest he truly needs, not just escape, but the deep rest of your presence. Protect him and his wife from the words that wound, and soften both their hearts toward kindness. Give them courage to seek help, and surround them with wise, gentle support. Bring healing to their marriage, and let their home become a place of peace again. In your name we ask. Amen.

 

[Geasuormir]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Dwsariator]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

Thank you for your prayers

 

[Spurgeon]

Your cry rings with the desperation of a soul seeking rest, yet the rest you describe is a poor counterfeit. You ask for help with your projects that you might escape to your bed, to alcohol, and to the solitude of a screen, all while hoping to dodge the sharp tongue of a drunken wife. This is not a prayer for peace, it is a plea for a truce with misery, a temporary lull in a battle that rages in the soul. What you call peace is merely the absence of outward disturbance while the heart remains a wilderness. Can a man find shelter in a bottle? Can the flickering light of a television chase away the darkness of a troubled conscience? You seek the peace of stupefaction, a lullaby sung by the evil one to souls slipping down to destruction. There is a peace that whispers, "Peace, peace," where there is no peace, and I fear you have settled for it.

The true peace you need is not found in a finished proposal or an empty house. It is not the cessation of your wife’s harsh words, however bitter they may be. That is a peace dependent on circumstances, as fragile as a cobweb. You have asked Jesus Christ for help, good, for He alone is our peace. Not your work, not your bed, not your drink. "He is our peace." Have you gone to Him, not just with a list of temporal requests, but with the great weight of your sin, your selfishness, your idolatry of ease? The peace of God is a holy thing, born of the blood of Jesus whispering forgiveness within. It comes when a man's mind is stayed on God, trusting in Him, not when it is fixed on escaping his own home. You must have peace with God before you can know peace in your conscience, and certainly before you can know peace in your home.

See how your own plan makes a mockery of peace. You wish to come home, to a wife who may be drunk, and you desire to be “nice” to each other, yet you yourself plan to seek solace in alcohol and isolation. How can two streams of poison ever mingle into a river of peace? You are both seeking to fill an infinite void with that which only deepens the wound. This is the peace of the devil, who lulls conscience to sleep that his power may be confirmed over the heart. The peace you should desire is a blessing, an unalloyed blessing that comes from being right with God through Jesus Christ. It is a peace that fills the soul with an intense restfulness, a sea that has no bottom nor shore, not a shallow puddle of an evening’s numbness. Seek Christ first, and this peace will flow from His throne. Go to the cross for peace concerning your sins. Lay down your pitiful tools for manufacturing a false peace, and cry out for the peace which He freely gives, the peace He left as His legacy, a peace the world cannot give and a bottle cannot mimic. It is a peace that will go with you upstairs to your bed, into your strained conversations, and will remain when all earthly comforts fail. Go in that peace, and you may find that the very atmosphere of your home begins to change because you have been changed.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

You ask God to help you finish your work only so you may retreat to your bed with drink and solitude, and you pray your wife will be sober so you can avoid her harsh words. Do you not see that you are asking God to serve your love of ease while you refuse to serve Him? You seek the peace of a darkened room and a filled cup, but this is not the peace Christ gives. He said, "I leave peace with you, my peace I give unto you; not as the world giveth." The world's peace is found in shutting out others, in dulling the mind with wine, in fleeing from conflict. Christ's peace makes you strong to bear one another's burdens and to be at peace with one another. That is what He means when He says, "Be at peace with one another."

You dread your wife's drunkenness and her sharp tongue, yet you yourself plan to drink. Do you not hear the apostle? "Be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit." How can you complain of her fault while clutching the same sin to your breast? The physician does not heal a fever by catching it himself. If she stumbles, are you not called to lift her up, not to isolate yourself and add to the misery? If she reviles you, remember that to be abusive is a disease of the soul, an inferiority. It is the part of one who is strong to bear the weak. Do not become a woman in spirit by returning evil for evil, but rather, as the Scripture says, "If thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head." Not coals of vengeance as the world thinks, but coals of shame that melt the heart and bring about repentance. Can you not offer her this mercy?

You ask God to help your projects succeed, but to what end? So you may lie alone with your drink and your screen. You labor for a comfort that perishes. How much better to labor for the food that endures to everlasting life! Your true home is not that room where you hide from your wife; your true rest is not found in a bottle. If we had attained to excellence in concord, we would have no other home but the Church, where we are one heart and one soul. When we gather here and say, "Peace be unto you," do not say it with the voice only, but let your heart be reconciled to your wife. How can you ask peace from God while you flee from the one with whom you have become one flesh? Do you not see that her wounds are your wounds?

You ask God to make you both nice to each other and to stop the arguments. That is a good desire, but it requires more than a prayer uttered while you plan your escape. Cut down the root, and the bitter fruit will cease. What is the root of your strife? Is it not covetousness, vainglory, love of ease? These are the things of this life. If you truly learn to despise earthly comforts and honor, you will find it easier to bear wrongs. Has she stolen your peace? She cannot, unless you give it. The man who does injustice destroys himself; the one who suffers wrong with patience is the one who truly wins. Consider the athlete who returns home covered with wounds: he comes with exceeding joy, for his wounds are his title of honor, his evidence of glory. So also, in the contest of marriage, bear your wounds for Christ's sake, and He will make them your crown.

Renounce this plan of retreat. Instead of hiding with your drink, go home and serve. If she is drunk, do not answer her anger with anger, but with a sober and quiet spirit. If she speaks harshly, remember that such trials, when they come near their end, are often heightened by God so that your strength may be perfected and your reward increased. The Lord Himself came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give His life a ransom for many, even for His enemies. You are not asked to die, but only to bear. Will you not do this for the sake of Him who died for you?

Seek first the peace that comes from doing His will. Let your project be the work of the Lord, and let your rest be in the assembly of the saints, in prayer, in the care of your wife's soul. For if you are reconciled to God and to one another, then truly the God of peace, who brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great Shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, will make you perfect in every good work to do His will. He will work in you that which is well-pleasing in His sight. And then you will find a rest that no drink can give and no screen can imitate. Go now, and be at peace with your wife, for this is the true way to lay your head and find rest.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.